Just to play devils advocate here......

TKESweetheart · #1 10-04-2002, 09:12 PM

anyone brave enough to admit that they wished they'd joined a different GLO? Anyone get into their top choices and now are thinking "Damn I wish I could do it over. I'd have gone....."
Personally I like my GLO but I wished I'd gone to school somewhere else and had more choices. I informally rushed in the spring to a group where I knew a bunch of the girls already. When I was 18 i had NO CLUE what I was getting into or how serious it all was. Worked out fine for me, but anyone have regrets?

KappaKittyCat · #2 10-04-2002, 09:41 PM

Through all the crazy events in my chapter, sometimes I've wondered what it would be like to be in a different organization on this campus and not have all the problems. But I know that I could never be a member of one of those groups. I know that I wouldn't be a Kappa at a different school-- UW Madison is always my comparison because it's where half my high school went-- and the sad thing is that I probably wouldn't have rushed at all.

To quote a famous Theta, "It's not getting what you want; it's wanting what you've got."

Optimist Prime · #3 10-05-2002, 01:27 AM

No regrets!! I was actully tried to be recruited and rushed other orgs. ONe had an image i didn't want, and I didn't like some of the bros in the other. I got snap bidded and only knew two people in the org i joined before that. It rocked, think of all the great friends I would have never met.

sweetsister · #4 10-05-2002, 01:47 AM

I have no regrets, but I did get lucky; I didn't really know what I was getting into, and it just so happened that my GLO was perfect for me. I joined the first semester of my freshman year, and I understand that most campuses require students to carry 12 credits before they rush. This year, we modified our recruitment process so that the PNM's would have a better idea of the committment required to be a sister, even though most of them are first semester freshman, and it really worked out well.

OnePlus69Is70 · #5 10-05-2002, 02:25 AM

I regret having gone to this school. I love my chapter, but if I knew then what I know now, I would have never have come to this school. I go to bed with dreams of UConn......

KillarneyRose · #6 10-05-2002, 03:05 AM

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Originally posted by sweetsister
I have no regrets, but I did get lucky; I didn't really know what I was getting into, and it just so happened that my GLO was perfect for me.

My thoughts exactly!

I have never, once regretted my choice.

XOMichelle · #7 10-05-2002, 03:47 AM

Obviously there are ups and downs to any group, especially one that tries to do all the stuff a sorority does.

I think most people ask themselves what it would be like if they had made a different choice. I sure did. But I think that happens with any decision we make. We wonder if our lives would be different if we weren't at the college we're at, weren't pre-meds or English Majors or what have you. In the end, I am proud of my girls and of Chi O, and am happy it is part of my life.

-M

ps- Also, i think the girls that really think "damn, I'd do it different!" drop out before they graduate.

justamom · #8 10-05-2002, 09:35 AM

I was lucky in the sense that considering the campus climate I could have gone anywhere. Of COURSE I've wondered how things might have been different, but most likely, they would have been much the same.

If anything, attending a different campus where Greek Life had a greater impact would have been the choice for me. Then again, I wouldn't have met my "soul mate" and I wouldn't be mother to the children I have. They too would be different. I couldn't imagine being any happier with my family than I am. Like the old Jimmy Stewart movie, "It's a Wonderful Life"!

greeklawgirl · #9 10-05-2002, 11:22 AM

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Originally posted by justamom
If anything, attending a different campus where Greek Life had a greater impact would have been the choice for me. Then again, I wouldn't have met my "soul mate".

JAM, once again you take the words out of my mouth!

I've wondered what it would have been like to have rushed on a more traditional, pro-Greek campus. But then I realize that I probably wouldn't have rushed on a traditional campus!

I will never, ever, regret joining Alpha Gam. She brought my husband to me!

cash78mere · #10 10-05-2002, 12:59 PM

i love AXO!! but if i were at a different school, who knows what would have happened. while i still loved other GLOs at my school, i wouldn't have fit in there and was much more comfortable in AXO

HotDamnImAPhiMu · #11 10-05-2002, 01:46 PM

Michelle, VERY well said.

My dad used to tell me when I was a little girl that there is no such thing as coencidences. I'm just now starting to figure out what he meant by that.

KappaTarzan · #12 10-05-2002, 01:48 PM

honestly, looking at the other orgs at my school i don't think there is ANY other way for me to go- i fit here. i am not what the other girls are about... it just works for me.

RubberSoul · #13 10-05-2002, 08:13 PM

I have wondered what it would have been like had I gone with a different chapter. As I have said before, I really liked 3 chapters pretty equally. But far more so than the specific sorority, I have had some regrets about not giving other colleges a look. I always just kind of assumed I would go to Kent State.......(we are a big KSU family.) Once I enrolled I looked at some other schools, among them the University of Virginia.....I thought about transferring. At that time though the things that interested me and places I thought were cool are most definitely not the same places that I am interested in now. Strange thing is, my husband really kind of ended up at Kent as a fluke. He had his heart set on the Naval Academy and was getting recruited by a number of schools for golf. He looked at various places but it was all Navy. But then even though he was golf-scholarship material, had a GPA of 3.8 and was in the National Honor Society, his stupid test scores (I think it was the ACT) weren't high enough to get directly into Annapolis. He was given an opportunity to attend NAPS (the prep school) for one year and then move into the Academy, and he said "screw that!" So Kent it was.......good thing too, for if it weren't for Kent State, Delta Tau Delta and Chi Omega I wouldn't have my precious family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

aprilxo · #14 10-05-2002, 10:40 PM

I thought about going Greek when I was at Truman and just lived in the limbo of never really deciding if I wanted to join a sorority in the first place. (But I had decided that if I were to grace Greek life with my presence, I was in love with Sigma Kappa

) That was a whole lot of me being stupid. Woah, that makes it sound like I'm dissing Sigma K when I was really just saying I was being stupid since I never actually TRIED to give Sigma Kappa a chance by rushing to figure out if I really did want to join a sorority or not.

SO, after getting into a serious long distance relationship with a great Phi Kap at UMR, I ended my sophomore year with a diamond ring and acceptance to what would be my new school. I got to UMR in the fall and knew nobody but him and his fraternity brothers, which was fine except that I didn't want to feel like my life was completely interpreted through his. After hanging out at the Chi Omega house with a girl who went to my highschool and a new friend who lived down the hall from me (who was a Chi O pledge) I realized that all my wondering was leading to the same conclusion: I just HAD to join Chi O (informally) because everything about the girls is fantastic!! I absolutely LOVE it, although on occasion I do wonder where I would have gone, had I participated in formal recruitment. I think I could have fit in at ZTA, too.

But I never EVER for a moment regret joining Chi Omega, and I never doubt that it is where I was meant to end up in the scheme of things. If it weren't for Phi Kappa Theta, I would have never considered joining Chi Omega, and I would have never met some of the BEST people to ever enter my life.

honeychile · #15 10-05-2002, 10:43 PM

Please note my signature before reading this!

I was 16 when I graduated from high school, 17 when I started college. I had a full scholarship to a school in Virginia, but my parents didn't feel that I was mature enough to live away from home at the time (never mind that it had been my mom's family's home!). Over the years, I see that they were right. I went to college locally my freshman year, fully expecting to transfer afterwards.

And then I pledged ADPi. I LOVED my freshman year! I was very torn about transferring, but what sold me was that there was not (at the time) a chapter of ADPi at the VA school. I would have lost out on the majority of my sorority experience.

This is my Road Not Taken. Where would I be, had I gone away from day one (and probably pledged a different sorority)? It's really not ADPi that I question at all, it's the school.

That all being said, I couldn't imagine being happier in a sorority other than Alpha Delta Pi!!

honeychile