i hate boys

[AGDsexysmoker]

i hate boys.. and was wondering if anyone else was feeling the same way.. i am so frustrated now w/ ex-boyfriends and boys in general.. i want to scream! any ideas on how to get my mind off them? (there is a whole story behind the ex-boyfriend.. if anyone wants to know, just ask... )

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it's hard being a princess...AGD

[LeslieAGD]

I just try to remind myself that although boys have cooties and are inferior to us, they are a necessary evil.

AGDsexy, we should trade stories sometime, I have a long "dumb boy" story...kinda like "When Harry Met Sally." Maybe that's why I like that movie so much?

[AGDsexysmoker]

anytime, leslie! i am always up for a story swap... maybe we'll just change the subject of this thread to "dumb boy stories".. that way we can all help each other....

i guess i'll go first... last summer, after my freshman year, i decided to move from pittsburgh, PA where i was living w/ my dad (who i hate) to lancaster, PA to live with my mom. i got a job at a video rental store there, and after one of my first days, i get a phone call from one of the boys that worked there... he made up some story about how he needed someone to work for him that sunday... then casually went into how he had looked at my application and saw we both went to IUP.. the whole greek thing came up too (he being a theta chi, and i an AGD).. and we ended up talking for a while (after we started dating, i found out that he never needed me to work for him, but saw a copy of my license picture and thought i was hot.. that is why he called!).
well, we worked together for the first time a few nights later. he asked me if i wanted to go to his friend's house after work to hang out. i agreed. we ended up making out that night and i felt awful b/c i still wasn't over my ex from home... but he started to grow on me and before i knew it, we were "official"... we had a great 9 months together.. i became close w/ all of his friends... but it had to end sometime, right ? we still work together this summer, and it's hard, b/c i love him so much...
but, to make everyone smile, here are a few of my favorite memories about him/us...
*before me, he had only had one girlfriend (his senior year in highschool!) and they only dated for 3 months. he was a junior when we started dating... i must have meant a lot to him for him to finally committ!
*the first time he told me he loved me was a few days after MY birthday at his best friend's 21st birthday. we were in the garage alone talking, and he leaned down and whispered he loved me in my ear. it meant so much i actually told him i loved him a few months earlier. he wasn't ready to say it, and didn't want to say it and not mean it.
*i got to spend christmas eve at his house and open presents w/ his family christmas morning (my mom had to work christmas day anyway and wouldn't be home). one of the things he got me was a mixed tape of love songs he made, which i had mentioned to him that i had always wanted months before! all my favorite long songs were on it, and a few that meant a lot to him too.. his name is jesse, so of course "Jesse's Girl" was on it, which was kind of our song... *sigh*
*one time in february, when i was really sick, he brought me a bag of my favorite foods... my fav soups, fruit, and CHEESE (my fav!)... he said, "now don't eat all the chesse first)....

i sure will miss him. things b/w us are not well now. he thinks i act like we are still together... but i SO wish we were.

sorry this is long girls, but i knew my true-blue AGD sisters will listen.
i olve you girls! make me feel better

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it's hard being a princess...AGD

[LeslieAGD]

Okay, let me attempt to condense three years in one post ...

I met my (now) best guy friend like three weeks into my freshman year. A girl I used to be friends with, who had a thing for him, introduced us. I few months later, I started to kinda crush on him. I never said anything because he was always dating one girl or another but all our guy friends started picking up on it. By sophomore year (when I joined AGD), I had a huge thing for him and we were very flirty...always play fighting and giving each other massages and stuff. Everyone could tell I had a thing for him but he was clueless.

Then that December I got up the nerve to kiss him and he just stared at me and I kinda tucked my head under his chin because I didn't know what to say. I stayed at his place that night and the next morning he was acting like nothing happened. I couldn't tell if that was a good/bad thing. Two days later he asks me over to talk and he asks me (and this is was his quote) "what the heck was that about?" So I say something like: nevermind, it was stupid...and he goes into this whole speech about how he doesn't want to screw up our friendship, but then he tells me that he had though about us hooking up the year before but he never said anything!!! Come to find out from one of his good friends, one of my sisters had told him how I felt.

So, after a couple of months I got over him and I went a whole year without wanting more than a friendship with him, which brings me to about a month ago. I take my friend (AGD from another chapter) up to school for a party at one of my sister's house. We stop at this guy's frat house first (she's met him, but very briefly). When we leave his place, she looks at me and asks what is going on between me and this guy. I told her the whole story and she decides that we are meant for each other and we have to be together. I told her it wasn't like that between us, but she teases me about him frequently and now I've started thinking about him more than I should.

What is that about? Do you think it's just a nostalgia thing?

PS ~ Katey, if you read this and know who I am talking about, please keep it to yourself thank you!

[AGDsexysmoker]

leslie-how much do you guys talk now? often (like, daily)...? i actually am pretty good at the advice thing w/ other people, just not myself... i should follow my own though... ugh.
thinking about him can't be a bad thing. i often think about boys from the past. it's just whether or not you could see yourself w/ him now. think about where your relationship stands and how happy you are w/ it's position. do you want it to grow into something more? or are you too now at a point where you could only see yourself being friends? something i do in a situation like this is actually picture myself alone and on a date w/ them, and being able to be intimate w/ them. if the thought of that doesn't gross me out, then it's a possibility.
maybe your feelings for him really never left, but only took a back seat in your mind!

agd love, tatianna

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it's hard being a princess...AGD

[LeslieAGD]

Tatianna ~ Well, it's actually even more complicated than that...He's been seeing this girl on and off for a year and a half now and she and I are Rho Chis together! For the most part she and I are friendly but sometimes she gets very jealous. One minute he will tell me he's sick of her/it's over and stuff and then the next week he will talk about lavaliering her (which I think he's really not too serious about).

[ees125]

I totally agree with AGD sexysmoker about getting nostalgic. I often think about past guys and how things might have ended up...that whole made cycle of thinking what if. Not to put a damper on this for you guys, but almost two years after graduation and I am STILL have dumb boy problems.

[LeslieAGD]

Yeah, I don't think boy problems ever go away!

[Katey Alpha Gam]

Leslie-
Don't worry about me saying anything. Trust me, the same basic thing is going on with my best friend and I so I know how it feels. I think in this situation that he isn't ready to be an adult and have a big boy relationship, and I think that if he isn't ready for that, then don't mess with it b/c to get into a relationship with a best friend, I think you need to be ready to settle down if things get serious, b/c if you break up, he's gone as a friend too prolly. But, if you bide your time and wait for him to grow up a little bit more, get some stuff out of his system and be a little more stable for that type of situation, then things will be much better on your relationship, friend or otherwise. I think to you also need to really think for 100% on what you want from him and your relationship and what you want from him regarding that. That's just my 2 cents from what I know about him and your relationship and from what I am EXACTLY experiencing with my best friend, Ryan (I think you've met him). Call me WHENEVER you want if you just want to talk about this or trash boys or whatever! I know I go nuts sometimes b/c I can't talk to my best friend about this one!!!

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Katey, ZA chapter of AGD
"Could I have been anyone other than me?"-Dave Matthews

[The1calledTKE]

On behalf of all the men in the world I apologize for all the mistake and wrong we have done to you ladies. Girls do a lot less wrongs (seriously.. i am not joking or being sarcastic). My alphagam is the best! I love her very much


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