*Sniff*

Okay, I'm sure most of my sisters here remember my "Taking a Break" post last October detailing my breakup with Brady. Last Saturday we added another chapter to the story.

So, a few weeks ago he returned from an Alaska patrol and he called to let me know that he was being transferred to a Coast Guard station in the Bay Area. The reason why he was calling me was because he still had much of my stuff (and vice versa) and that he needed to take care of things so he could pack and ship all his stuff out. Anyway, I'm like "COOL..." but then I realized that I really wasn't ready to see him. I know that I've been soooo over him for a long time, but we hadn't seen each other since right after our nasty breakup.

And then I started missing him again. It felt weird because I've dated a number of guys since him, but I guess the fact that he was LEAVING FOR GOOD made me kinda sad.

I knew that he was pressed for time, but I kept on avoiding his phone calls because I didn't want to see him. I was afraid that all the feelings would come rushing back. My mom also insisted that I get in contact with him because she wanted to see him badly. Those two got along great...she even tried talking him into marrying me.

One morning my mom and I were driving through traffic and the topic suddenly turned on him. She went on and on about how much he meant to her. To her, the breakup was all my fault. My mom's great at making me feel like isht, btw. Then she started crying...and then I started crying. It was a bad morning.

Okay so now fast forward a few weeks later and it's now the day he leaves Hawaii for good. He had planned to come over to my house the night before so he could say bye to me and my mom, but plans changed because someone threw a surprise going away dinner party for him...

Brady didn't come alone. He brought his current girlfriend...Brandy. I know that he had sold his car and was lacking a means of transportation, but come on...it was a total knife to the heart. I'm not being bitter, but that girl's nasty. She has tattoos all over her body , but the scary thing is though, is that she kinda looks like me. Not a splitting image, but as far as hair, height, and Asian features go...it's pretty similar. Ugh.

Bringing Brandy over didn't hurt the most. He gave me a box filled with 'our' stuff. Included in the box were pictures of me and him, special stuff from when we first started dating, etc. It's like he's erasing me outta his life. I know it's different for guys and girls...but damn, that hurt!

I'm so sorry that this is super long. I just wanted to get it out of my system. Rest assured that I'm okay now. My friends all say that this is normal..and that I'll eventually get over it. It was nice to see him one last time and I wish the best for him, so at least he left on a good note.

...now if only I can get the courage to introduce Aaron (my new guy who happens to be a PIKE) to my mother...

[greeklawgirl]

Sandy, this is just the last step that you needed to take to get completely over Brady. Although I know thing must be painful for you, trust that bigger and better things are on the horizon.

If you still need to talk things out, we're all here!

(PS: Your mom loves you more than anything. When she sees that you are happy, trust me, she'll be happy FOR you.)

Thank you so much, Maria! Seeing him on Saturday really did help and I hope he keeps in touch so we can remain friends in the future.

It's funny, because I cried my eyes out after he left. About an hour later I had stopped crying and my best friend called me from Las Vegas. She said something about "a little voice telling her to call"... so when she said that, I started crying again. Her reply? "OH MY GOD, I WAS RIGHT!." It's funny how best friends work sometimes.

Judging from the brief conversation we had together, I can honestly say that the breakup helped us be better people.

[hawaiiagd]

I feel a night out with the girls coming on.....

Hang in there Sandy... it's really all for the best. You'll see.

I'm about due for a cocktail or two (more like twenty).... We can cry together over some beer and pizza.

Loyally,
Mai

*sigh* This is why I love being an Alpha Gam.

Mai, you're right...we're due for another trip to the dojo(s).

On a happier note, I'm in better spirits. Aaron stopped by the house tonight and he met my mom for the first time. It wasn't the best of impressions as he swept me away on his motorcycle, but I really needed to let my hair fly and take off. Though I'm not expecting anything, I'm hoping things will be all good with this one...so I hope my mom will get over me not being with Brady and she'll get used to Aaron and his motorcycle.

If things get serious (and I do end up getting my own helmet) I'll be sure to let y'all know

[LeslieAGD]

Sandy, I'm sorry you had a crappy day. Getting over someone you loved is very difficult! Just remember, "don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened!" We're always here for ya!

[AlphaGam1019]

Sandy,
Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Giving back ex's stuff is usually the last step in total closure. I hope it will help you totally heal!
I'm here if you ever need to talk/chat
LiEP,
Nina

[JenAGD]

Sandy,

Sounds like you had a terrible break-up...I'm sorry. One thing though, for the guy to bring his new girlfriend over?! Come on, couldn't he have borrowed her car or something? Oh well, I suppose let bygones be bygones.

My advice is to just have fun with the new guy that you're dating now...perhaps even one or two more and learn from your relationship with Brady. Everything happens for a reason & every experience (especially those in the love dept) only make us wiser and stronger.

Have a great summer & have some well-deserved, care-free fun!

LIEP
Jen

[AGDLynn]

All I can say is Never Say Never unless you want to! It's a longgggg story but I knew my hubby in h.s. ..even though we lived in diff states. We'd see each other during the summer and then he went and moved out of state. There was an 8 year break between when I last saw him in AL and we hooked up again in TX. Now we've been together for years and years..we are celebrating our 3rd wedding anniv tomorrow...as much as we can...he has to work the 4am-noon shift this week!

Good luck with Aaron; my bro is a Pike, but don't hold that against him,

Loyally,
Lynn

[dzsaigirl]

You need to listen to "Don't Come Around Here No More" and "Another One Bites the Dust"! Those always made me feel better.

Don't worry...you will be fine. Once summer passes, it will seem like this happened forever ago!

[AGDPrincess70]

Sandy-

I'm so sorry that happened to you. You know, I can't believe how insensitive guys can be. I mean, I know he sold his car and stuff, but for chrissakes if he had to come over with his girlfriend, couldn't she have styed in the car? Maybe get another tattoo while she was waiting? Grrr...I hate guys sometimes! (heh, a lot of it has to do with my breakup of my boyfriend of almost two and a half years) I know how you feel, and remember, as much as it sucks, things happen for a reason. And remember, you have all of your sisters here for you.

We love you!
Holly

P.S. to dzsaigirl... to go with what you were saying, my new theme song is "love stinks"

Thanks you guys. Y'all are great. When you have a chance, listen to Boyz II Men's "I'm Doing Just Fine" off their II CD. It goes--"I'm doing just fine...getting along very well without you in my life...I don't need you in my life..." That song rocks!

I got a phone call from Brady yesterday letting me know that he's in San Francisco and he's okay. I didn't get to talk to him since I was at work, so he left a message. Personally, I think he called at that time on purpose because he knew I wasn't going to be available. But at least he's where he is now...and that he's doing okay.

I keep in contact with his mom (who lives in Belgium) regularly. She's a great woman, and I really want to keep in touch with her. I'm glad that I can still remain friends with her!

*The book's finally closed, folx!*

Y'all are so sweet!

[AGDLynn]

My thought is...if he is closing the book, why did he let you know he got there okay??

I don't remember the name of the country and western song about a guy getting a phone call from a long-lost love saying that she was thinking about him..something like "I heard it in her voice"???

Oh welll.....have fun with the Pike!

Lynn

Originally posted by AGDLynn
My thought is...if he is closing the book, why did he let you know he got there okay??

You know...that's what I thought too! It took me about a day to compose myself...and then getting that message felt weird. Oh well. I really hope he doesn't call me anytime soon.

Oh welll.....have fun with the Pike!

Believe me...I'm having the time of my life!!!