I am going to be a______

maggieaxid · #1 10-30-2001, 03:22 PM

Has any PNM/Rushee ever tell you that they were going to be part of your organization or another organization and what did you do about it?

ZTAngel · #2 10-30-2001, 03:29 PM

I've had a lot of girls say to me, "I really love it here at ZTA. This is the only sorority I can see myself in." I just tell them to enjoy the rest of rush and keep their options open. Luckily, I have never had someone say to me, "I'm just here I Zeta cause I have to be. I actually want to be an XYZ." (knock on wood) I know other sisters have heard that. I don't know how I'd react. I'd definitely be really offended. I'd probably just smile and bite my tongue at the same time. Then, I'd quickly introduce her to another sister.

ladybug1116 · #3 10-30-2001, 04:06 PM

We had a girl that came through rush this year and went on and on to our sisters about how she was going to be an XYZ or an ABC. We kept her though for reasons I'm not going to get into. Well come skit day she has been dropped by both of her "prize" houses and she cried to one of our sisters the whole time how she didn't know what she was going to do now that she wouldn't be able to wear the other houses letters. I had to wonder why she even bothered coming to our party...or any other--she could have refused and she obviously didn't want to be there. I have no idea where she ended up.

DeltaBetaBaby · #4 10-30-2001, 04:53 PM

We have gotten quite a few girls who come through and tell everyone at our party that they are going to be an AEPhi or SDT. Those are the two Jewish houses on our campus, and many girls do not feel the other options are worth a look.

33girl · #5 10-30-2001, 07:52 PM

There was a girl who walked around campus saying things like "WHEN I pledge ASA" and actually had the balls to break in on conversations between sisters at fraternity parties and such. Needless to say, she was not invited to join.

Oh, and we had the girl who came to our party in jeans and her boyfriend's letter sweatshirt, as if to say "I can be a b**** but you should all kiss my butt since I'm lavaliered to a PSK." She ended up being in the sorority her boyfriend was sweetheart of.

XO_Princess · #6 10-30-2001, 09:17 PM

I was introduced to a freshman during my sophmore year, who , in her very inebriated state told me that she loved Chi Omega, and really wanted to be one. I didn't really know her, and didn't even remember who she was during Rush. I just thought it was funny that she already had her mind made up, and Rush wasn't starting until the next semester (at my school, freshman were only allowed to rush during their 2nd semester).

mmcat · #7 10-30-2001, 09:56 PM

those horror stories are indeed nasty...
it begs the question, didn't your mother raise you correctly?
bad manners do not make it in the real world.
mmcat

SSS1365 · #8 10-30-2001, 10:04 PM

There was a girl who went through last spring, and she said things like, "When I'm a tri Sigma..." which really was not cool with us. She got cut, for other reasons as well, but it just goes to show that you shouldn't get too cocky when you're going through recruitment.

ErikaXO · #9 10-30-2001, 11:03 PM

We had girls come through like that. Sometimes if we just knew they were leaning one way or another we would dig in even harder to win her if she was someone we liked a lot. There was nothing we liked more than snagging someone that one of the other 2 of the big 3 wanted!!! But if someone came in with the attitude "I'm GOING to be a Chi O" she would probably get dropped unless she was best friends with like half the chapter or was someone's younger sister or something. Likewise, if someone came in with the attitude "I'm GOING to be a DG" we were like, "Yeah, good because you're not going to be a Chi O" and she was gone! I must admit it was always satisfying to find out those girls suicided and didn't get a bid, or got dropped early on and ended up somewhere else.

ErikaXO · #10 10-30-2001, 11:05 PM

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Originally posted by DeltaBetaBaby
We have gotten quite a few girls who come through and tell everyone at our party that they are going to be an AEPhi or SDT. Those are the two Jewish houses on our campus, and many girls do not feel the other options are worth a look.

That's funny, DeltaBeta.....we had AEII but no jewish sororities on our campus, so Chi O kind of became the unofficial jewish house. It seemed like all of the jewish girls ended up going Chi O. I wonder if it would have been that way had we had AEPhi or one of the others.....

aephi alum · #11 10-31-2001, 12:01 AM

I'm seeing a lot of talk in this thread, about the "Jewish houses" and how people only see themselves in particular sororities because of their religious affiliation.

Let me point out that AEPhi was founded on the basis of non-discrimination. The 7 founding sisters were all Jewish, but they did not feel comfortable at the existing sororities at Barnard because all of those sororities were based on Christianity - so they formed their own sorority. My own chapter had Jewish, Catholic, Lutheran, Episcopalian, Eastern Orthodox, Hindu, and Atheist sisters, and that was only while I was an active. We do not discriminate on the basis of religion.

To address the topic at hand - if any rushee came through our rush room assuming she'd be an AEPhi just because of her religion (and this has happened) she'd be cut so fast.....

shadokat · #12 10-31-2001, 12:39 AM

AEPhi, I hear you on that sentiment, but unfortunately some of our really big houses are predominately Jewish, so we get called a Jewish sorority. But what people don't realize is D Phi E was the first non-sectarian sorority, even if all the women were Jewish. I just think it's funny because someone says, "Oh, you're in a Jewish sorority", and there were maybe 3 Jewish girls in it the whole time I was active

HeidiHo · #13 10-31-2001, 01:38 AM

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Originally posted by mmcat
those horror stories are indeed nasty...
it begs the question, didn't your mother raise you correctly?
bad manners do not make it in the real world.
mmcat

Willy Wonka was on earlier & I realized that your posts remind me of the Oompa Loompas.

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On to the thread- My cousin did these same things during her rush.
"HeidiHo: What other orgs are on your campus?
Heidi'sCousin: I don't care, I only want to be a Chi."

She kept calling in Chi, too. It drove me batty. She ended up not being invited back & is now in another (very well respected) NPC.
Heidi

mmcat · #14 10-31-2001, 08:48 AM

should i burst into song at this point?
don't have any golden bars with me.
mmcat

DeltaBetaBaby · #15 10-31-2001, 01:05 PM

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Originally posted by aephi alum
I'm seeing a lot of talk in this thread, about the "Jewish houses" and how people only see themselves in particular sororities because of their religious affiliation.

Let me point out that AEPhi was founded on the basis of non-discrimination. The 7 founding sisters were all Jewish, but they did not feel comfortable at the existing sororities at Barnard because all of those sororities were based on Christianity - so they formed their own sorority. My own chapter had Jewish, Catholic, Lutheran, Episcopalian, Eastern Orthodox, Hindu, and Atheist sisters, and that was only while I was an active. We do not discriminate on the basis of religion.

To address the topic at hand - if any rushee came through our rush room assuming she'd be an AEPhi just because of her religion (and this has happened) she'd be cut so fast.....

I'm sorry, I in no way meant to offend you if it came out that way. However, on my campus, the predominantly Jewish houses make it no secret that they want to remain that way. Of course, there are girls that get released from one or the other, but for the most part, the two houses are in stiff competition for certain women.

Many of the Jewish girls participating in recruitment are legacies to one or the other, and know many of the girls from high school. These chapters draw from the north suburbs, and everyone knows everyone else. So obviously there are no guarantees, but we have had some god-awful rushees that have been picked up by one of the Jewish houses.