Pregnancy

WorriedStudent · #1 06-12-2002, 08:18 AM

Hey yall

I'm new here but my concern is huge and I hope I can get some of yalls input.

ok....this is huge

my girlfriend and i had sex or whatever and I "went" inside. She is on birthcontrol and all that but I know that doesn't really mean anything. Her "time" was just last week so I'm thinking that there is less of a chance but is that true? I mean it was right after that "time" and all so it doesn't seem like she would even have eggs yet. this si obviously huge and I have no clue what to do or think or say right now. anyone who knows anything that could ease my worries or give me more, i don't care i just need honest thoughts if you'll post them here below. thanx

Kevin · #2 06-12-2002, 08:25 AM

If it was right after her period you should be in the clear but no guarantees. If ya'll are really worried about this then I'd go down to your campus health center (or a DR) and get her tested. If she's on birth control though and takes it religiously at the same time every day the chances are really low. If I recall correctly the chance for conception in a woman on birth control pills is about 1%.

Probably much lower b/c of the timing..

Good luck.

LHT
Kevin

SigmaChiCard · #3 06-12-2002, 08:26 AM

Yeah....Huge....but maybe not that bad

Supposedly there is something like a 10-day grace period (we'll call it)....10 days after her period the ovulation isn't really ovulating....It's good that it was so near the end of it though, because where you went it will stay active for about 5 days, so you should have nothing to worry about...but I won't give you any false hope...you may also have a LOT to worry about, but for now there is nothing you can do except maybe take her to a doctor (maybe campus Dr) and/or take a test.

Cory

xok85xo · #4 06-12-2002, 09:06 AM

well, according to mtv's sex show you can get pregnant when a girl is menstruating..HOWEVER...my human sexuality professor taught that she can only get pregnant while ovulating..which is about 5-7 days out of the month..generally toward the middle of her cycle..so even if she just fininished her time..or just started you should be in the clear..who do i believe? my professor. if you are that concerned go to the doctor..however, remember it takes about a week for conception

twinstars · #5 06-12-2002, 10:22 AM

A girl on the pill DOES NOT OVULATE.

Feel free to correct me, but that's what I've been told.

So if I'm right, this whole business about when her period came and how many days, etc. really doesn't matter much if there's never any egg being released (if the pill is working).

It's fairly normal to come inside a girl who's on the pill... that's the whole point of her being on it... to prevent pregnancy.

If she takes it every day (no forgetting), and takes it at about the same time every day, there's really a 1% chance or something that she could be pregnant. That is the pill's failure rate (even when you don't pull out, ever) for a whole year! So if you kept doing exactly this for a whole year, there's still only a 1% chance she'd become pregnant over the year.

There is practically no way she's pregnant if she's taking the pill correctly. It's not as if y'all had unprotected sex or something. You used one of the most effective means of protection.

You should wait until her period is actually late to even start worrying about this (and I really think there's nothing to worry about, the odds are so low). Her period should be pretty predictable since she's on the pill. She should know which day it usually starts. If it comes late, she should take a pregnancy test which you can buy at a drugstore. Even if she is a few days late, there can be other reasons why. I'm on the pill, and once my period came late due to a flu-type illness I had at the time. Even though I was on the pill, I freaked out and got a pregnancy test since I had never been late before. I wasn't pregnant, the sickness had just thrown my cycle out of whack.

Seriously, stop worrying until you at least have some evidence that she might possibly be pregnant. Girls on the pill don't get pregnant left and right.

WorriedStudent · #6 06-12-2002, 10:43 AM

I know it's not like we had unprotected sex but I just don't know very much at all about how the pill works. We're both worried and she had a friend who had a miscarriage when the condom broke despite her being on the pill but that was only days before her period - her utererus couldnt handle a child. It's just really scarey and I'd like to not ruin both of our lives beacuse of one night

and she had been taking the pill normally for a long time but she was on a trip abroad and in a different time zone and tried to adapt her pill schedule to her current time schedule but wasn't sure so she prolly wasnt taking it at the right times and i don't know what taking it at the wrong time for 2 weeks then coming back and taking it normally for just a few days could do. does that mess everything up. I want to eventually marry this girl but i wanna do it on our terms and not these. i'm just really scared

KillarneyRose · #7 06-12-2002, 10:56 AM

The chances are extremely slim that your girlfriend would get pregnant while on the pill; it is 99.9% effective when taken properly (ie at the same time every day, never skipping a day).

However, it IS possible. Very, very unlikely but not impossible.

I seriously doubt if you two have anything to worry about, but if it is really eating away at you and you don't want to wait until her next period is due to see if she is pregnant or not, have her go to a clinic or to her GYN and request a blood test for pregnancy. While the normal urine test would not show a positive result for a few weeks, a blood test will show one way or the other very early on.

I hope this helps!

PS I'm old so I know about these things :-)

rswall · #8 06-12-2002, 11:05 AM

If your girlfriend takes the pill as prescribed, she should be okay. It IS possible to get pregnant while on the pill- I personally know three girls who it has happened to! If it is an issue for concern for the both of you, you could look into alternate/additional forms of BC. I personally take the pill and Depo (it's a shot I get only 4 times a year). My doctor says if I get pregnant on this combo, I'll be a medical miracle. You could be a real sweetheart and split the cost of an additional form of BC with your girlfriend if she doesn't have insurance. Just think- condoms, the pill, the shot, etc. are a lot less expensive than a baby!

UF_Pike · #9 06-12-2002, 11:29 AM

Look!!!! Stop freaking out.....i've been in your situation many of times. I know what its like and i know its hard not to worry about it. I promise you though, its not worth the stress bro.

I had a girlfriend that was so stupid one time she thought the shit stayed in her system for a week or so after she stopped taking the pill......Needless to say she was a freshman and that in itself should explained the stupidity. We had sex like everynight,morning and afternoon and i never used a condom much less pulled out. She was still ok. Later is when i found out she quit taking it. That was grounds for a major bitching.

Like i said, try not to think about it. Tell her you dont need the stress right now and that she shouldnt be a factor in making you go crazy. If she is telling you the truth that she is taking it right, then soon you will look back at this and laugh. If she is lying to you, like alot females do, then your most likely fucked. I mean think about it, most women know that the pill is a pretty safe bet. I would be much more skeptical if the chick was worrying, because that means that now she is even unsure....
RELAX MAN!!!!!!!

WorriedStudent · #10 06-12-2002, 11:46 AM

Damn that is a hard note to relax on, and Id prefer you not call her "the bitch" but the first part of your reply was helpful so thank you and everyone who has and will reply. she's not stressing me as much as im stressing myself, shes just silent alot which is worse i think. staying calm is easier said then done but im working on it. what do you think about if her taking it at different times of the day if that will do anything like i said in the last post, like trying to adapt her pill times abroad

rswall · #11 06-12-2002, 11:54 AM

Umm, excuse me, but why is it the girl's responsibilty to handle the birth control? Use a condom.

SigmaChiCard · #12 06-12-2002, 11:56 AM

Honestly there isn't really much you can do right now other than go to a dr, but first and foremost you really do need to calm down. I've not been in your shoes but maybe that provides me with objectivity? Just write your thoughts, whether it's on here or in a journal because that's the best catharsis, and maybe do something active to take your mind off things...you just need to step outside yourself for a bit and consider the situation. Because you are so stressed, maybe a blood test would be a good idea, or wait a week and take a urine test. And look, as a couple, this could be the obstacle that brings you closer together by making it through together....just approach it that way. I sincerely doubt that taking the medicine at slightly different hours just because she was abroad will have too terribly much impact on the effectiveness of the pill though I must admit I know little about it as well. It seems as long as she takes it at reasonably close to the same time daily though that there should be no real negative effect.

Just step back, take a breath, and deal....together

dzrose93 · #13 06-12-2002, 12:02 PM

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Originally posted by UF_Pike
Look!!!! Stop freaking out.....i've been in your situation many of times. I know what its like and i know its hard not to worry about it. I promise you though, its not worth the stress bro. That is of course if she is taking her shit like she is supposed to.

I had a girlfriend that was so stupid one time she thought the shit stayed in her system for a week or so after she stopped taking the pill......Needless to say she was a freshman and that in itself should explained the stupidity. We had sex like everynight,morning and afternoon and i never used a condom much less pulled out. She was still ok. Later is when i found out she quit taking it. That was grounds for a major bitching.

Like i said, try not to think about it. If your girl keeps bringing the shit up, tell her to shut the fuck up. Tell her you dont need the stress right now and that she shouldnt be a factor in making you go crazy. If she is telling you the truth that she is taking it right, then soon you will look back at this and laugh. If she is lying to you, like alot females do, then your most likely fucked. I mean think about it, most women know that the pill is a pretty safe bet. I would be much more skeptical if the chick was worrying, because that means that now she is even unsure....which means the bitch has been lying to you this whole time about taking it right.

RELAX MAN!!!!!!!

UF_Pike,

I am extremely offended by the way you referred to women in your post (and many others)... You really need to think before you post from now on. You're making yourself and the Pi Kappa Alpha fraternity look terrible. The Pikes I know are classy guys and they would be appalled to see the nasty posts you've made under the screenname of a man in their fraternity. Be more respectful please.

UF_Pike · #14 06-12-2002, 12:04 PM

Dude,

First off. sorry for the bitch comment. I have a tendancy to say that about chicks when they do shitty things such as that which i was reffering to.

Second, It doesnt matter what time she takes her pill. She could take it one morning before her 10am class and then not take it again untill like 3pm the next day and still be ok. Just as long as she takes it somtime everyday. This has been the case in many of my cases. Often time my ex would take it one morning and then if we went out and came home at like 4,5,6 am and had mad sex she would still be ok. the thing is though she cannot skip days. For example, she cant expect it to work if she takes it on monday and then wed. is the next time she takes it. Or in one case i heard of a girl taking it only when she had sex......I mean shit dude, this crapp isnt the day after pill......she need not to take it the same time everyday but at least once every 24 hours. I

If your that worried about it, go to the infirmary at your school and get the day after pills. I think its like 50-100$ and it solves all your problems. You wont have to worry about it...... Besides its alot cheaper than having an abortion. Thats shits like 400$ in the early stages.........

hope i helped.....

and remember.....relax ......................

Kevin · #15 06-12-2002, 12:23 PM

Morning after pills are a lot cheapter than that (or so I'm told)..

Also from what I know it actually does matter what time of day she takes the pills. They recommend you take them at the exact same time every day.

It's horomone therapy. You do what the Dr's say is good to do.