Changing Pledgeship

est · #1 02-05-2003, 10:22 PM

If someone depledged a fraternity and then pledged yours in the same semester, how would you treat them? Positively? Negatively?

hoosier · #2 02-05-2003, 10:24 PM

They've made a great choice (pledging your fraternity), and probably made a mistake earlier (pledging some other weeney group.)

Why would that be considered negative by you?

est · #3 02-05-2003, 10:30 PM

I'm not considering it negative. I'm experiencing it.

here's the story:
I pledged one fraternity, knew instantly that I had made a mistake and changed. After an important event, two "brothers" called me into their room and pulled out a black ball and proceeded to talk about throwing it at me. I was disgusted and talked to the executive council about it. They said it was all because I had pledged another fraternity before.

Even though my class has been initiated I still get reports from my friends in the house that there are people still talking about the switch I made. Why can't they get over it?

33girl · #4 02-05-2003, 11:27 PM

I don't know why est, but I thought you were a girl. Sorry! At any rate, this could not happen with NPC groups (you have to wait a year), but if someone did it when the time was up, I wouldn't think about it once they were pledging.

It doesn't make sense...if the second fraternity thought it was such a bad thing that you would switch, why did they give you a bid in the first place?

josh8o · #5 02-06-2003, 11:24 PM

hey buddy
i depledged a house because i realized i made a mistake, and i wanted to be in another house. my house was totaly cool with it, and actually happy that i quit the other house. the only negative things i feel were from the first house i pledged (the one i quit). about your situation, a few guys may just be playing mind games with you. talk to them and let them know why you quit the other house. tell them if they are unsure if they want you in their house then you will leave--who wants to put time into something where no one wants you?

JerzeeBoy26 · #6 02-07-2003, 02:10 AM

we have deferred rush here so you get to know all prospective members over the coures of 4 months. that said, we only take a kid who depledged another house if we had never rushed that kid before. If we rush a guy for a long time (months) and he then chooses another house over us, hes done as far as beta goes. we would rescind his bid.

xok85xo · #7 02-07-2003, 01:33 PM

maybe i just don't understand, but..i could see the fraternity you inititally pledged then dropped having negative feelings towards you, but for what justifable reason would the fraternity that after obvious careful consideration, you pledged, and got initiated into the brotherhood that you felt was right for you..hold any form of animosity? i would think that if anything they should have more respect/admiration in acknowleding that the first fraternity was a mistake, and that you knew that THEIR organization was the one that was right for you..it just doesn't make sense..

PSK480 · #8 02-07-2003, 01:45 PM

we're having this debate on my campus as we speak. We are question whether there is a time limit on depledging and pledging somewhere else. This is happening to my chapter, we extended a bid to a guy, he depledged, b/c he didn't get a second bid. Now he's looking around at other chapters. Now we told him that his bid is good for one year and we don't recind bids usually, unless we kick someone out of the process.