My etiquette lesson du jour

swissmiss04 · #1 03-25-2003, 11:58 AM

My etiquette tip for 3/25/03:
If you are at someone else's house, refrain from viewing pornographic materials on their computer without their prior consent and/or knowledge, especially if you are married to one of her friends.

Yeah this actually happened. And I'm pissed.

That's all. Thanks for letting me vent.

Kevlar281 · #2 03-25-2003, 12:04 PM

and never divorce the salt and pepper shakers!!!

Did he forget to clear the history or something or did you just walk in on him?

swissmiss04 · #3 03-25-2003, 12:06 PM

lol...thanks for the tip

no he didn't bother to clear the history. dumbass...growl.

Peaches-n-Cream · #4 03-25-2003, 01:05 PM

EEEWWW! That's just wrong and gross!

I think that you should say something to him about it.

Dianne · #5 03-25-2003, 02:48 PM

another etiquette lesson....

when you are walking down the street with someone or are at a restaurant with someone and your cell phone rings, don't answer it and proceed to have a 10-15 minute conversation! (I mean, it's one thing to answer and say, "I'm at lunch with so-and-so. Let me call you back.") Because if when I go to lunch with someone, I would like to enjoy conversation with them. I do not want to listen to their end of a conversation with someone else!

Optimist Prime · #6 03-25-2003, 03:24 PM

That's gross....but just for future reference, how would I clear the history?

xok85xo · #7 03-25-2003, 04:30 PM

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Originally posted by Kevlar281
and never divorce the salt and pepper shakers!!!

lol one of our housemothers told us that..people look at me crazy when i tell them they can't separate the salt & pepper shakers cuz they're married

they don't understand that i don't care if they don't want the pepper and just the salt..they have to get both

AlphaSigOU · #8 03-25-2003, 04:52 PM

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Originally posted by Optimist Prime
That's gross....but just for future reference, how would I clear the history?

If you're using Micro$haft Internet Exploiter, go to 'Tools' then select 'Internet Options'. On the window that pops up, in the 'General' tab, there is a section that allow you to clear the history cache and how long you can set the history cache before it's purged.

Yes, it's gross... I had it happen to my mother when she let the son of a close family friend stay at our apartment (this is when I was living in Oklahoma and before I moved back to Texas). Sure enough, it didn't take long for him to jump on the porn sites, including some of very questionable taste. What was worse was some of these sites were notorious for hijacking browser settings and the viruses and phone dialer sh*t they left on the system was even worse. After he moved out, it took me a while to clean the computer out of all that junk.

lifesaver · #9 03-25-2003, 05:23 PM

Also, on the right click of the IE icon, pull down to properties, click clear history, and temporary internet files.. delete files AND cookies. Its a good idea to do this on a regiular basis anyway. Of course, if your on a server (like in an office) , it doesnt matter. They can track where you went into eternity.

swissmiss04 · #10 03-25-2003, 05:45 PM

Cream-
Good idea about confronting, but how?? I don't want to dip to his level of rudeness and poor taste, but at the same time, I'd sort of like for him to know that he's been caught. If anyone has some good ways to handle this, lemme know!!

Jaggergirl · #11 03-25-2003, 06:41 PM

ugh. That is just nasty. And tacky! Were you not home or something? Ew.

I'd be as direct and simple about it as possible. Talk to him alone (away from your friend/his wife) and basically say "I know you did it. I think it was rude an inappropriate and I don't appreciate it. Please don't do it again." Not emotions or hysterics. And no threats to tell his wife.

I'm assuming, of course, that these weren't super questionable sites that would require the autorities being alerted.

Peaches-n-Cream · #12 03-25-2003, 07:19 PM

One day when my friend was at work, the authorities showed up and arrested her co-worker for downloading child porn.

There are real consequences to that type of behavior.

Just talk to that man and tell him that you know about the porn and that he can never do that again at your home like what Jaggergirl wrote. Maybe you should change the password to your computer so no one else can log on without your permission.

swissmiss04 · #13 03-25-2003, 08:37 PM

That's why I was concerned. I didn't scan thru the site so I don't know for sure what's on it. But def. in poor taste, even for porn. He was at home w/ my fiance (who was having some of the guys over while I was away) and was like "heh heh check this out." What really sucks is that this wasn't his only display of crude behavior that night. He was inappropriately touching some girls at some club that definitely didn't want to be touched. And they, well, let him know it. His wife (a *former* friend of mine, to be exact) thinks he's some "stupid foreigner" (he's Romanian) who just doesn't have a clue and would never do anything bad to her. While I don't think I need to get involved there, I do feel like I need to make the point to him that what he did was way out of bounds. My fiance and his other friend that was there w/ him have already said they have no intention of ever hanging w/ him again because of his rudeness and inconsideration. So should I email him or try to confront him in person? I honestly don't feel comfy being "alone" w/ him cause he's a skeezeball. And his wife is always around, and she would blab about it anyhoo (hence her being a former friend). Eeeek complicated. Thanks guys

Cluey · #14 03-25-2003, 09:37 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by xok85xo
lol one of our housemothers told us that..people look at me crazy when i tell them they can't separate the salt & pepper shakers cuz they're married they don't understand that i don't care if they don't want the pepper and just the salt..they have to get both

I am so glad to know that I am not the only one who does this. Most of my friends get it because we all learned it in college, but some people don't and begin to think I am being strange.

Rio_Kohitsuji · #15 03-25-2003, 10:53 PM

Ya know swissmiss04, I'd think twice before using your mouse or your keyboard again...