Boy Not Calling: Example

James · #1 01-22-2002, 09:09 PM

Part 1.
Its like last September and I go out to the local watering hole . . .

So I am sitting next to girl A talking to her and listening to her entire life story before realizing that she is dating the bartender . . or she thinks she is, he's just like whatever.

So across the bar I see this fine looking blonde thing . . . at this point I was 3 drafts and 3 shots into the night. and i notice that she is next to an acquaintance! Happy Happy Joy Joy thats half the battle right there!

She has looked over a few times so I make my approach (smoothly knocking some chairs over aong the way).

As I get closer I notice that certain parts of her anatomy are larger than they apeared from across the room. As a side note I have noticed that alcohol diminishes the effectiveness of my contact lenses.

So I am like ok, maybe 10-20 pounds over her ideal weight? About 5'6, natural blond hair (going by eyebrows) nice tan, skin could be a little better. Left ear is a milimeter off from the right, but she still ok.

Great personality, we are laughing, talking, flirting, and she did the whole walk away talk to another guy walk back thing also.

Didn't feel a hell of a lot of physical attraction until she let me smell the perfume on her neck . . .

So end of the night comes and I didn't ask for her number.

Part 2.
I am thinking the next day that I shoul have asked for it . . .
so I go back out to the same place and lo and behold our slightly overweight blonde with the nice personality is there.

So again we laugh talk and the end of the night comes by and I ask for her number, she gives it to me and watches me put it into my cell phone. Mental note: Never program cell phone in front of girl, because you lose all deniablity pertining to losing a number.
she gives me her itinerary for th next three days i.e. i won't be able to reach her until mid week, but she has a machine.

Interlude: I don't call. I thought about it, but I really wasn't that interested. Maybe if she had been more available for the first two days . . . Us guys don' have a notoriously long attention span, its why we are so evil with the remote control.

Part 3. Naturally I walk into that place a week or so later and see her sitting there with some friends. Mentally I'm like damn . . . but I really don't believe in being placed at a disadvantage by a feeling or someone else, so I put on my confident social faceand strolled right over. I opened with a: hey how are you doing? I just stopped by to have a drink and see if you were here.

So we talked for a while with her work friends there and one of them joking around was like this is her boyfriend, referring to one of the waiters. Which was awesome because if the subject of the phone call ever came up again i could claim drunken confusion and say I thought she had a boy friend and didn't want to poach on his territory. The perfect out.

Male strategy note: If you are ever confronted with a girl that talks to ou baout not calling her, just say that someone mentioned she had a boy friend. Easy.

End of story.

Moral: sometimes we don't call because we just don't want you. ITs nothing personal you just weren't that important and the mental connection you thought you had with us was primarily alcohol driven.

Thought I would share because e have been having a lot of boy/girl discussions. OBviously there are other reasons we won't call, but this might be the most common one.

Happy Hunting.

Peaches-n-Cream · #2 01-22-2002, 10:13 PM

James,
Are you ever going to call? The first few times I gave my number out to guys and they didn't use it, I was crushed, then disappointed, and then began to expect it. Then it happens; you meet someone and it just clicks and you are off and running. I love when that happens. Phone calls galore.

You'll meet her one day, James. Hopefully, one day I will, too.

James · #3 01-22-2002, 11:36 PM

You are hoping to meet her too Cream? How egalitarian of you.

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Originally posted by Cream
James,
Are you ever going to call? The first few times I gave my number out to guys and they didn't use it, I was crushed, then disappointed, and then began to expect it. Then it happens; you meet someone and it just clicks and you are off and running. I love when that happens. Phone calls galore. You'll meet her one day, James. Hopefully, one day I will, too.

Peaches-n-Cream · #4 01-23-2002, 12:00 AM

I'm not switching teams!

I mean you'll meet her and I'll meet HIM!

aggieAXO · #5 01-23-2002, 01:06 AM

and sometimes that is why I don't pick up the phone or call back b/c I am not interested. When guys ask for my phone number I feel bad and usually am honest-mistake number 1 (I'll have to work on that). So..... If you call a girl and she doesn't call back, maybe give it one more try but please after the second try do not call back that is called stalking.

Thrillhouse · #6 01-23-2002, 01:13 AM

Usually phone numbers at the bar is not very cool cause than the next day your freinds might say dude we tried to warn you, either that or you forget her name so don't even bother calling.

amycat412 · #7 01-23-2002, 01:30 AM

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Originally posted by aggieAXO
and sometimes that is why I don't pick up the phone or call back b/c I am not interested. When guys ask for my phone number I feel bad and usually am honest-mistake number 1 (I'll have to work on that). So..... If you call a girl and she doesn't call back, maybe give it one more try but please after the second try do not call back that is called stalking.

Exactly!!

skip101 · #8 01-23-2002, 01:05 PM

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Originally posted by aggieAXO
and sometimes that is why I don't pick up the phone or call back b/c I am not interested. When guys ask for my phone number I feel bad and usually am honest-mistake number 1 (I'll have to work on that). So..... If you call a girl and she doesn't call back, maybe give it one more try but please after the second try do not call back that is called stalking.

last week one of you girls was complaining that some guy didn't call you back after he had already called you twice and was shot down both times.

James · #9 01-23-2002, 01:11 PM

Because women are obviously insane and desperately in need of medication . ..

Whereas us men are basically noble, understanding, honest, romantic creatures that just want to build quality relationships that are made impossible by beserk modern women that turn into emotional vampires.

Its a hard life for men . .. *sniff*

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Originally posted by skip101

last week one of you girls was complaining that some guy didn't call you back after he had already called you twice and was shot down both times.

AOIIAngel · #10 01-23-2002, 01:18 PM

Yeah, we may be insane and in need of medication, but.....

it was YOU MEN who made us that way......

KSig RC · #11 01-23-2002, 03:03 PM

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Originally posted by AOIIAngel
Yeah, we may be insane and in need of medication, but.....

it was YOU MEN who made us that way......

post hoc ergo propter hoc

ilovemyglo · #12 01-23-2002, 04:32 PM

I hate college dating but I think it is worse once you graduate because I am dating this guy that is 24 and graduated from George Washington University two years ago. I graduate this May. So he works a lot and just got a promotion so I only hear from him about every other day. So if I call and leave him a message he pretty much calls me back, but I hate that I have to call him first. Last week I freaked cause four days went by and no call (this is a long distance thing too!) so he finally called and when he did I finally just straight up asked him why the long wait turns out he had to work from 5AM til 11PM every day. He was so busy i felt so bad. He told me to call him at work whenever I wanted though cause that always makes his day.
Moral of the story: If you like a guy that has a career that is that important to him be prepared to make the phone calls but make sure he is cool with that.

amycat412 · #13 01-23-2002, 04:40 PM

the way I figure it, you can't really be upset if someone you met in a bar doesn't call, or gives you a fake #. They spent what, maybe an hour, while drinking, talking to you? They don't even know you, know what they are passing up.

Now, say you're at a small dinner party and spend the whole night clicking with someone who is a friend of the friends having it and they don't call you or blow you off when you do call-- that isn't cool. In a setting like that, you come with references--ie: the interested party knows your friends and can call them to ask about you, check your 'references' so to speak.

I'm personally finding that the older I get the more I only want to date people that come with references. You have something in common as a starting point, and having that something or someone(s) in common you both tend to treat each other with more respect knowing that your friends are looking out for you...

Of course I say all this as someone in my early 30s. The college thing is certainly MUCH different. But its also MUCH easier to meet people when you're in college than when you're older--and the older I get, the harder it seems to meet people. My friends and I ask all the time WHERE are all the intelligent, educated, tall, cute, funny, single guys hanging out--we'll go there! ha ha

Amy

dzrose93 · #14 01-23-2002, 04:45 PM

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Originally posted by amycat412
But its also MUCH easier to meet people when you're in college than when you're older--and the older I get, the harder it seems to meet people. My friends and I ask all the time WHERE are all the intelligent, educated, tall, cute, funny, single guys hanging out--we'll go there! ha ha
Amy

Amy,

Don't come to Atlanta, cause I snapped up the last decent one about 8 months ago!

Seriously, it IS hard to find a good guy once you're out of school. The bars are full of guys looking to get lucky for the night, and the good guys seem to stay home all the time, because my girlfriends and I could NEVER find them no matter how hard we looked. (And trust me, we tried!)

All I can say is that I got really lucky when I finally found mine. He was right under my nose the whole time... We work together.

amycat412 · #15 01-23-2002, 04:49 PM

LOL Seriously, if we hear a bunch of guys in an apt watching sports we're tempted to knock on the door and say A HA there you are! LOL

But you've got to figure, those good guys are wondering where the normal girls are too!!!

My solution is this: it should be every happily coupled's job to host a dinner party once a month where they expose their single friends to one another.

Though even this doesn't always work. I've summarily rejected each and every guy my best friend and her husband have intorduced me to!!! LOL I keep telling them they need to make new friends, maybe one day I'll like one of them! ha ha