Can you go back?

[lovelyivy84]

Question: Is there redemption from saying something or some things that are really, really stupid on GC?

On the one hand, everyone has bad days where they say things they don't really mean. And not everyone is an English major who analyzes their words particularly carefully because they caer how it'll come off.

On the other, this is the internet, where all we know is what you write. We have no means to evaluate the things you really do mean and the things you just say, because we don't know you. How can people not remember EVERYTHING and take that into account? How can they not let those things color their 'opinions' of 'you' and how they respond or do not respond to your future posts?

So that is my question: after saying something outrageously dumb or mean or arrogant, or all of the above can you be considered cool peeps again? Will GC people ever forget what you said?

[SigmaChiCard]

I would hope so, because everyone seems to be highly intelligent in most regards and not too many run around stomping on toes or anything...tempers have flared and unkind words written, but I think...I hope...that all GC residents are level headed enough and respectful enough to forgive and while not neccesarily forget...move beyond.

[ZTAngel]

As much as many of us would like to say that we don't take some things to heart on here, I will admit that some things people have said to me make me want to spit nails. I understand that people get angry and writing will sometimes makes you feel better but, jeez people, watch what you say. There are people on here that are truly offended by some comments.
I don't agree with everything that someone says but that doesn't mean I don't care for that person has to say. There have been times where someone has offended me and as much as I would love to tell them exactly how I feel I must remember that my letters are attached to my username. My anger is not worth the reputation of Zeta Tau Alpha. There have been people on here that I've had "outs" with but many of them I have forgiven and now value their opinion. For the others, I just choose to ignore them.

[Honeykiss1974]

For me, its depends. If you have been cool since day one and then one day, you post something that is totally off base with your normal posting, then I will just chalk it up to you having a bad day, or maybe that was just an issue that you're passionate about.

But if you're someone that only comes around to make disrecpectful comments on certain topics, then you all of a sudden try to be nice well, my red flag is up when it comes to you.

[PM_Mama00]

So wait...am I not cool anymore cuz I've gone back deleting stuff I've said sometimes? Someone can go and try to fix the mistakes they've made. I remember one particular member who continuously went off on me about something a long time ago, and is still doin it. Does that change the way I look at that person? If I met that member in person we could get along great and become bestest friends. This is the INTERNET. Who cares? In a way I care what some people think of me because I would like some of them to take things that I say seriously, but in another way I could care less. Back to my original comment about me bein cool....I AM COOL! U ARE COOL! We're all cool in our own ways and if someone is gona let a post on GC think someone is not cool, well...then I dont know what to say.

Why do I have a feeling this thread is about me? Also sometimes I type threat instead of thread cuz I'm retarded, but I really mean threaD. Another thing...I'm not dumb. I read other posts...I know when things are about me so if ur gona say something about me go right out and say it's about me. It's funny and it's brightening my boring day at work.

[SigmaChiCard]

HK....good point. If you're a general A-Hole 99% of the time just trying to cause trouble like some of those previously banned, then yeah...being nice implies deceit....but generally, like I said, I can't think of anyone who currently runs around stepping on toes too much unless it's just that their opinion on a solitary matter is strong and conflicting....so I think we should all be able to get back.

PM....I don't anyone implied that you're not cool.

[thesweetestone]

I look at like this as big community of people. Arguements are bound to happen. People are bound too disagree. Good discussion is wonderful. Maybe someone will be enlightened.

[PM_Mama00]

Originally posted by thesweetestone
I look at like this as big community of people. Arguements are bound to happen. People are bound too disagree. Good discussion is wonderful. Maybe someone will be enlightened.

I totally agree.

[lovelyivy84]

You gave me the idea for the trhead, but it's not solely about you.

There are a couple of people on GC who have shown out in a NUMBER of ways, and many of them are not in chit chat.

This thread is probably more about Dionysus/SH80/SH80er/ and CelestialBlue/SistaRisin than you.

I tried to argue both sides in my post- because it all depends on what you said and who you are.

Like for EXAMPLE if you are a person on GC who has always been very righteous and all of a sudden post about something that you did that was wrong- can people really look at you the same way? WOn't you lose a LOT of moral authority? *ahem*

Or if you are an intelligent person with great things to say on many topics but who on certain topics such as different GLOs is a complete obsessive psycho, how do we look at you?

Believe me, your one post is nothing compared to some of the things on GC, lol.

In my opinion it all depends. SOmetimes there's no going back,a nd sometimes it's easy to move on.

[FuzzieAlum]

Yes, if someone makes one dumb comment, that's different I think than someone who always says dumb things. I think that most of us form these mental images of frequent posters (and of their GLOs). There are some people I always agree with, others I rarely do, some I respect for their maturity, and others I think are brats. One ignorant comment, or something said in frustration, could happen to most of us.

Plus, if your screenname reflects your GLO, it affects my thinking about your organization. I try to remember when I post that I reflect not only myself but also Alpha Xi Delta. Like ZTAngel said, "My anger is not worth the reputation of Zeta Tau Alpha." You represent your organization as much here as you do wearing letters on campus.

I suppose there are some comments that wouldn't be recoverable. If I said I hated (insert a race, GLO, etc. here), that would be remembered. Or if I got really negative and personal with someone, I'm sure they'd find that hard to forgive.

[KSig RC]

Honestly, I think that this issue may be more pressing for those of you in HBGLOs, b/c the topics in those org-specific forums tend to be more active than the forum for, say, my organization.

Dealing with issues more serious than those offered up in Chit-Chat would put you more 'on the spot' when it comes to a person's respectibility, and regarding his/her opinion, than some of the more banal topics (such as the World Cup or music tastes) and it seems like then it may be more acceptible to hold prior postings in mind when taking a person's opinion.

Then again, maybe not.

[ilovemyglo]

I read GC everyday, religiously. I don't post for weeks at a time. There was a day that I had something happen that involved another org and I was so mad I posted something about that org. I shouldn't have, it was just a few members, but I was so mad!!! I vented in the wrong way for the place I was. I immediately tried to fix the problem and I think I was forgiven. Everyone that saw it knew I was just upset.
I typically post only in the AGD forum or Rush forum because that is what I know about mostly, although I like the chit chat and Greek Life forums occasionally.

I do think that people need to cut one another slack. This is the internet. Let's be honest, here,
We can say we are XYZs and ABCs but was anyone else on this board at your initiation and saw you become a full member? Probably not. We all trust one another to be what we say. But would you send something about your ritual, say, to anyone that claimed to be from your org on here? I love the women of my sorority and I hold dearly to the ties I have made here with them, but I trust them to be initiated members and unless I had some proof I would not discuss something like ritual on here.
That is just a thought I had.
SOme people are so serious on here. The world is not politically correct so why should GC be? People express themselves here and their ideas. That is what makes the world so interesting. I may not agree with someones ideas, but they have every right to post just as I do. That makes the whole GC world go round.

[amycat412]

I think its possible. There's one member of GC now that was, I believe (if its who i think it is) previously banned on several occasions and pissed a lot of us off. She's been conducting herself with dignity and humor this time around and is a productive member of our community now.

[Dionysus]

Well, just like in face-to-face communication, I can forgive just about anyone for just about anything. Forgetting is an entirely different story, I will always remember the good, the bad, and the ugly. In other words, it's easy for me to forgive people, but not to trust them.

As for people's view of me, well, I guess that depends on the person and how they percieve me or people in general. Some only see the glass half empty, while others see the glass half full. Some people look at the big picture with all of the pieces, while others just focus on one thing.

PS I am NOT CelestialBlue/Sisterizing.

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by amycat412
I think its possible. There's one member of GC now that was, I believe (if its who i think it is) previously banned on several occasions and pissed a lot of us off. She's been conducting herself with dignity and humor this time around and is a productive member of our community now.

I was thinking the exact same thing.