How do I support my man when he pledges?

[ILoveMyMan]

I love my man with all my heart and feel that he is my soulmate. He is pledging APhiA and is about to go online. I am not Greek and need to know what to expect this process to be like for us and our relationship. Already I am having a hard time with it (its hard not to get upset when we're cuddling together about to go to bed and he gets a call and has to leave), but i try to understand. However I need help in knowing what to do and how to feel when this happens, since from what I hear, it's about to get a lot worse. I love my man and will be there for him through this, but I also need him to be there for me through this. He said himself that he doesn't have any idea of what this is like for me, so he doesn't know how to help me. Any advice for both of us??

Thanks, and please don't hesitate to e-mail me at ILoveMyMan@greekchat.com

[This message has been edited by ILoveMyMan (edited February 28, 2001).]

[goldhottie06@aol.com]

DEAR ILOVEMYMAN,
FIRST, DON'T LISTEN TO RUMORS. EVERYBODY'S EXPERIENCE IS DIFFERENT! SECOND, BE EXTRA SUPPORTIVE.. HE'S GOING TO NEED IT RIGHT NOW. AS A ALPHA ANGEL(SWEETHEART) I KNOW FIRST HAND HOW THE "PROCESS" CAN AFFECT A RELATIONSHIP. BUT, YOU'VE GOT TO BE THE BIGGER PERSON AND BE THERE FOR YOUR MAN. BECAUSE WHEN ITS ALL OVER... IT WILL STILL BE YOU AND HIM. IF HE LOVES YOU (AND I KNOW HE DOES!!!) THEN YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. IF YOU NEED TO TALK THAN PLEASE FEEL FREE TO E-MAIL ME! I HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON!!

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by ILoveMyMan:
I love my man with all my heart and feel that he is my soulmate. He is pledging APhiA and is about to go online. I am not Greek and need to know what to expect this process to be like for us and our relationship. Already I am having a hard time with it (its hard not to get upset when we're cuddling together about to go to bed and he gets a call and has to leave), but i try to understand. However I need help in knowing what to do and how to feel when this happens, since from what I hear, it's about to get a lot worse. I love my man and will be there for him through this, but I also need him to be there for me through this. He said himself that he doesn't have any idea of what this is like for me, so he doesn't know how to help me. Any advice for both of us??

I think most bruhs will agree that WE ALL got yall's back! BOTH OF YOU can e-mail us when you have a problem, and the time to talk about it.

[mrfrench]

Have faith in the one you luv. He is attempting to become a member of one of the elite fraternities in this universe. I don't believe there's a moment that goes by that he doesn't use u as his encouragement. Be patient, encourage, support and most of all continue your love for him, as in the end and at the crossing over you would have played an important in his life by just showing him the support that he needs at this time. Keep the faith and believe and don't doubt what you have for each other because at the end, a potential Alphaman will be looking for his Nubian Queen!!!!!!!

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