Quick question . . .

KSig RC · #1 10-07-2001, 04:31 AM

Just wondering how you guys all take care of 'stalker'-type people - you know, the 'friends of friends' that try to dance with you all the time, make inappropriate comments, grab your junk, generally just make life uncomfortable?

I mean, you tell them and tell them you're not into dudes . . . j/k, seriously though, anyone seen that sorta crap? What the heck do you do to make someone know you're not into them, or just make them go the hell away?

(BTW - i have a couple hundred posts, and this is maybe the second thread i've ever started . . . messed up huh)

Lil_G · #2 10-07-2001, 04:36 AM

what do you mean by stalker types?
does that include:
a - trying to meet ppl via email even if more than 500 miles away? Even after just one initial email.
b - messaging ppl so often on the internet that they have to go on invisible to ignore you.
c - have a restraining order placed against you?

Lil_G · #3 10-07-2001, 04:38 AM

Hey damasa, didn't you have a recurring stalker problem that you had to deal with?
Let's hear the problem resolution dude.

damasa · #4 10-07-2001, 10:58 AM

why yes...
you can do it in a few ways..first tell the person nicely that you want nothing to do with them, but that you still might want to be friends and nothing more. If this doesn't work, go for the mean approach, i.e. "look, I don't like you, I don't want you, please leave me the hell alone."

If that still doesn't work, it's time to just ignore and avoid, that is usually the best solution in the worst case.

d

Tom Earp · #5 10-07-2001, 11:45 AM

Stalking is a very serious situation!!!!!

Whether it be he on she or she on he!!!

Bust their chops, call the police and file a report! It is a federal Offense anymore!

K Sig are you that cute?

Dang Dude i thought you were alright except for the inexpensive beer on you wagon!!!

Hope the other thing works out, have not heard from Dean as of yet!!!!!!!!

KSig RC · #6 10-07-2001, 01:29 PM

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Originally posted by Tom Earp

K Sig are you that cute?
(trimmed . . .)
Hope the other thing works out, have not heard from Dean as of yet!!!!!!!!

1.) Yes.

2.) Can you re-send the PM about that? I only got part, the rest got snipped as part of the re-quote. Thanks dude -

SigmaChiCard · #7 10-08-2001, 07:55 AM

that's really funny that you mentioned grab your junk.
I recently saw a girl I met for the first time freshman year when she was a little drunk and walked up to me saying 'hey cory <grabs 'my junk'> what are you doing tonight' then proceeds to tell me that even though I don't know who she is, it's okay, because she knows who I am.
She isn't a stalker or anything, but lord I've had many very real stalkers in my life, but this was just a funny story. and to help prove how small the world is, she switched schools because of a different program, then be-best-friended my best friends sister...craziness.

Lil_G · #8 10-08-2001, 10:57 AM

whoa....this brings up a good point though, the double standard of sexual harrassment....chicks get away with all kinds of shit that we couldn't. While on my way to the bank machine last night I had some chicks in a car honk there horn and wave when i walked by...i gave them a nice glare (hey it's down to freezing and i was only wearing a v-neck with shirt underneath)...maybe they were attracted to my ever impressive chest that extended out from the cold temperatures.....but either way, i felt violated...

Dejajeva · #9 10-08-2001, 12:05 PM

Are you guys telling me you don't enjoy attention- sexual attention none the less- from females???

Dood, ROb, this chick horribly ugly or something?

Ps- This might piss off my entire gender, but in all honesty. I think girls go a little overboard with the sexual harrasment thing. I think sometimes it's just a cry for attention.
I mean, I'm a very touchy feely person, so It doesn't bother me when a guy...say, touches my arm. I don't consider it sexual harrassment, that's for sure...and to say that a guy touching your arm is sexual harrassment is silly. And omg there's this studly guy in computer lab with me
lol

Point of Clarification: Sexual harrassment is a very serious issue. ANY touch that makes you feel uncomfortable to a large extent should be dealt with.
(this doesn't mean sue them.)

Jessica
xoxo

KSig RC · #10 03-02-2003, 11:55 PM

the best part about this thread?

it was started as a joke . . . i'm sure the old-timers around here can identify the situation, and what we were pointing out

sororitygirl2 · #11 03-02-2003, 11:56 PM

Hootie,

I know it's not okay to blame the victim, and I am not trying to make you feel bad, but I think it was probably not a good idea to tell him about your store change and to call him to come in after he had already overstepped the professional business line (by giving you the mall gift certificate).

I think that he is probably a somewhat lonely old man, and the fact that you gave him a little attention made him think that you are interested and that is why he is doing all these things.

I don't know what you have said, but it sounds to me like you are avoiding the situation at hand by telling him you have plans, or have a boyfriend each time he asks you out. And telling him that you will maybe do lunch will just encourage him to keep asking.

You need to be very clear about your intentions and let this guy know that you are not interested. Be very careful and if he does anything else creepy, contact mall security or the police immediately.

Also, who is he buying all this jewelry for if he is asking you out? Doesn't he already have a wife or girlfriend.

Anyway, good luck... I hope you get this all resolved quicly.

damasa · #12 03-03-2003, 12:16 AM

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Originally posted by Hootie
HA HA HA...whatever. It was the only thread that came up when I did a search about "stalkers".

A classic!

Does that consider us old school gc? Damn.....

KSig RC · #13 03-03-2003, 01:30 AM

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Originally posted by Hootie
HA HA HA...whatever. It was the only thread that came up when I did a search about "stalkers".

hey i'm not trying to de-value your experience or anything here, killer - easy on the sarcasm tag. I thought it was interesting background information . . . good job on the search though, I'm proud

Thrillhouse · #14 03-03-2003, 10:27 AM

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Originally posted by KSig RC
hey i'm not trying to de-value your experience or anything here, killer - easy on the sarcasm tag. I thought it was interesting background information . . . good job on the search though, I'm proud

exactly. The good stuff got deleted long ago. So Rob, does hockey fit in well in Florida?

KSig RC · #15 03-03-2003, 11:19 AM

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Originally posted by Thrillhouse
exactly. The good stuff got deleted long ago. So Rob, does hockey fit in well in Florida?

well, most likely one team or the other could survive, if they could figure out an organizational philosophy and then actively market the game - people came out to the stanley cup finals in miami, remember.

as it stands, watching valeri bure bitch and moan his way to 60 points doesn't do much for me - if i had 70 and sunny all year around i might just find something else to do, too. The 'Bolts are intriguing, but TB has the worst jerseys in the history of organized sports w/ the "electro-fied" sweaters, so i say get rid of the franchise (and send my boys in vancouver a Kubina while we're at it).

It's the same thing as baseball in Montreal - why is it all the sudden 'impossible' now? It's not - it's just that the teams have no focus, very little talent, and zero presence in the city.