Women and their decorative madness

UF_PikePC98 · #1 07-22-2002, 05:20 PM

Ok, I have an issue. My parents just bought a nice place for me in Tampa to finish school. It has white marble tile in it. The living room is huge with a den that is connected to the living room. My mom decides to act like Martha Stewart and goes off and buys me these Victorian couches that are red velvet with matching pillows to fill both couches, only she tells me I can't sit on them that much and if they get me a golden retriever I can't allow him/her to sleep on it. She says they are only for looks and we'll get the leather couches I wanted "soon". I told her I don't need that crapp but she proceeds to tell me she is also putting this single white column in there with what sounded like a statue of the head of Nero ( the roman emperor )and then hit me with a picture of Michaelangelo's "the Creation" and starts telling me what it is, as if I didn't know. I told her I don't want my place looking like I'm some art Fag ( Though I do like classical greco-roman architecture and many paintings from the rennassaince era.) She told me I don't need turntables in the living room with Black lights, bud light banners, Bob Marley posters and banners from surfing expos in my new place, like my old. I think she's trying to make my new place appease the tastes of girls older than the ages of 18,19 and 20. I think the only thing I might seriously like are these candle decorations. She knows I like candles ( though she doesnt know when they are used ) and she said she got me something "different", anyhow it's a Pineapple that looks like it's marble but has a 3 huge candles in it and looks like a Pineapple light when lit, she said she wanted to put it on some sort of standing column. Are any of your mothers like that? or is it a woman thing to want to decorate someone elses house for them? Our conversation ended with me telling her " At least I'll still have a big screen, the play station 2 and X-box right? She told me yes, but to trust her on the statmenet of older chicks like'ng my new place. I'm not sure to be glad or sad.

ROWDYsister · #2 07-22-2002, 08:42 PM

It's a mom thing. She just wants to help and she wants her "baby" to have as nice a home as her own. I had to fight my parents tooth and nail to leave me alone when it came to decorating my apartment last year because there wasn't simply wasn't enough space for the stuff they wanted to put in there.

I think your mom has the right idea about trying to make your place more classy and mature...you're in your early 20s and eventually the beer paraphernalia and black lights will be relegated to your personal space like your den or pool room or something and not your living room. Once your mom's satisfied with helping, then you can arrange the place to fit you better. If there's something you don't like in the place like that column then you can add something later that'll take attention away from it. If your dog crashes on the couch then that'll be your business. Just remember that when you're trying to give your input on your own personal taste, be nice and grateful.

lifesaver · #3 07-22-2002, 09:15 PM

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Originally posted by UF_PikePC98
My mom decides to act like Martha Stewart and goes off and buys me these Victorian couches that are red velvet with matching pillows to fill both couches, only she tells me I can't sit on them that much and if they get me a golden retriever I can't allow him/her to sleep on it. She says they are only for looks and we'll get the leather couches I wanted "soon". I told her I don't need that crapp but she proceeds to tell me she is also putting this single white column in there with what sounded like a statue of the head of Nero ( the roman emperor )and then hit me with a picture of Michaelangelo's "the Creation" and starts telling me what it is, as if I didn't know. I told her I don't want my place looking like I'm some art Fag

Couple of things.

First, Unless your Linda Richmond from Saturday Night Live, or Staten Island trash, have her leave the columns at home. I wouldnt want them either. They do look gay. Unless you're trying to open your own italian resturaunt in your living room, then they're fine.

Tell her you appreciate her help, but you are afraid that if she busts out some coin, the stuff she buys might get ruined. Youd rather have her get stuff for you after you graduate, thereby buying you some time.

If thats not an option, or If you are worried about what she will get you, go with her to the furniture store and pick out the stuff you like. Theres cool stuff out there. Thats what I did when my mom threatened to decorate my place. A day at the furniture store wasnt my idea of fun, but I did get some cool stuff outta it.

Best of luck bro

Hootie · #4 07-22-2002, 11:19 PM

My ex (who is 25) was very decortation conscience. He was into his black leather couch, rod iron coffee table and matching end table...as well as this thing that stands (dunno how to describe it). He was into black and white and modern. Totally NOT be...but he had his bachelor pad and then I moved it and it still stayed that way (maybe that's why we broke up LOL). Anyways, I think she's just trying to make you appreciate a little bit of fashion/decoration style.
It's not such a BAD thing...it certainly impresses a lady when a guy does like a clean, and well put together place. Although I can see your point on the couches...I wouldn't want those for myself either. (Leather couches are very nice).
Try looking at Bombay.com...that's where my ex bought a lot of his things and they actually have some nice stuff.

pbpck · #5 07-22-2002, 11:31 PM

Thank god I got to do my own apartment. My parents were too exhausted from moving furniture up to even worry about the decor.

But my mother does have the awful habit of still trying to dress me every time I come home. She lives and dies for cruise wear, I swear. She picks out lipstick pink tops and disastrously floral skirts with pumps to boot for me. She comments all the time that I look like I am going to prep school when I go to church. I'll be getting dressed to go out with friends and she will come into my room and start holding up gaudy necklaces against my dress. This habit was almost the end of my debutante ball. I chose simple Vera Wang cuts, she favored Bob Mackie type wedding dresses! Can't wait till my wedding...

juniorgrrl · #6 07-22-2002, 11:46 PM

LOL@Lifesaver - the column thing is so true. Around here, we refer to them as "y'at stats." A Y'at is a New Orleanan who sounds like a Brooklynite and usually has very over the top taste. So named because they are prone to say "where y'at?" meaning "how are you."

My mom and I are in the middle of doing our new house, so we're in CONSTANT HGTV mode. I like the looks of places like Pottery Barn, Restoration Hardware, etc. Casual elegance, with a splash of kitch.

Good luck. Decorating is exhausting, especially when you're at odds with the person who's buying the stuff.

librasoul22 · #7 07-23-2002, 01:27 AM

Okay, lol, maybe I am the only one looking at this thread, then looking at my apartment decor like hmmm...

I spent $35 for this ugly plaid couch (that is clean, comfy, and in-tact), a glass dining room table with fading brass legs, 3 mismatching chairs around it, and a broke wooden TV stand, with 19 inch TV. On the walls are flats of my favorite musical artists. That's it.

When I first moved out of my house four years ago, I took what was in my room (my bed, dresser set, a 13 inch TV, and a radio) and the rest was kind of take what I can get.

Basically, I have what I need. I am kinda astonished that you guy's parents like furnished these plush apts for y'all. I mean I don't care if I had 5 columns in the middle of the living room floor and track lighting, lol, if my mother paid for it, I would not complain!

Peaches-n-Cream · #8 07-23-2002, 01:38 AM

I agree with you, librasoul22. Don't complain UF_Pike. back when I moved off campus, I had a couch with springs popping out.

Not fun!

psusensei · #9 07-23-2002, 10:18 AM

yes I agree with librasoul and cream....are you gonna be 35 and have your mom decorating your house?

DWAlphaGam · #10 07-23-2002, 10:44 AM

Why are you complaining? Your parents bought you a place to live. Now your mom is trying to make sure you have nice things. I would love it if my parents had the money to do that for me. You should be grateful!

UF_PikePC98 · #11 07-23-2002, 01:27 PM

It's not that this is the first place they have bought me. This is the 5th place they have bought me ( I've been in school for 4 years now, going on 5.) She has never done this before. I think the thing is, is the fact that she thinks there are few college girls in a city like Tampa ( Which seriously hurts my chances when looking for greek women.) With that said, many females not in college pretty much have their stuff together and are not into the "college lifestyle". I have never lived on campus nor had any desire to do so. There were always too many regulations for me that I knew I could not abide by. When I first moved to Gainesville from West Palm Beach I lived in a house with some older guys I knew from my high school that went sigma chi. Our living room looked more like a surf shop rather than an apartment. We constantly had coconut sex wax being heated so that it smelt like the beach in our house. I had banners from surfing expos from across the state as well as posters of women that are professional surfers ( in their hot little bikinnis ). When we had parties, we had Bob Marley playing outside on the deck where the kegs would be and inside in the living room something along the lines of Crystal Method where other festivities were taking place. So you see this is a big change for me. The living room is not where the couches are going to be, they'll be staying in my den. In my living room I WILL have my Black leather couches ( I think it's a guy thing ) and a love seat. My idea for pictures would be a frame I have of Steve Spurrier with the words "Weekend Warrior" above a picture of him with his head set on. I also have this picture of the Sugar bowl when UF beat FSU for the National Championship 52-20. I don't think I have bad taste. I'd like to hear from ladies in their early 20's and beyond, what do you think of the "New" look i'm soon to recieve in my new place? Does my moms idea sound good or mine? Sure i'm grateful for what she gives and i will accept it, but it kinda reminds me of when a grandmother is trying to by clothes for her Granddaughter, it just doesn't work.

justamom · #12 07-23-2002, 01:57 PM

My teeth about dropped out! A dog that will stay off a couch? It must be one well trained dog. Pillows to look at? Are you friends raised as well mannered as you?

A beautiful apt is really great and kiss your mother's feet for doing this for you. She must have a lot of faith, mine will probably get a mix of "early everybody's"

UF_PikePC98 · #13 07-23-2002, 02:07 PM

I actually have a lot of manners, believe it or not. It's just I choose when to use them and not. If my parent's dog does jump on their couch, they make sure there are Afgans "nice blankets for watching TV" on the couches for her to lay on. The dog is only 5 pounds though. She is a long haired Chiuahua. My dog will be much bigger than that. I plan on naming him Brinkley, like Tom Hanks had his Golden Retreiver named in the movie " You've got Mail" ( Tom Hanks is my favorite actor ).

justamom · #14 07-23-2002, 02:15 PM

I just KNEW you weren't all that bad!

You will have a "killer" apt.
A BABE MAGNET! LOL! You've got a great Mom, let her go wild!
I only WISH my son would let me do the same, it would be fun.

UF_PikePC98 · #15 07-23-2002, 03:24 PM

Women don't think i'm "bad" once they actually meet me or as in the case of GC, PM me. Then again I said most,not all GCers who have PM'd me get along with me now. There are a few that wish I was still banned but then again everyone's not going to like me. This is why people in my family think I should go into politics/Law. I have a tactical mind when is comes to political strategies and a great sense of humor. I have a way with words.My dad says I can do something wrong to a person and by the end of the conversation that person and I are laughing together. Its the power to win people over and it's not given to everyone. This is why I am going into Law and hopefully Politics.