Should we try again?

Lizanabavi · #1 09-17-2002, 01:36 PM

I have a question for everyone...

If a couple breaks up and decides to go their separate ways, should they get back together? Comments.

p.s. I'll give my answer later.

Gina1281 · #2 09-17-2002, 04:24 PM

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Originally posted by Lizanabavi
I have a question for everyone...

If a couple breaks up and decides to go their separate ways, should they get back together? Comments.

p.s. I'll give my answer later.

I say that it depends on the circumstances that surrounded the relationship and it also depends on the couple. For me, if I were to break up with a guy there would have to be a DAMN good reason on why we should get back together. I mean, there were obviously problems to begin with, otherwise you would not have broken up.

carolyne · #3 09-17-2002, 10:25 PM

If it's true love then you wouldn't have a choice. You'll end up back together somehow. I know it sounds corny, but it's true.

smlwonderdst · #4 09-18-2002, 10:09 AM

It definitely depends on the reason for the break-up. Obviously there were problems that couldn't be fixed and just because you broke up doesn't mean the problems went away. If you are going to get back together, you have to honestly discuss the things that caused the brake-up. The two will have to decide if they will work at changing them or decide to live with them to be with this person.

Lizanabavi · #5 09-19-2002, 10:43 AM

When my boyfriend and me break-up, I don't believe in that getting-back-together stuff; nor, do I believe in being friends.

Men never appreciate anything that they don't have to work for. Now I'm not talking about playing games, because that is childish. But men know what they want from the beginning, any man who says he does'nt is lying. You just are'nt the one he wants to be with. If you say you're done with something, be done with it.

Going out to mall with your ex-boyfriend, or calling him just to say "Hi".

Stop!!! When you do that, in the back of his mind he always thinks he can get you back.

smlwonderdst · #6 09-19-2002, 12:27 PM

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Originally posted by Lizanabavi
Going out to mall with your ex-boyfriend, or calling him just to say "Hi". Stop!!! When you do that, in the back of his mind he always thinks he can get you back.

I agree with this whole heartedly. I have a friend going through this today. She wants to know why she can't find someone else worth something. How can you still tied to your ex. Yes, calling and still communicating with your ex ties you to that person in my opinion. That is one of the problems my ex has now (why can't we be friends). We have one child and if the conversation is not about our son, then we have nothing else to talk about. What we have is a business relationship, not a personal one. That does mean be nasty and rude. I will always be courteous, polite and respectful until actions require me to behave otherwise. I need him to understand that I am gone and not coming back. If I am all up in his face, trying to be his friend he may not clearly get the message.

Lizanabavi · #7 09-19-2002, 02:48 PM

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Originally posted by smlwonderdst
That is one of the problems my ex has now (why can't we be friends). That does mean be nasty and rude. I will always be courteous, polite and respectful until actions require me to behave otherwise. If I am all up in his face, trying to be his friend he may not clearly get the message.

A man won't get the message; nor will he change. He has no reason to, because he's getting what he wants. That "friends" stuff does'nt work. I don't feel that you're being "rude" because I'm the same way; and, I don't apologize for that. You're protecting your most valuable asset -YOU. People who feel that you are being "rude" have'nt reached that point yet. When they get there, they'll know.