Just a Question??

[Queencece]

With all the talk on perpin in the other forum and all I have a question. Basically, they are talking about perps and how some people are not real because they came in on ghost lines and these people are not reconized by Nationals and on the roll call at the HQ and how these people will never ever be members because of this.


My question is how do you know when it is real or how do you know when it isnt a joke by the members of XYZ org because they need something to do? How do you know that this is the real thing?

Queencece

[Tenacious1922]

Hello Queencece,

I think you asked a good question. Since there is illegal activity that goes on for bringing in new members. Speaking from my own experience (without getting too detailed) I first knew that the chapter was an active chapter on campus (not suspended etc..)They had activites on campus, where they had to rent space on campus and usually if you are in any trouble with any of the powers that be, you can not do this. Activities also included Informationals, or what some call Teas. Where you learned more about the sorority etc. What I noticed in those who were ghosts etc., was that when it came to offical college functions..they were no where to be found to represent. But at off campus functions..especially parties they were in full form. I would just watch out for chapters that you know are currently suspended. Now I do know that active campus chapters have done some shady things as well, but you just got to use commonsense and keep your eyes and ears open and don't shout out your business. Meaning don't tell everyone and their mommy what you are going to be Because at that point you have left yourself wide open to be taken advantage of. I had seen a young lady come to my soror's door and cry (tears and all) about how bad she wanted to become a member etc. Now...there was nothing wrong with her expressing her interest, but imagine how we could have taken advantage of her if we were those type of people. So it goes both ways. As a non-greek you can not let the want
of becoming Greek make you lose your mind or who you are as a person, and as a Greek you can not let that go to your head, and misuse people to the point of where you risk them never gaining true membership.

Tenacious1922

[kizzie22]

Well Queenece, I agree with everything that my soRHOr has said....If you just sit back and observe you can spot the ghosts sorors and frats easily. When I was in undergrad there was a certain frat that had ghost members floating around all over the place. They attended all of the parties and stepshows on our campus. They were nowhere to be found when there were greek council meetings on campus. Are the members doing anything in the community? Red flag...If they aren't doing any type of community service. I would stay away from them.Like my soRHOr said don't tell everybody what you want to pledge...This can come back and hurt you in the end. Sadly but true some members will use that against you. Especially if the don't like you.Good Luck and stay cautious on your quest for greekdom.