losing my big sister tomorrow...:(

PhiMuNursie · #1 06-22-2002, 12:32 AM

So I'm at the mall today picking my Big Sister out a graduation present for tomorrow (she's getting her Masters) and it all of a sudden hits me that she's really leaving. For the last four years she's been right here with me every step of the way, now she's moving out and I don't know what to do with myself I'm soooo sad.

So my question is...What have those of you done to keep in touch with your Big Sister/Brother after ya'll graduate and move and such? Are you still as close as ever?

Tell me something to make me feel better...please.

I'm just thanking God she's been here this long. My heart goes out to everyone who loses their Big during your collegiate days, now I understand a little better what ya'll are going through.

Anyway...words of wisdom?

Tara

I have a Phi Mu castle...

XOAlumXO · #2 06-22-2002, 02:36 AM

Well, my big and I have stayed in touch since grad. Luckily we both decided to stay in town and work here. We run around in the same group of friends, so it was easy for us to keep in touch. I am actually moving into a one bedroom apt next month, and my big and I are going to be neighbors.

My lil sis is still in school and lives right by the university. It's pretty hard to make our schedules match though. She's all into going out since she has late classes. I have to be at work early in the morning so going out is basically limited to the weekends for me. We set aside time for "family time." We go to dinners and invite everyone in our family so we all get to see each other. This happens once a month or so.

This kinda goes along with a long-distance friendship. It's all about setting aside time to make a phone call or write an email. Granted, you won't be able to see a long distance friend often, but you'll still be able to be close through phonecalls/letters. My bestfriend since I was 14 went away to South Carolina for school, and we actually got closer during that time!

SATX*APhi · #3 06-22-2002, 03:06 AM

Tara,

I can relate. My big sis graduated this year and is moving in July to another city.

We are close and I am going to miss her very much! Granted, she will only be 4 hours away, but I will probably get to see her once every month or two.

Like XOAlumXO said, writing and phone calls are key. My big sis and I chat on AOL, even when we are in the same city, so I know we'll always have that form of communication. Also, thank God for nation-wide calling on cell phones.

Your big sis will not physically be by your side, but she will be forever be in your heart.

lionlove · #4 06-23-2002, 09:31 PM

I know what it's like to lose a big. I lost mine at the end of my sophmore year and I have no other family, no twins or cousins or even my own little. It's hard when everyone else is doing family photos and I am the only one in the house without a family.

On the bright side, I do still keep in touch with my big. She goes to grad school an hour away from my college so I go down and spend weekends with her. When I was in France she kept me up to date with the American gossip and news.

AZDZetaSigma03 · #5 06-24-2002, 12:53 AM

Honestly, I never was close to my Big. She picked me up in the fall of her senior year, and since I didn't move into the house till the next semester and didn't visit the house except for pledge meetings my first semester, i didn't really get to know her that well. So since she's been gone we haven't been in touch at all, and when I do see her, it's not anything special. Don't get me wrong, she was a wonderful big in that she gave me everything she was supposed to and put a lot of time and effort into pick-up, but I have a lot closer relationship with my Little Sisses (2 of 'em).

wvapogirl · #6 06-27-2002, 01:14 PM

Be thankful that your Big is only leaving, PhiMuNursie...

My Big Brother (actually a girl named Mel, we were in a co-ed frat) died last year on July 31. I had sent one of my graduation announcements to her, and got a call from her mom telling me that Mel was in the hospital in a coma because of a non-cancerous brain tumor. At first they thought that she was going to pull through it, but the tumor had cut off too much oxygen to her brain, leaving her brain-dead. I didn't get to say goodbye. She didn't get to come to my wedding in April (although I do believe that she was there as my guardian angel). I miss her so much... Now I'm crying (great...)... But I wouldn't have changed my Big for the world. She was so wonderful to me, such a great friend.

"And I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go. Our lives are better left to chance. I could have missed the pain, but I'd had to miss the dance."

Rest in Peace, Mel

PhiMuNursie · #7 06-27-2002, 04:23 PM

wvapogirl--you're right. I have alot to be thankful about that she's only moving. I'm so sorry about your Big, I can't imagine how hard that was for you.

On a brighter side of my situation, I have talked to her a couple times and now she's traveling for the month. So, while she's not just a short trip through the living room anymore, she's still there.

Thanks everyone for your messages and thoughts! I appreciate it!

Tara

I have a Phi Mu castle...