Should we be "silent"?

[erniegurl00]

I know on most campuses sorority actives are supposed to be silent on which sorority they belong to during rush time. I know GC is a different situation, but I was wondering if we should also be silent for awhile since a lot of schools are rushing around this time? LOL I realize this is a somewhat silly question, but I don't want to effect a woman's decision in any way. Any thoughts?

[AOPIHottie]

Well, I kinda agree, I think we shouldnt encourege the rushees by telling what sorority we are in(which sucks for those like myself who state it in there name) but we want to be here to help them with there questions. We should respect the 'silence' just like we do during rush...as hard as that may be. I for one will get a new name for the duration of rush, and at no time reveal what sorority I am in. But the whole point of this is to help them, so lets do what we can without affecting them with our own sisterhoods.
And good luck to all those preparing for rush. Be yourself, and you will make a happy new home!

*LOL* There is no such thing as a silly question.

I see it this way--if a GC Sorority member chooses to be silent, then it's okay if she chooses to do so. My campus conducts Recruitment/Rush in a totally different way (silent periods are somewhat different than most campuses), but reading about silent periods on GC really helps me understand it better.

I think, for the most part, most of us are aware that we should be considerate of the PNMs especially during this time. However, I believe that we are all good representations of our respective organizations...and this is a positive thing to take with them to the Recruitment events. If anything, choosing the right sorority for them may be difficult because there are so many excellent ones to choose from!

So, instead of keeping silent, I think we should be cautious of what we post (i.e.: XYZ Sorority is the best because we have the best parties!). That's also why I'm against those "What do you think of XYZ?" threads...and "Most Popular on your Campus" because it might give an inaccurate view to PNMs.

Oh well, that's just my 2 cents.



[This message has been edited by OohTeenyWahine (edited August 06, 2001).]

[AOPIHottie]

I think we should explain what silence is to the pnm's, so they dont think that those who chose to be silent are ignoring them-I will try to explain it the way it is at my university

Silence is when active members do not divulge wich sorority they are in, therfore they can not influence a PNM's decision on which house to go for.Unfortunantly, if you have an XYZ in a class who you used to talk to all the time, now-she wont be able to be quite as talkative, but please don't take it the wrong way, that is just what silence is. The Rho Chi's, who are the reps from the sororities, usually a grad student, who guide you through rush week, have the strictest silence, they are unable to spend ANY time with there house as to not influence the actives on who to choose. The rushees themselves also observe silence, by not talking about the sorority they have visited or wish to join to the other rushees. I myself will observe 'silence' as to not influence any lady in any way. This should let all the PNM's know how important and how serious it is to choose the house YOU feel most comfortable with, therefore you cannot be swayed by peer pressure or anything else. To some, silence seems silly, but I think it is something to be held to great respect, and I will choose to respect silence as well. Good Luck ladies and gentlemen about to rush. We all from GC wish you the best of luck, and know you will find the right house.
All actives, please add to this if your school is different. I know how I felt with silence during rush! And good luck to all the actives, hope your numbers are filled with wonderful quality people!
Although I must say, good luck to the AOPI's!!!

[erniegurl00]

Our school is pretty much the same. However, we have deferred rush (meaning we rush second semester.) I know my first semester I was friends with a lot of sorority girls, and trust me they weren't silent! LOL During rush we are not allowed to talk to ANY greek member (either sorority or fraternity). I think we only have silence during our three days of rush so it isn't bad.

I personally think that silence is a good thing. I've heard of dirty rush resulting, and not being silent is both unfair to the girl rushing and the other sorority houses. I know on GC the PNM are turning to us for advice and therefore I wanted to make sure that by posting where I belong wouldn't influence the other girls. Either way, good luck to all those participating in the upcoming rush! I look forward to hearing where everyone chooses!