Harassment on GC

[the411]

Let me say something to my Sorors and to SisterFriends who have desires to become members of DST or any black sorority (if this does not apply to you, then please don't take offense). And, please know that my intention here is not to hurt anyone's feelings, but mainly to keep the peace and maintain a good comfort-level for all.

As moderator, I receive, at minimum, 10-20 private messages or e-mails from ladies who are reporting that they are being harassed by Sorors or other prospectives.

TO SORORS: Please remember your virtues as Delta Women. We are to be kind to others and to explore tactful, constructive ways of offering advice or criticism to those ladies who are interested in becoming members of our Illustrious Sisterhood. It pisses me off when I come across Sorors and other greeks who seem to forget from whence they came! We were ALL prospectives at some point or another! And, furthermore, I doubt there is 1 single person who did not have to deal with the rudeness, coldness, and/or meanness of AT LEAST 1 member who was already in the org we chose to pledge! How did YOU feel when you had a simple, legitimate question about the org, but were straight up dissed, ignored, or humiliated when you tried to ask it--even when you practiced discretion, tact, and appropriateness in broaching the subject?!?!? How did you feel when you got dirty looks from members whom you knew could vote you in or vote you out? There IS a way to deal with interested ladies, but I totally disagree that harassment, ridicule, and meanness is it. You are not at all obligated (and in some cases authorized) to answer questions about the org and membership qualifications/intake. BUT-- as Deltas, you ARE obligated to show some consideration for other peoples' feelings and compassion for the naivete of prospectives who genuinely are just learning, ESPECIALLY when it comes to this forum.

TO SISTERFRIENDS: If you aren't in DST, you have NO RIGHT to tell anyone else what her chances are/aren't of becoming a member. How dare you-- an aspirant--decide whether or not someone will/won't, should/shouldn't become a Delta? You don't have a CLUE what the intake process is REALLY like on the inside, nor do you know what specific characteristics are required for membership. Every prospective THINKS she knows! Even those of you who submitted once and were rejected may THINK you know, but I assure you that you do NOT! So, instead of putting someone else down for what YOU deem to be wrong or bad, you should be sweeping around your OWN front door! In other words, check yourself--by putting others down and being judgemental, YOU are the one who is exemplifying un-Delta-like qualities. If you know something that could HELP a person who may really just not know enough, a Delta-like quality would be to HELP her, not belittle her. Keeping helpful info to yourself and being competitive are traits that have absolutely NOTHING to do with SISTERHOOD! You can't be a 1/2 of a woman during your application and expect to be a WHOLE woman if/when you pledge! We seek Delta attributes in ALL prospectives--i.e. you must already be a WHOLE woman!

I urge you to take heed to Matthew 7:1-3

1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

This is ALL said to each of you in TRUE, SISTERLY, LOVE, I promise!

PROSPECTIVES & INTERESTEDS: If you have sensible questions that haven't been answered already (via previous posts, announcements, the Official DST page, etc.), I encourage you to e-mail a MODERATOR, rather than to post publicly. If it's something we can answer, we will. If not, we'll just politely tell you that the answer is "classified." Also, you may want to update your profiles and signatures so that it's not so obvious where you're from. It is useless to declare your interest in Delta to us, as NONE OF US has any role in whether you will/won't be extended membership. Please, please, please keep that in mind!



And I'm Out!