Uncommited pledges.

ASTDM39 · #1 03-02-2002, 07:17 PM

I have a problem with one of our pledges. She doesnt want to be at anything or do anything really because she always has other plans. She also is not learning the material she has to know for her pledge exam. If anyone has any suggestions as to what to do about this I would really appreciate it. THanks

AKPsiZY · #2 03-02-2002, 07:22 PM

well, you probably will have to tell her that if she's serious about joining then she will have to change her tune, attend, and learn her stuff.

if not, you will probably just have to remove her from the pledging program for the good of the chapter.

ASTDM39 · #3 03-02-2002, 07:30 PM

Yeah but I hate to do that. I just wish that she would just set her priorities and understand that this is something that she commited too.

DZTUBAGIRL · #4 03-02-2002, 07:40 PM

I really don't have any words of wisdom but I just want to say that I think it is important for a new member to come to as many things as possible. I am a new member now and I get excited to go to things with my new sisters! I think this is how it should be. If the person is not interested in coming to things now then what will she come to when she is a sister. As I can see the whole purpose of being in a sorority is to have a great group of people to hang out with and if you never see them you are losing out. I know I am preaching to the choir but I think that something should be said to her soon before she becomes a sister. I hope you have good luck getting through to her. By the way what school do you go to? I went to Tennessee Tech and MTSU.

Anne Marie

ASTDM39 · #5 03-02-2002, 07:45 PM

I go to cumberland Univeristy

Optimist Prime · #6 03-02-2002, 08:20 PM

How long has she been pledging?? Is she very close to many girls in your chpater? Her pledge class? Pull her aside and have girl girl talk.

33girl · #7 03-02-2002, 09:44 PM

4 words: THANK YOU, DRIVE THROUGH. Or 4 other words: I DON'T THINK SO. What a horrible attitude. Cut her loose. I realize there are class and work constraints sometimes but this sounds like she just doesn't feel like showing up. If she's this much of a slacker as a pledge, can you imagine how much she would suck as a sister? Unless you want to carry dead weight for 3 more years, kick her out.

I know I sound like a bitch, but I can't stand when people make a commitment and then don't follow through on it.

Kevin · #8 03-02-2002, 10:57 PM

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I know I sound like a bitch, but I can't stand when people make a commitment and then don't follow through on it.

Agreed. Cut dead weight. New folks = probationaries.

The1calledTKE · #9 03-03-2002, 12:45 AM

Tell her she is gone in a week if she doesn't shape up becasue its a honor being in your GLO not a chore.

Peaches-n-Cream · #10 03-03-2002, 12:55 AM

I was a pretty mediocre pledge at first. I attended all of the events and meetings, but I didn't know that I should hang out and have lunch with the sisters and other pledges. I was a first semester freshman and was clueless about pledging so I did the bare minimum, plus I wanted to try everything in college. My big sister pulled me aside one day and asked me why I wasn't enthusiastic, etc. I told her that I didn't know that was expected of me, and I changed.
Maybe your pledge is just clueless also. Have the pledge educator (or whatever they're called now) and her big sister talk to her. Tell her clearly what the sorority expects of her if she still wants to become a sister. Let her know the consequences if she doesn't change.

aephi alum · #11 03-03-2002, 12:15 PM

Definitely someone should talk to her... she may just be having trouble prioritizing, and needs a gentle reminder of the importance of the commitment she made.

If it's really bad enough that you'd consider removing her... well, if she doesn't pass her pledge exam, she can't be initiated, right? Is it an option to initiate the rest of her pledge class without her? Maybe when she sees her pledge sisters get initiated, she'll realize what she's missing out on and make the commitment... or she'll decide she can't, and depledge. Consider this before just giving her the ax.

SigkapAlumWSU · #12 03-03-2002, 07:34 PM

I suggest talking to her. Maybe she doesn't know the commitment involved. But maybe she just doesn't care either. Either way, make sure that it's clear to her what is required, and if she's not down with that, let he know she's not the member for your house.

Eirene_DGP · #13 03-04-2002, 02:24 PM

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Originally posted by AKPsiZY
well, you probably will have to tell her that if she's serious about joining then she will have to change her tune, attend, and learn her stuff.

if not, you will probably just have to remove her from the pledging program for the good of the chapter.

I agree. Pledges who are not committed become sisters who are not committed. You have to do what is best for the chapter in the long run.

KABillyMac · #14 03-04-2002, 02:44 PM

Im also all for giving pledges a second chance and what not, I guess you can call me soft hearted. (yes believe or not i have feelings). But like everyone has said, you will more than likely run into problems with her active level as a intiated sister, problems getting money owed to by the chapter, this, that and the other. Pull her aside and talk to her, if it dont work, then cut your losses and let her go.

LBN Nu sTyLeZ · #15 03-04-2002, 04:23 PM

I would just talk to her and see how badly she wants it. Her priorities maybe somewhere else, or this may be a priority, but it is being weighed out by other smaller desires...you know? Anycase, she needs to be able to sacrifice...Pledging is only a small bit of an overall piece of life..you know?