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Optimist Prime · #1 03-26-2003, 06:50 PM

I have a question. Say you like a girl, but are in a position of um...authority not really the right word, but sort of. A "higher" position than her. Is it okay to go after her. Would it make things weird at work?

shultzz · #2 03-26-2003, 06:54 PM

It's time you pulled the plug. Go after her.

SATX*APhi · #3 03-26-2003, 07:26 PM

All I have to say is never date anybody you work with.

lifesaver · #4 03-26-2003, 07:32 PM

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Originally posted by SATX*APhi
All I have to say is never date anybody you work with.

Ditto.

One of my favorite mottos:

"Never get your meat where you get your bread."

lol.

smiley21 · #5 03-26-2003, 11:18 PM

sometimes you get lucky. i dated my current guy while we worked together up to eight hours a day five days a week. we worked together for over a year. that was in addition to the large amount of time we spent together outside of work. overexposure? maybe. we just really enjoy each other.

Optimist Prime · #6 03-26-2003, 11:41 PM

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Originally posted by shultzz
It's time you pulled the plug. Go after her.

That's the most sound advise I've ever heard. Thank you.

FAB*SpiceySpice · #7 03-26-2003, 11:52 PM

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Originally posted by lifesaver
Ditto.

One of my favorite mottos:

"Never get your meat where you get your bread."

lol.

Haha sounds like something my dad says, though his is a little vulgar...he has always stressed to me and my bro "don't sh*t where you eat" For a long time I didn't get it but, yea, makes sense now.

I agree though, dating someone you work with never seems to be a good idea.

Peaches-n-Cream · #8 03-27-2003, 01:24 AM

I could make things weird at work if she doesn't like you or you broke up. My advice is to follow your heart wherever it takes you.

RUgreek · #9 03-27-2003, 02:37 AM

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Originally posted by lifesaver
Ditto.

One of my favorite mottos:

"Never get your meat where you get your bread."

lol.

I thought it was "never dip your pen in the company ink." Hmm, well whatever motto you use, that's one side of the situation.

Second side, more important, is this worth the trouble? Do you think it will work? If it backfires, does your current working relationship become too difficult for you two to handle?

If you want her, go get her, don't let anyone tell you what to do. If it doesn't work, at least you tried. Good luck!

Kevin · #10 03-27-2003, 03:49 AM

If you think it'll work out then go for it... if not then just be sure your friendship is alerady good enough that it won't make it weird.

DeltaSigStan · #11 03-27-2003, 03:57 AM

Hey, if you gotta sleep your way to the top, you gotta do what you gotta do man.

Anywa,s time for another glass of whiskey.

sugar and spice · #12 03-27-2003, 03:58 AM

If you think you can both be adults about it after you break up, and not let it affect the work situation, then go for it. I don't think there's any reason to avoid workplace relationships if you can both handle the ramifications professionally.

DeltAlum · #13 03-27-2003, 06:45 PM

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Originally posted by Hootie
Furthermore, be VERY careful how you go about persuing a relationship or asking someone out as it could be seen as harassment...

This is particularly true if she is in your direct "chain of command," so to speak.

There is additional exposure to you if/when you break up. If it's acrimonious, she could claim harassment and make it very uncomfortable for you.

I know of a number of office romances that have worked out very well, but they do come with much more than usual baggage to deal with.

SATX*APhi · #14 03-29-2003, 02:00 AM

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Originally posted by lifesaver
Ditto.

One of my favorite mottos:

"Never get your meat where you get your bread."

lol.

LOL, I love that!

DZHBrown · #15 03-29-2003, 02:55 AM

I wouldn't do it. It complicates things. If she's not into you, then it could be sexual harrassment. If she is into you, it causes work pressure and gossip starts. If you hook up and break up, there's a lot of tension!