Now what?

Optimist Prime · #1 03-01-2002, 06:28 PM

Okay. I asked a girl to be my date for banquet and she said yes. She also said shed have to check a calender. That makes sence. So she was in class today but was lil late (i only asked her yestarday) and i didn't get chance to talk to her. So...I kindof would like to ask her out for something before the banquent but how do I do that without srewing myself out of a date for banquet. So, basically I kind of like her (why else would I ask her--and please note, i was very careful to include the word DATE when i asked her-I said "my fraternity is having our formal banquet, ...would you like to be my date?") So I don't think she thinks JUST FRIENDS because also at the audition she said she would dance with me anytime. Word word. Okay guys and guy-ettes, what is my next move? chess master chad whatchya got ta say? god damn that bishop maid my day

GreekLetterGirl · #2 03-01-2002, 08:41 PM

i would say after your next class, why not ask her out to lunch or coffee, see how things go and then see how that goes, or if you can't do the coffee thing, why not ask her to go to dinner and a movie, see how that goes, I am sure you two will have a blast,

SAEalumnus · #3 03-01-2002, 09:51 PM

I agree with GLG (like most of the time - she gives great advice). Good luck to you!

aephi alum · #4 03-02-2002, 09:47 AM

Ask her out for coffee or lunch after class. It's low pressure, and it will give you a chance to chat and see if she wants to pursue a relationship or just be friends.

GreekLetterGirl · #5 03-02-2002, 01:20 PM

thank SAE you are know for good advice as well : )

Peaches-n-Cream · #6 03-02-2002, 01:50 PM

I'm glad that she said "Yes!" I agree with everyone else ask her for something casual like coffee or a drink.

dzsaigirl · #7 03-02-2002, 04:01 PM

You know, even when guys asked me out on dates, I would say yes as long as they were my friend, even if I wasn't interested in them as a boyfriend or anything, so just test the waters before you assume anything about her feelings toward you.

Optimist Prime · #8 03-02-2002, 08:41 PM

ok...thanks guys....my next move is lunch.

Optimist Prime · #9 03-04-2002, 03:12 PM

well, the next move was asked her to dinner for tonight. Oh well. She's busy but said thank you and smiled. She still isn't clear about her schedule on banquent day

GreekLetterGirl · #10 03-04-2002, 03:16 PM

i would try to find out her schedule ASAP, because if she can't go i bet there is a line of ready and waiting ladies for you to take

But it does sound good so... keep us posted

xo_sue · #11 03-04-2002, 05:04 PM

ARRRRRR- I must vent! Where do you men go to school that you have these vague women!??????

When you are asked to a dance/formal/ banquet and you say "yes"- then that is it- YES- you are going. Not, yes, but let me check my schedule. That is totally vague and keeps the guy guessing and if you don't go- he will be hurt because guess why.... YOU SAID YES!

Look at me- I'm venting on some girl I don't even know who is not even a member of GC! I just personally would say either yes, no or let me check by schedule. Not a combo of two.

Whew- thanks for letting me say that!

ErikaXO · #12 03-04-2002, 05:09 PM

Just a word of advice......don't give her up until the night before to decide if she is "free" or not. Ask her once more and if she still isn't sure, get her number and tell her you will call her when she can check her calendar right then and there and tell you. Put the heat on her a little bit. Let her know you aren't going to hang on her ever word and wait for her indefinitely. I am not saying that this is what is happening, but some girls will accept a date tentatively and hold it in case something "better" comes along. DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU! Keep your options open, leave yourself plenty of time to get another date in case her calendar is not open. (I have had this happen to me and I barely had enough time to scramble up another date, though the circumstances were alittle different the result could have been the same)

Good luck!!!!!
Erika

xo_sue · #13 03-04-2002, 05:19 PM

I hope you don't think I was being negetive and thinking the worse will happen. I just don't want to see you get hurt-that is all.

Peaches-n-Cream · #14 03-04-2002, 05:24 PM

I agree with everyone else. Make sure that you close the deal a couple of weeks in advance with this girl. If she's still vague, find someone else.

h2oot · #15 03-04-2002, 05:26 PM

QUOTE]Originally posted by Optimist Prime well, the next move was asked her to dinner for tonight. Oh well. She's busy but said thank you and smiled. She still isn't clear about her schedule on banquent day [/QUOTE]

My gut says she is keeping your invite in mind to see what other offers she gets. I find that demeaning and if were me I would tell her to forget it if in anyway I expected she were playing me. A less dramatic course would be to tell her you need to know by a specific time (and dont make that far from now).

However, since I'm not close to the situation only you can judge her motives and there is a good chance you may not be able to do that.