Twist on Legacy

[zetagirly]

I am a legacy and am in a great house but here is an interesting twist. I HATED having everyone knowing I am a legacy and did not go the house that I am a legacy at on purpose. The reason I did that is because it would have always been in the back of my mind that they maybe took me onlye because I was a legacy and not because they really like me for me.

My boyfriend is also a legacy and his brother was a great brother of his fraternity and he is convinced that the only reason they took him is because of his brother. I love my boyfriend to death and can't believe he thinks that about himself and it breaks my heart.

Has anyone had the same feelings about that?

[dzrose93]

I sincerely hope that legacies today realize that the sisters wouldn't extend a bid unless they truly like the girls themselves.

Although it used to be that all legacies were offered a bid, regardless of whether the sisters wanted them or not, this practice is pretty much extinct. In most houses that I'm aware of, legacies are still given special consideration, however, they are only offered bids if the sisters feel that the girls will be assets to the chapter. I believe that this process works better for both the legacies and the sorority.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally posted by zetagirly:
The reason I did that is because it would have always been in the back of my mind that they maybe took me onlye because I was a legacy and not because they really like me for me.
Has anyone had the same feelings about that?

No group will take in a member "just because" they're a legacy. The legacy must be "qualified" in their own right.
This is an excellent article about legacies, it is an AOII article but really works for any NPC sorority...
scroll down to pages 4-6... http://www.alphaomicronpi.org/PDF%20...ecruitment.pdf