the utlimate question

AlphaXiAshley · #1 07-27-2002, 10:10 PM

first i should explain that our chapter is the only dry chapter on our campus so we tend to be the underdog when it comes to a social rep. i know alot of other greeks have the advantages of having all dry campus or close to it.. but we are not that lucky. now in no way are we trying to become "partiers" or attract that "type". but we hate sounding like the boring girls who never go out and have fun during recruitment. so basically my question is how do we adress the topic of being dry and still compete... thanx for all the help
Ashes

pollywogg23 · #2 07-28-2002, 01:00 AM

Ashley,
What is your deffinition of a "dry chapter"?
Do you ladies not drink at all, or is it just the same as us, you can't have alcohol in the house or at Alpha Xi sponsored functions?
First off, I know it sounds pathetic, but you don't need to drink to have a good time. My advice would be that even if you don't drink go out and have fun, if you're all out there being seen no one is going to care, or notice that you aren't drinking!
Good Luck!

AlphaXiAshley · #3 07-28-2002, 12:59 PM

as a dry sorority we dont drink with letters on, at axid events things like that. and some of us (like me) really dont drink much at all. so i know very well that you dont have to drink to have fun. and trust me when we go out whether we drink or not we always have fun. its jsut when we are asked about it in recuitment, we are not even permitted to say we drink at all. and told just to dance around the topic bc if we tell them no we dont drink we are a dry sorority most gurls seem to get a boring vive, or feel that if they drink they will be out of place with us and thats not true. i was just wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to apporch this topic at recriutment.

ashes

pollywogg23 · #4 07-28-2002, 02:14 PM

We don't drink in letters, or at sorority sponsored events either, but it's never really seemed to be an issue for us during recruitment.
We aren't supposed to talk about partying though. My suggestion would be that if you get questions about partying you either redirect the question to fun sisterhood things you guy do together, to show that you do know how to have fun, or you say something to the effect of you being a very diverse chapter and each member does whatever she feels most comfortable with.
That way your not coming out and saying that you're a dry chapter, but you are letting the PNM's know that if they don't want to drink they don't have to, and also if they do that would be okay too.
We actually attract a lot of girls because we are not the girls who are totally wasted all the time, it's a big draw for the older girls, JJuniors usually during COB, but I can see how it might hurt you during formal recruitment.
Good Luck!
Sara

FuzzieAlum · #5 07-29-2002, 11:42 AM

I agree. If rushees are asking about alcohol and think you're boring 'cause you don't drink, maybe they're not right for AXD. Let someone else have the "lushes."

That doesn't mean of course that anyone who drinks at all is a lush, but if they truly believe you can't have a good time without drinking, they shouldn't be in AXD letters. If all they're joing a GLO for is the alcohol, they can do that at the fraternities for free!

But for the average girl, who may drink but isn't hung up on it, reassure her that AXD's can drink - just in appropriate settings. "Being dry doesn't mean we are opposed to drinking. We just think it means it's up to the individual member whether she drinks." Not drinking in letters isn't a big deal - I mean, jeepers, just change your shirt!

Really, talking about alcohol during rush is a no-no, but if the rushee brings it up, realistically you have to address their question.

If you get this question from rushees who have seen you around campus for a while, perhaps the answer is for your sisters to be more visible at social events. If PNMs are seeing you at parties and campus hangouts, they'll figure out you're social. Even without letters, they'll figure out who you are if you're always hanging together.

AlphaXiAshley · #6 07-29-2002, 07:36 PM

"Being dry doesn't mean we are opposed to drinking. We just think it means it's up to the individual member whether she drinks."
Thats a totally great answer right there! thanx!
Ashes