GC Ladies...can you explain this to me?

Betarulz! · #1 04-24-2002, 12:25 AM

Okay, so there's this girl that I like in Theta. She and I are on a Student Advisory Board together. We first met back when we both got on the board in October. Didnt' really start talking to each other until February, and in the past 6-7 weeks since just before Spring Break we've been getting to know each other a lot better. I kinda liked her when we started talking, but now, particularly in the past two weeks or so I've really started liking her a lot. We have quite a bit in common, and we just get along really well.

Now, of course it's formal season, and while I didn't go to mine, I asked her who she took to hers. She said "just a guy I went to high school with." I found out on Sunday that this guy has been her boyfriend since around Christmas.

I think it's kinda odd that she hasn't mentioned she had a boyfriend at all in all the time we've been hanging out. So am I wrong to read something in to this deletion of information? Or should I take this as a sign of something else?

I'm just really confused by it all...

Esperanza03 · #2 04-24-2002, 12:36 AM

How did you "find out" about this boyfriend? Did she tell you or did you hear it from someone else? Did you confront her about it? I'm guessing that you heard it from someone else and haven't confronted her about it yet which is definetly something you need to do. But if it is in fact true that while you've been seeing each other, she's had this boyfriend and lied saying that he was "just a guy she went to high school with", then you need to just be friends with her. He may very well be a guy she went to high school with but she knew damn well she should've told you that the two of them were together. So like I said, ask her about the boyfriend thing and if she says that it is true, then you need to maintain a cordial and professional relationship with her but definetly stop dating her. If she says its not true, then its up to your discretion as to whether she is telling the truth or not. Good luck and I hope I was able to help a little.

LeslieAGD · #3 04-24-2002, 12:37 AM

Hey Beta, my thought is that since you didn't start talking until February, and she was with this guy at Christmas, she didn't want to re-hash old news. Maybe the relationship just didn't work yet they're still friends and that's why she took him to formal. As long as she's not still pinning after him, I wouldn't be that concerned.

Leslie Anne · #4 04-24-2002, 04:23 AM

Trying to figure out "girl-speak" can be very complicated. (We do this deliberately).

My suggestion would be to just ask her if she has a boyfriend. It can be hard but openness and honesty are really the best ways to deal with things. When you get older you realize what a waste of time all the guessing and games are.

Good Luck!

aggieAXO · #5 04-24-2002, 05:28 AM

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Originally posted by Leslie Anne

My suggestion would be to just ask her if she has a boyfriend. It can be hard but openness and honesty are really the best ways to deal with things. When you get older you realize what a waste of time all the guessing and games are.

Good Luck! [/B]

so true, so true, I have stopped playing games and do not tolerate any games that guys play. JUst ask her, don't waste anymore time wondering, time is to precious.

LexiKD · #6 04-24-2002, 11:17 AM

I would be straight forward and ask...that was good advice!

shultzz · #7 04-24-2002, 12:42 PM

Dont even bring the boyfriend up. Just put the ball in her court and ask her out.

LeslieAGD · #8 04-24-2002, 01:11 PM

Personally, I wouldn't suggest asking about the other guy. If she said he's just "some guy" then it's most likely over. If you mention him, she's probably wonder were you heard about him and get defensive.

ZTAngel · #9 04-24-2002, 01:23 PM

"just a guy I went to high school with"....
If she does indeed have a boyfriend then this is girl language for "I'm interested in you".
But, I am wondering where you heard the info that she was in relationship? You need to verify that she actually does have a boyfriend.
Ask her out...it couldn't hurt.

Betarulz! · #10 04-24-2002, 04:39 PM

Well thanks for the advice so far...

Since everyone keeps wondering how I heard...Here it is:

We've been doing all this work advertising a College of Arts & Sciences Student Appreciation Day, which is where we've been doing all the talking to each other. On Sunday, we were assembling table tents to put in the union and the Dining halls. This is where it all came up. She didn't say anythign about him until one of my pledge bros asked specifically about the guy. That's where I first heard about this guy and her actually going out...She also said that the night before she and him had dinner with her aunts who were in town for the Spring football game.

Thank you all so much for the advice/translation

. I think I'll ask her what it all means next week.

James · #11 05-30-2002, 09:43 PM

Anything new Buddy?

Betarulz! · #12 05-31-2002, 05:57 PM

Actually nothing new to report...the final two and a half weeks of school were really busy for both of us and so we didn't talk at all during that time...Now that it is summer and she's back at home and I'm away from home being a camp counselor for Space camp, everything is pretty much on hiatus. We've traded a couple e-mails since school's been out, and she may come to the one rush event that I'm able to make this summer, but in all actuality, I think I may just let her go. We'll see how things change either when I see her in about a month at the rush event, or when school starts up again.