What would you do?

Innocence22 · #1 03-11-2003, 07:02 PM

thanks....Innocence22

jll79 · #2 03-11-2003, 11:03 PM

I know what it's like to give up that precious part of you to the wrong person, but as I grew up, I learned that my health, my mind, and my peace of being is the most important thing I could ever own. AND NO ONE IS GOING TO TAKE THAT AWAY FROM YOU UNLESS YOU LET SOMEONE TAKE IT!!!! This guy has issues of his own and I feel he is trying to prove something to his frat....and that is probablly you. Don't let it!! If you give in to all his madness, then he has won. He says that he loves you and that 'do-hickey crap'(excuse the language), but anyone can say those words. It is all about meaning those words. How is he going to love someone when it is obvious he doesn't love himself.
Don't fall in to the games because it will mess you up and I hate to see women get themselves into that mess. God can show you the light, but it is up to you to follow.
As a woman, I care about you. Yes we don't know each other but I do care and I hope you make that right decision.
God Bless

D.COM · #3 03-12-2003, 11:46 AM

I KNOW it's VERY HARD to let him go...I've been in a similar position before, BUT you NEED to be STRONG and do what you KNOW is BEST FOR YOU!

We can all give you advice on what you SHOULD or SHOULD NOT do, but it all comes down to this: IT'S UP TO YOU TO TAKE ACTION BECAUSE YOU ARE THE ONE IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

(I know you know what the right decision is, it's just because it's hard that you do not let go....be strong and do what's BEST for YOU).

carolyne · #4 03-15-2003, 01:33 AM

If I were you, I would get a restraining order against him. He seems to be possessive, obsessive, abusive, and unwilling to listem to what you have to say. So let him listen to the courts. I know someone who went through something similar and she finally had to get a RO against him. I would also suggest changing phone numbers if you can. I know that he was your first, but you have to let that go and do what's best for you.