The Greek Legacy

faythensigma · #1 05-20-2000, 01:14 PM

Everyone that joins a Greek Letter Organization would loved to see a family member choose their organization to continue the legacy. What are your opinions on this matter, and what has been your experience as well?

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Ghostface-Killah · #2 05-20-2000, 08:18 PM

It is funny because a friend and I spoke about this as we were having lunch today. He is a Nupe and for some people it is very important to keep the family tradition of joining the same org. I said that as long as my children PLEDGE one of the great eight (PLEASE, NO DISRESPECT TO ANYONE, IT IS JUST MY WISH) I would ba happy. If they want to do something else, then I will be as supportive as I can. Maybe what made me want to join my org. they will see in another one. My friend said that his son better be a Nupe but, he then added that he plans on being so a good role model and make sure his children are around positive Nupes, so that hiw son grows up wanting to become a part of it. My niece does my sign and call- I cannot wait for her to goto high school and invite her, NOT FORCE HER to become a Rhoer. After that, it is her choice.

gypsy · #3 05-20-2000, 09:31 PM

Ghostface,
Just a question to pick with you a little (just outta fun). BUT.....what if your child joins the one that you don't recognize?

awatters · #4 05-20-2000, 10:21 PM

I would be honored if my brother joined my fraternity... too bad there's no chapter at his future school! My Grandfather was in Triangle and my Uncle in Beta, but other than that no men in my family are members of GLOs. My Mom is in ADPi though.

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kmullini · #5 05-20-2000, 11:37 PM

My Grandfather on my Dads side told me once he was a phi sigma kappa or that he was in a fraternity that changed to phi sigma kappa. His college was in Mizzouri. Mizzou, I think. My Uncle on my Mom's side is a Phi Delt from U of Maryland and his wife is a Delta Zeta from U of Maryland. One of their sons, One of my cousines rushed a fraternity at UVA this spring but I'm not totally sure. He did mention it at our holiday get together. I have one younger brother who graduated from VCU. never went Greek. I understand because its not for everyone. My sister-in-law was with Alpha Gamma Delta I think at VCU but then she went inactive and graduated. Not sure if shes considered a member or not. If I had a son or daughter. I would love it if they did rush a greek organization. I think its a great experience. It would be even better if I had a son who rushed Beta, but then I would support him no matter what he decided to do.

Kevin Mullinix
Beta Theta Pi Alum
Epsilon Mu Chapter
George Mason University

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Ghostface-Killah · #6 05-21-2000, 01:12 PM

Gypsy: I never said I don't recognize a particular org. As I said If my child wants to be part or XYZ org., I would be supportive, but I would prefer for him/her to pick one of the Great Eight-
Maybe what I saw in my org. she will see in another one.
Hope I answer your ?

theXgirl · #7 05-21-2000, 01:34 PM

Most of the women in my family are DST with a few AKA's. The men are Q's and a couple of Kappas. If I have kids I would prefer that they choose: boy--APhiA or KAPsi and for the girl--DST or AKA. None of my immediate family members are greek (mom, dad, bro, sis) but lots of cousins, aunts, uncles and so forth.

SilverTurtle · #8 05-21-2000, 03:04 PM

My sister just pledged in the fall of '99. Phi Beta (my GLO) doesn't have a chapter on her campus, and as an arts-centered fraternity I don't think it was exactly what she would have joined anyways.

I would have loved to have her join my GLO, but was just as happy to see her join one that she is happy with. When she was rushing + then pledging (I'm not sure what they call their intake process now) I did find myself studying up on her GLO quite a bit, and I think she made a good decision going greek.

To my knowledge, we are the only members of GLO's on either side of our family. And sure, I would love for other members (future or current) to join my GLO, or any GLO. But if they didn't I would be okay with that, too.

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gypsy · #9 05-21-2000, 04:21 PM

Thanx Ghostface!!
But you have brought up a good topic. It's good that you are giving your child the free will to do what she wants (I think you said she), but what about those who push their children to do certain things.

tickledpink · #10 05-21-2000, 06:00 PM

I agree with GFK. I have a daughter that I would love to be a part of my organization when she goes to college. Hopefully she will learn from me and her "aunts".

As far as those that "push" their children, I think that all greek parents try to persuade their children to one day become a part of their organization. But personally speaking, I will respect my child's wishes in whatever organization she chooses and support her. I would want her to someday be my soror because it is something that is in her heart rather than something she feels I forced her to do.

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#11 05-21-2000, 07:17 PM

I myself would only choose for my daughter to pledge one of the African-American sororities
that exist in today.I myself hope to one day pledge with the ladies of pink&green but my very best friend plans on pledging DST and she of course wants her to pledge that but I say what ever makes her happy

SoCalGirl · #12 05-21-2000, 07:58 PM

Well no one so far seems to share my view...I'd rather any of my legacies not join my org.

Here's my reasons:
Hopefully I'll be close enough to them that I don't feel like I NEED to be her "sister" to be connected and close.

I kind of like the fact that my sorority offers me a SEPERATE family from my real one.

I want them to experience thier own ritual and sisterhood.

If they ever deactivate or are expelled I couldn't help but take it a little personally that they'd be rejecting or are rejected from my org. Even though I'd have sense enough to know better.

Plus I'd hate for them to feel like they only got accepted because they were a leg. I have sisters that never mentioned that they were legacies of various glos because they didn't want that to happen.

Of course if they did join my glo that would be okay. I would just not try to push it at all.

Ghostface-Killah · #13 05-21-2000, 08:25 PM

Socalgirl: I don't think anyone mentioned that they want their siblings to join their respective org. in order to feel closer to them- If anyone sees a GLO as a mean to close the gap with their kid, then that is very sad. I do not think anyone of us would NEED our kids to join our org. for that reason.

Salience · #14 05-21-2000, 10:43 PM

GFK: you said Great Eight, not Divine Nine.

Why? Just curious and confused...

Sal

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Sweet Deliverance · #15 05-21-2000, 11:04 PM

As a member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. and being the woman I am, I would hope that any daughters and sons born to me will become ZETAS and SIGMAS respectively. I am just that biased. Especially if they're asking ME for new member fees. My money is ROYAL BLUE AND WHITE. If they secure their own funds, they can decide otherwise.

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