PRE-NUPTIAL AGREEMENTS...YAY OR NAY?

AKA2D '91 · #1 06-11-2001, 06:16 PM

Did you sign a prenuptial agreement before your nuptials, for all the happily married peeps out there?

Would you consider signing a pre-nuptial agreement before getting married, single peeps?

Maybe you don't want to call it a pre-nuptial agreement, but would you have some kind of LEGAL document drawn up to "protect" some of your assets you have "received" PRIOR to your day of HOLY MATRIMONY?

I know, I know, when one gets married, the couple is considered one and all that stuff, BUT, this is property, money, inheritence, or whatever that one has acquired BEFORE the marriage, or even BEFORE you and your spouse- to- be met.

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS?

A curious mind would like to know.

muldoon · #2 06-11-2001, 07:54 PM

I am single and I would definently have a prenuptual agreement. But I would do it only because if we were to have children i would want to be prepared financially if that day came where my husband might leave. Ideally marriage is suppose to be forever and things should be shared, but in this society, 64% of marriages fail. And many of those women are left with children and no money because the husband managed to take it all. Sorry the post is so long. :-)

Kiara · #3 06-11-2001, 08:26 PM

I AM NOT MARRIED..BUT IF I EVER TIE THE KNOT WHICH I CANNOT VISION AT THE MOMENT...i would of course present my future with a prenup agreement...THESE DAYS A WOMAN CANNOT BE TO SURE...U HAVE TO BE SAFE AND PROTECT YOURS....a man can B S....T U QUICKLY.....

AKA2D '91 · #4 06-11-2001, 08:30 PM

ya know, not only that, but these days, relationships are NOT ONLY about the male and female involved. It is no longer, most times, that cut and dry.

On one or both sides, you have these "external" factors or extra parties, if you will out, there too. That should be thought about, as well.

The Original Ape · #5 06-11-2001, 09:28 PM

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Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
Did you sign a prenuptial agreement before your nuptials, for all the happily married peeps out there?

Would you consider signing a pre-nuptial agreement before getting married, single peeps?

Maybe you don't want to call it a pre-nuptial agreement, but would you have some kind of LEGAL document drawn up to "protect" some of your assets you have "received" PRIOR to your day of HOLY MATRIMONY?

I know, I know, when one gets married, the couple is considered one and all that stuff, BUT, this is property, money, inheritence, or whatever that one has acquired BEFORE the marriage, or even BEFORE you and your spouse- to- be met.

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS?

A curious mind would like to know.

The way people are today, that's THE ONLY WAY TO GET MARRIED!!!

Chi_ZETABBW · #6 06-12-2001, 12:33 AM

I didn't for my first marriage, but we didn't have anything. Both were young, 21y/o,crazy in love, etc. But my second marriage I did. I had bought a house and wants to keep it, if things don't work.

shida25 · #7 06-12-2001, 02:00 AM

I wouldn't. I am with the man that I am going to marry (I'm sure and there's no need for all of that!) Just don't marry someone unless you are completely sure that you can be married to that person.

Chi_ZETABBW · #8 06-12-2001, 09:16 AM

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Originally posted by shida25:
I wouldn't. I am with the man that I am going to marry (I'm sure and there's no need for all of that!) Just don't marry someone unless you are completely sure that you can be married to that person.

Let's see if you feel this way in 10 or even 5 years. S*** happens. No one marries with divorce in mind, but well over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Young women you better be prepared, divorce gets ugly, and you won't even recognize the man you married during a divorce, or fighting for child support.

nikki25 · #9 06-12-2001, 09:30 AM

I think it is necessary to secure pre-marital property via a pre-nuptial agreement. It is a document designed to ensure that in the event of separation (divorce, death), that income is apportioned fairly. I sincerely would sign such an agreement to ensure that my affairs/assets are handled properly.

AKA2D '91 · #10 06-12-2001, 09:51 AM

what I was talking about was securing what you obtained PRIOR to saying those magical words...

I would want THAT protected first. Now, after I am married (whenever), that should be split down the middle, IMHO. Because we have acquired that TOGETHER.

See, Chi...that's why I don't want to purchase a home, so I won't have to go through that ya ya there. Many have said that I can "rent" that home out and move somewhere else. I wouldn't want that hassle. Then, if I rent, that would be MY income, cause my name would be on the "papers", right?

Miss. Mocha · #11 06-12-2001, 10:32 AM

Nothing from nothing leaves nothing, so I felt no need for a pre-nup.

Miss. Mocha

Kimmie1913 · #12 06-12-2001, 10:43 AM

A lot depends on where you get divorced since the law varies wildly from state to state. All states do not do the "divide everything in half" thing. Also, all states do not make property from before you were married an issue.

In MD, where I am and practice, property owned before marriage is not marital property. Neither is property that was received as a gift (uless to both of you) or inherited by one of you. So, for example, if I own a house before we get married, he cannot ask for it in the divorce. Now if I put his name on it that is another story. Or if I let him contribute to the mortgage he has a claim on the equity he contributed to but not the whole house. If I continue to pay the mortgage myself with my own paycheck, he can't touch it.

Also, you generally cannot control the division of after acquried property through a prenuptual agreement. No one knows what they might come to have so it is hard to agree fairly as to who should get what. You can instead agree to make a cash payment or alimony in exchange for a property claim in some places.

A pre-nup is really relevant when you have a lot or have disparate incomes or assets.

AKA2D '91 · #13 06-12-2001, 10:55 AM

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Originally posted by Kimmie1913:
A lot depends on where you get divorced since the law varies wildly from state to state. All states do not do the "divide everything in half" thing. Also, all states do not make property from before you were married an issue.

In MD, where I am and practice, property owned before marriage is not marital property. Neither is property that was received as a gift (uless to both of you) or inherited by one of you. So, for example, if I own a house before we get married, he cannot ask for it in the divorce. Now if I put his name on it that is another story. Or if I let him contribute to the mortgage he has a claim on the equity he contributed to but not the whole house. If I continue to pay the mortgage myself with my own paycheck, he can't touch it.

Also, you generally cannot control the division of after acquried property through a prenuptual agreement. No one knows what they might come to have so it is hard to agree fairly as to who should get what. You can instead agree to make a cash payment or alimony in exchange for a property claim in some places.

A pre-nup is really relevant when you have a lot or have disparate incomes or assets.

Like you said, it varies by state. I am in Louisiana, and we are under the Napoleonic Code, that is something else.

So, when that time comes, or if it does, I will consult with my Soror.

(I thought I had already posted this, but I guess not! :confused

AKA2D '91 · #14 06-12-2001, 01:03 PM

how do you know? being a millionaire or not?

DoggyStyle82 · #15 06-12-2001, 02:45 PM

Then why marry someone that you have reservations about? Why stand in front of the world and vow before God that you will love, honor, and cherish til death do you part when the ink is not even dry on your pre-nup?. If you are not sure about your mates veracity, honesty, sexuality, depth of committment, or stability, do not get married. I would never marry a woman who wanted a pre-nup, nor insist on one.