After the Love is Gone

blackcoffee · #1 04-06-2003, 10:37 PM

I don't post too often but I'm in a dilemma right now and I'm not sure what to do.

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years now, but I am unhappy. I find that I'm more angry than happy when I'm with him these days. I don't know if he's just gotten so comfortable or what, but he doesn't compliment me anymore, no thank you's for doing nice things like cooking dinner, washing his clothes...just nothing. When I try to talk to him about it, he just says he doesn't want to talk right now.

Things used to be so WONDERFUL with us - he was my night in shining armor. Now, he's just the friend I wish I never met. A part of me wants to work it out but another part of me wants to jet. I'm just really feeling down and depressed right now.

How do you deal when the love is gone/lost?

AKA2D '91 · #2 04-07-2003, 08:06 AM

I've been where you are. You may not be ready to do what I did, but I just said it was over. It was December 1, 2002, I had had enough. He wasn't expecting it at all, but it was something I had to do. I have yet to regret my decision.

Since that time, I've focused more on myself in more ways than one. I decided to "Let go and Let God...." I haven't been disappointed yet.

Good luck with whatever decision you choose.

Gina1201 · #3 04-07-2003, 09:27 AM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91
I've been where you are. You may not be ready to do what I did, but I just said it was over. It was December 1, 2002, I had had enough. He wasn't expecting it at all, but it was something I had to do. I have yet to regret my decision.

Since that time, I've focused more on myself in more ways than one. I decided to "Let go and Let God...." I haven't been disappointed yet.

Good luck with whatever decision you choose.

Thanks for posting that 2D. I am in a similar situation and hearing "Let go and Let God" is helping me more than you know.

CrimsonTide4 · #4 04-07-2003, 10:08 AM

YOUR HAPPINESS cannot be compromised.

My 2nd quote in my signature sums it up well. . .

Gyrl7 · #5 04-07-2003, 10:21 AM

I agree with all that has been said. You have to do what you feel is best for you. Do things that uplift you because once you rid yourself of him, you have to start building yourself back together. Above all pray to GOD for strength, for encouragement and wisdom.........ok, uhhh, I think I just had an India Arie moment, but I think you get my point.

lovele1978 · #6 04-07-2003, 10:56 AM

I've been in a similar situation before myself. Unfortunately it wasn't until after we had a child together that I realized that I deserved more than what he could or was willing to give me. I needed to be happy and I called it quits. He was shocked of course but he knew why. He tried to act right for a while, but of course it was just temporary.
All I can say is the only thing I regret is not doing it sooner.

blackcoffee · #7 04-07-2003, 02:16 PM

Thank you for all of your responses. I'm feeling a little better now. I'm going to pray that God guides me in which ever direction I need to go. It's hard, but I know I'm going to make it regardless.

Thanks again.