Choosing girls for recruitment

[LCD20]

Hi idk if anyone can help me with this, but I went through recruitment and I ended up not getting invited to pref by anyone. I saw one of the girls in one of the sororities at my school out one night and she told me that she talked about me a lot and told her sorority that she wanted me as her little, and she also didn't know I didn't get invited to pref by them? Can someone explain to me why if she wanted me so badly I didn't get invited? And why she didn't know I didn't get invited?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by LCD20

Hi idk if anyone can help me with this, but I went through recruitment and I ended up not getting invited to pref by anyone. I saw one of the girls in one of the sororities at my school out one night and she told me that she talked about me a lot and told her sorority that she wanted me as her little, and she also didn't know I didn't get invited to pref by them? Can someone explain to me why if she wanted me so badly I didn't get invited? And why she didn't know I didn't get invited?

1) Membership selection is private, and none of us know this chapter or their members. We can't even begin to guess why you didn't receive a bid and why this sister didn't know anything about it.

2) Even if this one sister really pushed for you, she's likely not the only one who's allowed to have an opinion on the matter.

[Sciencewoman]

Membership selection is private for each organization. It's possible that only certain officers knew the pref list/decisions ahead of time. It's also possible that she is trying to make you feel better by letting you know she stuck up for you. This is a question that no one will be able to answer for you, so you have to let it go.