My friend won't rush. HELP!

kkg_babe · #1 04-22-2002, 03:18 AM

I've been in kappa for just over a year now, and I absolutely love it. I've been trying to convince my friend(guy) to rush next year, but he refuses to. He still has that stereotypical views about frats, and their members. Any ideas on how i can convince him to rush?

josh8o · #2 04-22-2002, 03:37 AM

first off some people just aren't the greek type...they are not into it and will never be. but if you were to introduce him to some of your greek friends who are not your typical "frat guys" then he might see what you're saying. find out what he does not like about the greek system at your school and if it's rumors/sterotypes prove them wrong. best of luck!

LeslieAGD · #3 04-22-2002, 08:46 AM

Like Josh said, it's not for everyone...but, some people are the type that would like it if they gave it a shot. If you think this is your friend, I would say take him out to events like philanthropies and intramurals, etc. Let him see the other side of Greek Life.

As a freshman, I didn't think too highly of Greeks but when my guy friend ended up joining, I admit I was curious. When he invited me out to Greek Week events, I had a blast...and ended up going through recruitment the following semester. And the rest is AGD history...

Kevin · #4 04-22-2002, 09:54 AM

My girlfriend is the same way... She likes MY fraternity and most of the greek women that hang out with us... But she doesn't like sororities...(?) I just live with it.. occasionally give her a hard time (all in good fun of course) but that's about it =)

rhochi2002 · #5 04-22-2002, 11:29 AM

Ask him. if he comes back in twenty years for homecoming. what will he be coming back to. or you can just give up and let him look around at all the awesome things we do on campus

FuzzieAlum · #6 04-22-2002, 12:17 PM

KT, it's good to hear about a guy that doesn't encourage that attitude in a girl for once! At my school, there were lots of girls who thought like that, and the fraternities would tell them, "Oh, yeah, sororities are dumb, there are so many rules. You don't want to join." Yeah, thanks for the Greek support, guys! It's good to hear something different.

KDHoney · #7 04-22-2002, 12:30 PM

I agree with what everyone's said so far...you can't force your friend to rush. If he gets to meet some frat guys that he thinks are cool, he may change his mind, but ultimately you can only push so far. Greek life really isn't everyone's thing and the more you push your friend toward rushing, the more he may become set against it.

RockChalk · #8 04-22-2002, 12:34 PM

Some people just aren't joiners, and nothing you can say or do will change that. My bf is that type of person. I used rhochi2002's strategy on him once (asking him what he'd be coming back to for Homecoming) and he replied that he wouldn't be coming back. That was the last time I brought up the idea of getting involved on campus.

aephi alum · #9 04-22-2002, 07:42 PM

There's nothing you can do if someone is dead set against rushing.

If he is willing to keep an open mind... try inviting him to some all-greek things like Greek Week... my school had a Greek Week formal every year, and you certainly didn't have to be affiliated to go. Get him to go to a fraternity or sorority charity fundraiser or two. If you have other friends who are in fraternities, introduce them. Show him there's more to greek life than keggers.

If all else fails, remind him that the fraternities will feed him during rush, so he won't have to worry about food for 3 days or so.

ISUKD1916 · #10 04-24-2002, 08:20 AM

I would say not to push the subject, some people are not into the ideals of greek life. If you really feel that he's missing out why don't you get him to come over and hang out with your guys in the house with out having it be as formal as a ridh function. Then maybe your friend can see that your guys are as cool as you are and that may sway his opinion on greek life in general.

Christi

Kappa Delta

Striving for that which is honorable, beautiful, and highest!

kkg_babe · #11 04-24-2002, 05:34 PM

Thank you everyone for all the ideas, and suggestions. I'll definately give them a try.

Michelle

lionlove · #12 04-25-2002, 07:10 AM

It will help to introduce him to fraternity men who are his type and see if he clicks. Otherwise, don't push it. He may have reasons for not joining (money, time etc...) and is using the stereotypes as an excuse.