More Inlaw Drama: HELP!

[KillarneyRose]

My inlaws just bought a beach house and have said they're so excited to have us and our daughters to visit this summer. I'm not at all sure its a good idea.

Sounds like a no brainer right? Free lodging right on the beach. But my inlaws (more like my father in law mostly) are utter and total control freaks who demand tidiness and order at all times. I am serious when I say I think my father in law has an obsessive-compulsive disorder. This man makes people use coasters on his picnic table and calls people out if they take a piece of bread "out of order". We stayed overnight at their house once when they weren't there because we wanted to break up a long car trip we were taking with our (then) infant daughter. Afterward, my husband was told we would no longer be permitted to stay there when they weren't home because my husband had neglected to put down the toilet lid ! (you all think I'm kidding, don't you. I'm not kidding!) I was riding with them in their car when my oldest was about 2 months old and I wanted to give her a bottle because she was hungry. He demanded that I wait until we could pull off to a rest area (ended up being 20 minutes that my daughter cried for her bottle) because he was worried I'd somehow get formula on the car interior!!! (I didn't I have the balls to pull out the bottle anyway, you ask? Excellent question! All I can say is I was young and much meeker than I am now - believe me)

See what I mean by OCD? I'm no psychiatrist, but he seems like a classic case to me.

Anyhoo, can you imagine spending the weekend at this person's beach house? All that sand? Water? Wet bathing suits? I'd go crazy chasing around my kids trying to keep them in line. Unless he sets up a decontamination tent on the deck, it is going to be tough to keep this house pristine and, frankly, I do not need or want the stress of staying under his roof under these conditions.

Should I suck it up for a weekend and go?
If I don't go, should I just come out and tell them it's because of the stick he has up his you know what?

HELP!