my out of body experience

smiley21 · #1 12-03-2003, 03:23 AM

the past few weeks, guy smiley has been seriously talking about getting married. so serious that yesterday he said that he wanted to look at engagement rings.

i was like 'holy crap, this cant be happening'. well tonight, we were at the mall and he HAD to go to the jewelry store. he didnt tell me where in the mall he was going until we got there. anyway, we get in the store and suddenly i cannot breathe. everything immediately gets hazy and it is as if i am floating with him to the counter. the saleslady takes out the ring and from there, my mind goes blank. it is like i am in a dream. the voices i hear around me is not making sense. then the lady and guy smiley wants me to try on the rings. suddenly i cant get my hand to stop shaking long enough to put on the ring. when i do put it on, it lasts for all of a second. cause i am so nervous with this beautiful ring on my finger. i dont wear any rings, so to see this one nearly sends me into shock. the entire time i cannot say a word. all i actually say is that 'i like the ring'. i have always dreamed of the moment of marrying my guy smiley. but now i feel like i am not in my own body and this is all just a dream. we wouldnt actually get married until i am about to graduate college but it is as if everything is taking off so fast.

we have been together for over two years though. it was a very unreal experience

cashmoney · #2 12-03-2003, 01:06 PM

Man, I hope I don't get like that......by the time cashmoney is ready to bust out a ring.....I'm gonna be soooOOOOooo smooth about it.

ZTAngel · #3 12-03-2003, 01:21 PM

Your experience yesterday almost seems like the feeling you get right before you faint. Shaking, shallow breathing, everything looking hazy, the voices sounding distant. Maybe you were so nervous that you almost passed out.
It almost sounds to me like you might not be ready for marriage yet. That's find and completely normal. You're still young. Just because you've been dating for 2 years doesn't mean that you have to feel ready for marriage. That's a huge step. There's couples out there that have dated for several years before marriage. Don't worry about it too much.

I had a similar situation a few months ago. My boyfriend may have to move out of state for his doctorate (he's going for a PhD in Analytical Chemistry and the top schools are Chapel Hill, CalTech, Harvard, MIT, and Florida....guess which school I'm hoping he chooses?

). He wants me to go with him to wherever he goes to school. I told my mother this and she said, "Well, if you go with him, you better make sure that there's a ring on your finger." I suddenly got really shaky. Then, I began to hyperventilate. It was awful. I love him very much and we've been together for almost 3 years. But, that situation made me realize that I'm just not ready for marriage yet. Give me a few years. Luckily, he feels the same way.

So, if the cause of you feeling like that yesterday was just because you're unsure about marriage, maybe explain to your boyfriend that you love him and want to be with him forever but you're just not ready for that next step yet. He will hopefully understand.

cashmoney · #4 12-03-2003, 01:39 PM

ZTAngel-

Uhhhh, moving out of state with your BF while not engaged and with you leaving your job.......thats not smart at all. When you say Florida, you mean UF? I'll say a prayer that he goes Orange and Blue.

mu_agd · #5 12-03-2003, 01:41 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney
ZTAngel-

Uhhhh, moving out of state with your BF while not engaged and with you leaving your job.......thats not smart at all. When you say Florida, you mean UF? I'll say a prayer that he goes Orange and Blue.

it can work though. my sister moved with her boyfriend to another state when he started grad school, about two and a half years ago. although, she was able to stay with her same job. they got married over the summer.

ZTAngel · #6 12-03-2003, 02:06 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney
ZTAngel-

Uhhhh, moving out of state with your BF while not engaged and with you leaving your job.......thats not smart at all. When you say Florida, you mean UF? I'll say a prayer that he goes Orange and Blue.

Yeah, I probably won't end up moving. I love it here in Florida way too much. Plus, my family and friends are here.
We'll try the whole LD thing if that happens. I'm really hoping he decides on UF. I'll just stay in Orlando and visit him on the weekends. He knows a few people there so he won't be lonely. And my sister can keep an eye on him

(she's at UF).

cashmoney · #7 12-03-2003, 02:57 PM

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Originally posted by ZTAngel
Yeah, I probably won't end up moving. I love it here in Florida way too much. Plus, my family and friends are here.
We'll try the whole LD thing if that happens. I'm really hoping he decides on UF. I'll just stay in Orlando and visit him on the weekends. He knows a few people there so he won't be lonely. And my sister can keep an eye on him (she's at UF).

G-ville isnt that bad. Its a lot closer than what it seems like.

I thought he was thinking about moving to ATL. Whats up with that?

ZTAngel · #8 12-03-2003, 03:08 PM

He was considering Georgia Tech for a while but he the US News Graduate School rankings. He looked at the Top 10 schools for graduate programs in Analytical Chemistry. Unfortunately, GATech wasn't ranked in the Top Ten.

I was sad because I would love to move to Atlanta. It's beautiful there and I have family in ATL so I wouldn't be lonely.

smiley21 · #9 12-03-2003, 04:33 PM

actually, i did say to him when we left the store that i felt like i was going to faint. i want to get married when i graduate college. it is hard to say if i am ready for marriage cause i am not getting married now. it will be in a year and half to two years away. then with school behind me, i will be ready to get married. but the whole situation wasnt about me being ready or not. it was mainly for the fact that i felt like i was living a fantasy.

smiley21 · #10 12-03-2003, 07:38 PM

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Originally posted by ariesrising
Don't forget, being engaged doesn't mean you have to get married right away. You can be engaged for however long you want...maybe it'll be less scary if you think of it that way.

Just make sure he knows that lol.

oh he knows. if we get engaged now, we would be for a year and a half.
my old boss is still engaged and has been for 4 years!

PhiPsiRuss · #11 12-03-2003, 08:06 PM

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Originally posted by smiley21
oh he knows. if we get engaged now, we would be for a year and a half.
my old boss is still engaged and has been for 4 years!

you've been engaged to your old boss for 4 years? Don't you think that you should call one of these relationships off?

smiley21 · #12 12-03-2003, 09:33 PM

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Originally posted by russellwarshay
you've been engaged to your old boss for 4 years? Don't you think that you should call one of these relationships off?

oh brother