Hazing

[ilovemyglo]

Okay, I have a really serious question. I know a member of another chapter of AGD and she admitted to me that they Haze at their school. She told me that only some sisters haze and the ones that are hazed are the only ones allowed to haze later on. A few of the things she told me they have done in the past are:
Taking new members out and leaving them stranded in the middle of no where without a cell phone or any way to contact anyone
Making new members do things for fraternities (like cleaning their house or washing their cars in bathing suits)
Making new members say things and do things to "show respect" to actives (like bowing their heads when referring to their sister mothers or asking permission to go to the bathroom).

I couldn't believe what she was telling me!! I mean this was someone that I had been in contact with about receiving some info and she admitted all this to me as though it was nothing. She said that this wasn't for every new member, and that other chapters on her campus hazed REALLY bad (like circling the fat on girls or making them wear nothing or just a slip to certain ceremonies and making them drink because she said they never involve alcohol). Anyways, what should I do? I told her that I would hate to lose their chapter over something as stupid as making a new member ask to go to the bathroom and that her chapter shouldn't do these things because they risk that every time.

That is issue number 1.
Issue number 2. We had a member decide to turn in her badge (her friends from home hated that she was in a sorority and she said that she didn't have time for it anymore). When we did what internationals told us we have to do (let them know when EC is discussing this and give her an opportunity to speak) she called our Greek Advisor and told him we were hazing her. That is a very serious accusation. Nothing was done or said but really I am afraid that she is telling other people this. So how do we prevent this in the future? Have any of you delt with this before? When members leave how to you ensure a healthy relationship with them, and if it isn't possible what do your members do about the situation?
Thanks for listening to my ramblings. I really wondered what you all would do!
Love and Loyalty,
Sarah

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