How do you handle unhappy Greeks???

jojapeach · #1 06-19-2002, 12:16 AM

I have a story to tell, but I'll make it brief. I work with a member of XYZ, and he basically told me that he is not having good experiences with his organization. He made it sound like the only good times he has had were when he was going through "intake", and all of that wasn't good in his eyes. Matter of fact, he even said he no longer speaks to members of XYZ when he sees them because he's encountered too many that don't speak back.

How do you handle a situation like that, even if they are not in your organization? Is there anything that can be done or said? He knows that I'm an excited Neo, but none of that has rubbed off on him. It's just disappointing to see someone so disenchanted with the organization they've pledged their lives to.

UNIQUE97 · #2 06-19-2002, 12:32 AM

Wow soRHOr,

IT is very unfortunate for someone to feel that way about an org they joined for brotherhood and comrodary. There is not much you CAN do but remain excited about your OWN org and maybe you will eventually motivate him by example!!!

kizzie22 · #3 06-19-2002, 12:53 AM

Wow SoRHOr! I really feel sorry for him. He should have spent more time around these individuals before he decided to become a member of that org. Like SoRHOr Unique said keep your Sigma light shinning bright! He needs to get out and meet more members of his org and don't limit himself.

UNIQUE97 · #4 06-19-2002, 09:20 AM

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Originally posted by kizzie22
He needs to get out and meet more members of his org and don't limit himself.

I totally agree soRHOr! A few bad apples should not spoil his view of the whole organization. Maybe he should try doing some internet searching and look up some of his brothers in other places!!

SeriousSigma22 · #5 06-20-2002, 06:15 PM

Sorhors,

I totally agree with your comments! Most people just stick with the members of their local chapters and they never branch out to meet other members of their organizations. Then when they experience a disagreement or have a problem with those select members they believe that all members act the same way. The moral of the story is to meet, greet, and hangout with out members of your organizations from different areas and chapters so that you can get a clearer understanding about the attitudes and workings of that organization.

Seroiussigma22

SeriousSigma22 · #6 06-20-2002, 06:29 PM

Sorhors,

Now you know that I'm taking medication and not feeling well! I just realized that I spelled my own chant name wrong (smile)!

Serioussigma22

jojapeach · #7 06-21-2002, 12:39 AM

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Originally posted by SeriousSigma22
Sorhors,

Now you know that I'm taking medication and not feeling well! I just realized that I spelled my own chant name wrong (smile)!

Serioussigma22

It's okay, soror. *like Synclaire* Woo Woo Woo! Just as long as you get better!

I thought you all made great points. Soror SeriousSigma22, I thought your point about sticking to your local chapter members is a very plausible situation for many Greeks, and I've been guilty in the past myself. Since I'm trying to branch out more, I've met great sorors in different places, and I love them all! Frankly, my co-worker doesn't have that problem because plenty of people really like him. He just has issues with his frat.

I think that everyone may find a small issue within their organization on a local and/or national level, but the most important thing is to remember the vision of your Founders. With that type of inspiration, you can always look and think outside of what's going on in your small corner of the world to make sure your Founders' vision is upheld for all the world to see. It's just a killer that he is throwing away the brotherhood and love. I learned a quote long before I became a Sigma that I will always keep with me: "Every friend is not your soror, and every soror is not your friend." It's all like being in your own family. You love your brothers, sisters, cousins, etc, but your level of closeness and friendship will vary. Although that is the case, I still love every woman that took that special pledge with me. It's all still a trip to me.

DSTilmatic_1913 · #8 06-21-2002, 10:50 AM

I know a friend personally who went through the same thing and even now I can hear the pain in my friend's voice when they speak of it. My advice has always been 1) look outside your chapter because your org is bigger than that 2) Never shy away from or give up your rights to claim and wear those letters across your chest (YOU EARNED THEM!!) 3) DO NOT FORGET WHY YOU PLEDGED YOUR PARTICULAR ORG - THERE HAD TO BE SOME MEMBER ALONG THE WAY OR SOMETHING SPECIAL THAT MADE YOU SEE THE LIGHT.

If I could meet your co-worker that is what I would tell him.

SeriousSigma22 · #9 06-21-2002, 01:22 PM

Jojopeach and Sisterfriends,

Those are some very valid points and statements made by you ladies. The moral of this story is this - unhappy greeks don't give up the original interest you had in your particular organization just because you don't particularly like some of the members of your organization or even agree with the attitudes and behaviors of a few members. The real goal is to continue on with the legacy your founders established for the organization.

Serioussigma22

kizzie22 · #10 06-23-2002, 01:20 AM

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Originally posted by DSTilmatic_1913
I know a friend personally who went through the same thing and even now I can hear the pain in my friend's voice when they speak of it. My advice has always been 1) look outside your chapter because your org is bigger than that 2) Never shy away from or give up your rights to claim and wear those letters across your chest (YOU EARNED THEM!!) 3) DO NOT FORGET WHY YOU PLEDGED YOUR PARTICULAR ORG - THERE HAD TO BE SOME MEMBER ALONG THE WAY OR SOMETHING SPECIAL THAT MADE YOU SEE THE LIGHT.

If I could meet your co-worker that is what I would tell him.

That is some excellent advice and if your friend listens to you she will be alright!

Diva06Sweet · #11 06-23-2002, 09:43 PM

I have been through the same thing... i pleged a sorority, not a nphc one, but i did not get along with any of my line sisters.. only my front and back who both droped a week before we crossed..
i always felt alone.. but after i gradauted i was active with the national body and served as a distric director,
I still long to have that closeness to my line sisters and my undergrad chapter but sometimes it is just not possible.
I have a great time at the alumni level....
look out side of your chapter...