Guy advice..Please help!!!

chioangel83 · #1 01-26-2003, 03:34 PM

Ok so I could use some help. This is kind of a long story so I will try to make it short. There is this guy I know that I met about a year ago that I have a crush on. When we first met we were both attracted to each other and ended up hooking up one night (No sex though!) and I took him to our formal. The timing was bad though because he had just ended a long term relationship and stuff like that so we never dated (but he knew that I liked him and I knew he thought I was hot, etc). So, unfortunately I still like him and I don't know what to do. We are friends now and see each other on a regular basis for Greek Life stuff. Sometimes I get a good vibe from him but other times I can't tell at all what he is thinking. For example, sometimes it seems kind of awkward and like neither of us knows what to say to each other and other times the conversation is fine. It might be because we made out once last year. I'm so confused. Should I just forget it? Just wondering people's opinions. Do you think it ever has a chance? Could I ever take him to another function etc? Should I let on again that I still like him? If there is potential I dont want to throw it away forever. Thanks!

damasa · #2 01-26-2003, 03:39 PM

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Originally posted by chioangel83
If there is potential I dont want to throw it away forever. Thanks!

If you don't want to throw it away forever you have to first find out if there is potential.

Meaning, if you like this boy and you are attracted to him, quit beating around the bush and let him know. Don't bottle your feelings up inside, tell him how you feel, what is on your mind and ask him how he feels. Remember - no regrets, if you don't say anything to this guy and there was potential, you let it slip away.

You know, take a chance, it's life and a short one at that. Life is all about chances and if you find out that nothing will come of it, at least you know as much and you still have a friendship.

James · #3 01-26-2003, 03:53 PM

What he said (damasa) lol . . . Also, I'd like to add. Don't talk to him first exactly. Invite him to a date setting and get really bold and kiss him or some such . . . the bolder the more I would want to hear the story (if its really bold send it privately

).

After getting lovey-dovey for a bit, say one of those cute things boys always trot out.

(James buffs his fingernails)

chioangel83 (flirty voice) says:

"Remember that first night we met and the formal that was so much fun? Why don't we move forward now, as if it was then."

But honestly, that might be a little overkill . . . the kissing and lets make a next date set up should work fine.

Good luck.

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Originally posted by damasa

If you don't want to throw it away forever you have to first find out if there is potential.

Meaning, if you like this boy and you are attracted to him, quit beating around the bush and let him know. Don't bottle your feelings up inside, tell him how you feel, what is on your mind and ask him how he feels. Remember - no regrets, if you don't say anything to this guy and there was potential, you let it slip away.

You know, take a chance, it's life and a short one at that. Life is all about chances and if you find out that nothing will come of it, at least you know as much and you still have a friendship.

sororitygirl2 · #4 01-26-2003, 09:38 PM

Just take a risk and see what happens.

If it doesn't work out, there are still 3 billion other boys on the planet.

chioangel83 · #5 01-26-2003, 10:11 PM

My only hesitation is that he already knew that I liked him once and nothing ever happened with that so I don't want to seem like one of those freaks that is still obsessed with someone, you know?

sororitygirl2 · #6 01-27-2003, 12:58 AM

Well, if he FOR SURE knew you liked him, and he didn't do anything about it... you may have your answer there.

If you still are unsure, then just take the risk of looking like a freak, if you think he's worth it.

chideltjen · #7 01-27-2003, 02:21 AM

chioangel... i am in the EXACT (well maybe not completely exact) situation as you...

my advice is that if there has been some time apart and you have been friends a while since your hook up, why not try it again? like you said, timing was off in the beginning.
and if he says no, well then ya saved yourself from a really crappy relationship...

i still have to develop the guts to talk to my friend. however it has been kinda rough cuz we haven't seen each other in about 6 weeks due to winter break. it should be interesting seeing him tomorrow.

good luck!

amycat412 · #8 01-27-2003, 02:42 AM

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Originally posted by chioangel83
My only hesitation is that he already knew that I liked him once and nothing ever happened with that so I don't want to seem like one of those freaks that is still obsessed with someone, you know?

But since that was AWHILE ago, he may assume you no longer feel that way.

I'm with everyone else, take the chance.

James · #9 01-27-2003, 12:06 PM

Amy is right. Plus guys don't usually think about it as much, and we certainly don't talk to our friends about it, they wouldn't listen.

We would more likely be flattered to find out a girl liked us for a long time then threatened.

Besides, you can always leave that part out until later. Sudden realizations are nice also lol.

But keep in mind that you have obviously thought about this problem a lot. The more time that goes by the LESS likely you are to do soemthing about it.

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Originally posted by amycat412

But since that was AWHILE ago, he may assume you no longer feel that way.

I'm with everyone else, take the chance.