Confused about Guys.......

lilsnakeyk · #1 07-17-2002, 03:23 PM

Warning......long story ahead....

This winter break, I am helping my cousin move into her new house (Well, helping is a figurative term, was on crutches, so I was relegated to watching the baby)

Anywho... this old family friend, I'll call him Brian, walks in. (Backstory: I haven't seen "Brian" in four years, last time I saw him he was kinda gawky with very little personality)

He walks in and is just stunning, and suddenly funny. We talk all day long, totally have a great time. And then we both go back to school and go our seperate ways.

So fast forward to last week. I call up his mom (who I know very well) to ask her a question about credentialing, and she tells me that "Brian" is back in town.

So later that night, I get a call from "Brian", and we go see a movie and hang out really late. We have a great time, we laugh, and we find out we have a lot in common. We don't hook up, but we definately get a little touchy-feely on the couch. He leaves and says he'll call me early the next week.

Which leads me to my dilemma, we hung out on Thursday, it is now Wednesday.......why hasn't he called me yet?

Guys I need your opinion.....

Thanks,

Lil Snakey K

pbpck · #2 07-17-2002, 06:33 PM

I'm thinking we need subdivisions of Chit Chat entitled "Guys' issues with girls" and "Girls' issues with Guys."

LilsnakeyK-

I wish I had the answer. The opposite sex will always be perplexing. I was watching Clueless (the TV show) today with my little sister and to quote Di "There is no such thing as a perfect guy. If guys were perfect, Cosmo would cease to publish!"

Just have a little faith sometimes....

-pbpck

Dionysus · #3 07-17-2002, 06:45 PM

If I am getting your story right, it seems like he may be playing a game of "cat and mouse", and he wants to keep you on the edge.

I play those games all the time and I am not even a guy. I don't want to seem desparate or zealous, so I'll act very interested and then I'll pull away. It's also a test IF HE is interested. To see if he calls me if I don't call him or chases after me whenever I act less interested.

He could be doing the same thing, or maybe not.

James · #4 07-17-2002, 09:29 PM

I have it on the highest authority that I am the center of the universe lol. Which means the rest of you are not

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Anyway, lets stop assuming that every guys actions are completely predicated on where he is in relation to you. In other words lets stop reading too much into things.

Just because he doesn't call you in X days means . . . nothing! Or at least nothing that you are going to figure out.

My best advice to women everywhere: Call him!

What anovel concept . . why don't more women call when interested? Why do you expect us men to be mind readers?

KSig RC · #5 07-17-2002, 11:36 PM

Why hasn't he called you yet?

Well . . . maybe b/c you haven't waited long enough?

For me, the "girl week", or time when I'm going to be most likely to schedule a dating situation, would probably run from wed or thurs through the weekend - so "early next week" could easily become "thursday or friday" . . .

. . . or maybe he got busy real fast, or maybe just maybe he's still really shy (as you inferred he was earlier in life), and he's still working up the courage to call a girl he had a really good time with the other night (he doesn't want to f- it up, after all).

The point is, conjecture is pointless at this point - it's been 5 days, for christ sakes. Next wednesday, maybe you have an issue . . . or if you really want to know, maybe you should take James's advice, and just ask.

That's my answer to most "what's he thinking?" questions - why don't you just find out directly?

lilsnakeyk · #6 07-18-2002, 12:22 AM

Thanks guys......I'm still confused, but thanks. Keep the analysis coming.