cheater?

skip101 · #1 03-15-2002, 02:38 PM

Would you ever get serious with someone who cheated on their mate with you?

Periwinkle · #2 03-15-2002, 02:50 PM

I'm new to these boards, but thought I would comment by saying: Absolutely not! Who wants to get serious with a cheater??? Anyway, before I do anything that could be construed as "his cheating" I expect to know the person well enough to be sure he doesn't have somebody else in his life. If it turns out he does, then bye-bye-bye!!!

LeslieAGD · #3 03-15-2002, 03:08 PM

It depends on the situation. My last boyfriend was with someone else when we met. Part of me felt bad, but they were already having problems and were on the verge of break-up anyway. He ended up being the love of my life.

However, I would not start a sexual relationship with someone who is still with someone else.

justamom · #4 03-15-2002, 07:05 PM

If you are using "mate" in a biblical sense or in a way that implies serious commitment...HELL NO!

SparkliiQTMTSU · #5 03-15-2002, 10:56 PM

OK Im guilty of this one..I had a boyfriend and my close friend Dustin had a girlfriend also well after my guy and i broke up he was there for me to console me and all and we had always cared about eachother and been really close but we kissed alot after me and my ex broke up...he broke up with his girl and we got together I dont regret it at all we had a good relationship but it all depends on the guy!!

Nichole

RubberSoul · #6 03-15-2002, 11:25 PM

If they are in the midst of breaking up, that's one thing. Or if they are already broken up but playing the old "sex with the ex" games that's ok too.......but not with someone who is truly cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater.....sounds harsh but it is basically true. If they did it to her (or him) they will probably do it to you.

Peaches-n-Cream · #7 03-16-2002, 12:43 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by skip101
Would you ever get serious with someone who cheated on their mate with you?

I would never be the 'other woman' so no. I wouldn't knowingly put myself in that position.

h2oot · #8 03-16-2002, 12:57 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by skip101
Would you ever get serious with someone who cheated on their mate with you?

I was wondering why you asked this question and did not offer your opinion?

If I knew a guy was cheating, then no way would I get serious. I wouldn't even get casual. A cheat is a cheat is a cheat.

SigkapAlumWSU · #9 03-16-2002, 03:02 PM

I've been the "other woman" and had it not work out, and I've also know people who are the "other woman" and had it be great.. I've also been the first woman and known how it feels when he finds the "other woman". I think it depends.. you have to keep in mind that if you are getting with the guy while he's breaking up with his girlfriend, are you the rebound?

thesweetestone · #10 03-16-2002, 04:52 PM

Yes, I would give it a chance. Just because a man or woman cheats on one person. That does not mean they will cheat on everybody they get into a relationship with. The relationship may not have been that good when he/she cheated.

I would be careful though because they be a habitual cheater

KillarneyRose · #11 03-16-2002, 09:07 PM

I was with someone else when I met my husband. In fact, I didn't break up with the "someone else" until he and I (my husband and I) started to get really serious. I guess that technically that means my husband married a "cheater", but that is in my opinion an overgeneralization. We've been together over 10 years and I've never cheated on him nor do I intend to ever do so.

As with most things, I think it all depends on the person!

Hootie · #12 03-16-2002, 10:58 PM

NO!

James · #13 03-17-2002, 01:32 AM

Its not so much that once a cheater always a cheater.

IT usually means that the emotional situation of unhappiness or dissatisfaction that inspired prior cheating will inspire future cheating given the same type of emotional situation.

Kind of like a person with big emotional buttons that lead to screaming. Not everyone person they date will push those buttons, but the ones that do will get screamed out.

So for those of you that opt for this type of relationship ( a cheater) you just have to be willing to accept that they will do to you what they did before if they feel similar emotions.

*shrug*

volgirl2376 · #14 03-17-2002, 12:32 PM

No No NO!

My ex bf left me for someone else...and now I know how it would feel being on the other side.

If someone is in a relationship when you meet them, and they are sincere about ending it with their bf/gf and start dating you...they will end it with them asap. I think any guy or girl who cheats ....well I dont think very highly of them. If you are unhappy, leave...dont start hooking up with someone else until you get the balls to end your current relationship

SigmaChiCard · #15 03-17-2002, 05:36 PM

For me, it would depend on the circumstances as most all things must. For example...Girl has boyfriend back at home, falls for the man with whom she spends all her time with at school, in a moment of weakness...she cheats, but it's based on pure emotion and not raw lust...that I label as acceptable. Occassion number two: Girl falls for guy realizing that current relationship is, though not bad in any real definable way, is not going anywhere and that person has essentially fallen out of what we'll loosely term as love for that's the word that they would use. Now, there is nothing that the person can say that is a sufficent reason to break with that person though many of us have likely experienced it, I'm sure. Now, some people are strong enough to break up with that person despite their reasoning being 'this is no longer fufilling,' some are not. The reason again for cheating isn't really lust, it's more of a new love interest that happened to occur while dating another and doesn't neccessarily mean that it'll happen again with you. Think of that old Usher song "You Make Me Wanna..."

Now if you got drunk and messed around and now you're thinking about hooking up for real, be weary, the girl is obviously wild and not very respectful of her ties...take that for what it's worth to you.

Cory