Frustrated by boys

AOPiLaLa · #1 01-11-2002, 03:20 PM

Okay, guys(and girls), I have a question. When a guy says he will call you "later in the week" to make plans for a date, what day exactly does that mean??? I was told on SUNDAY that he would call me "later in the week" and its FRIDAY and no call. I am assuming that means I have no date this weekend. Anyone else have any ideas??

amycat412 · #2 01-11-2002, 03:38 PM

Well, when guys say that to me, I usually get a call at 530pm on Friday, saying so wanna come over and order a pizza at 8.

Guys-- PLEASE call by Wednesday, Thursday morning at the latest if you want to see us. "Cause we'll make alternate plans by then if we don't hear from you.

Optimist Prime · #3 01-11-2002, 03:40 PM

That could mean that he is nervous of calling such a great girl! Or that he is ADHD like me and forgets in his case to call for a date, or in my case loose by ENTIRE back pack in the laundry basket. If you like him and he might fall into the "this is as far as any relationship has ever gone...THIS IS AS FAR AS ANY RELTIONSHIP HAS EVER GONE...oh sh*& now what do I do?" type catergory, you might have to call him. Hope that helped some.

James · #4 01-11-2002, 03:43 PM

When he says he is going to call you later, which we almost never do, say, "lets set it up now, 8pm next Friday?"

See no more guess work . . . wow you think this stuff is hard

amycat412 · #5 01-11-2002, 03:53 PM

Hmm, see when I'm REALLY into someone and he says I'll call you later-- I say, how about Friday, 8pm, I'll cook...

When he's really into me he says... What are you doing next weekend, let's do something Saturday...

When I'm ambivalent and he says "I'll call you later..." I'm "OK" ANd usually could care less.

Its when I know he's into me and is LAZY that it bugs me, and signals the end for them.

Ah, the games we play...

Lil_G · #6 01-11-2002, 04:23 PM

seems like it's somewhere along the lines of 'check's in the mail'. I think he just weasled out but didn't have the gonads to do it anyother way - sorry. But if he's serious and just lazy then that's his loss for being an idiot, you shouldn't be left in limbo like that. Maybe a few other details can help us out a bit?

AOPiLaLa · #7 01-11-2002, 04:31 PM

Okay, more details--
I met this guy when I was out 2 weeks ago. He had dated my friend Chrissie a LONG time ago, when they both first moved to ATL(actually, he took her on one date and they just didn't click). Anyways--I saw him from across the bar and told Chrissie I thought he was cute and she was like "I know that guy--thats Tim--I went out with him once". So, he see's us looking at him and smiles and waves at her, so we go over and start talking. I get introduced and we proceed to have a great conversation. He buys me a beer and we keep talking. Finally, my friends want to go to another bar, so as I am leaving, he asks for my number and I give it to him. And then I left--this was on a Saturday.
The FOLLOWING FRIDAY, he calls and leaves a message on my machine to see where I am headed to that night. I call him back and leave him a message where I will be. He calls me on my cell around 11 and says he is at a bar on the other side of town, but he wanted to see me, so he will give me a call tommrow. He calls SATURDAY(the next day), we talk for awhile, and he asks me what I am up to that night. I had already made plans with some friends, so I tell him that. He then says "well, can I give you a call LATER IN THE WEEK and maybe we can go out?" I say yes and he says okay. That was Saturday. And now its Friday. I guess if this guy is following a pattern, he will call tonight, but who knows. Does that give you more background??

madmax · #8 01-11-2002, 04:41 PM

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Originally posted by AOPiLaLa
Okay, more details--
I met this guy when I was out 2 weeks ago. He had dated my friend Chrissie a LONG time ago, when they both first moved to ATL(actually, he took her on one date and they just didn't click). Anyways--I saw him from across the bar and told Chrissie I thought he was cute and she was like "I know that guy--thats Tim--I went out with him once". So, he see's us looking at him and smiles and waves at her, so we go over and start talking. I get introduced and we proceed to have a great conversation. He buys me a beer and we keep talking. Finally, my friends want to go to another bar, so as I am leaving, he asks for my number and I give it to him. And then I left--this was on a Saturday.
The FOLLOWING FRIDAY, he calls and leaves a message on my machine to see where I am headed to that night. I call him back and leave him a message where I will be. He calls me on my cell around 11 and says he is at a bar on the other side of town, but he wanted to see me, so he will give me a call tommrow. He calls SATURDAY(the next day), we talk for awhile, and he asks me what I am up to that night. I had already made plans with some friends, so I tell him that. He then says "well, can I give you a call LATER IN THE WEEK and maybe we can go out?" I say yes and he says okay. That was Saturday. And now its Friday. I guess if this guy is following a pattern, he will call tonight, but who knows. Does that give you more background??

Call him.

valkyrie · #9 01-11-2002, 07:11 PM

I think that dude needs to get a clue and call you earlier than the day he wants to see you. He doesn't know you well enough to be calling your cell at 11 pm when you're out somewhere.

If I were in your place -- if he calls tonight to see what you're doing tonight -- I would tell him that I already have plans (assuming you do) and that, if he wants to meet up sometime to call a few days ahead of time and we could actually go on a date. OR, I would get his number and then call him a few days ahead of time to make a date for the next weekend -- why not take control of the situation, you know? Maybe it's just me and I'm getting old, but I wouldn't be havin' this callin' me up at the last minute stuff. If you like him, I think it's worth it to try to go out on an actual date, rather than cell phone tag and possibly meeting up somewhere.

Good luck!

Lil_G · #10 01-11-2002, 10:35 PM

Do you have his number? Could be a case of missed-opportunites, I don't put too much blame on him because he called two days in a row which means he's obviously still thinking about you.

volgirl2376 · #11 01-11-2002, 11:03 PM

I have no idea what the deal is with guys. If you go out with us...or well, if you go out with me...and you say you will call, CALL. I mean damn, like I have said in another similar post, I would love love love a guy to call me the next day. If you wait more than 24 hours, believe me...I have already described every word and movement we made all evening to anyone who will listen...I have analyzed and over analyzed...and wonder...will he call? I would rather a guy either not ask for my number or just be honest and say "You know, I dont think I wanna call you again" then tell me they will and never do.
So guys..please call...SOON lol

Miami1839 · #12 01-12-2002, 12:14 AM

girls can be just as frustrating

deltaphi94 · #13 01-13-2002, 10:22 PM

Ok... I got this from my husband not too long ago....

For what ever reason, we were talking about what it means when a guy says he'll call you. This is what hubby had to say on the subject...

Can I call you? = I want to see you. Number please?

I'll call you later. = You will get a call at some point, but I'm not
sure when.

I'll call you. = Don't hold your breath.

I don't know if this covers what the average male is thinking, but that is the rationalization of at least one man.

Tom Earp · #14 01-14-2002, 12:04 AM

Sahara, my Southern Belle, you are right on!

Being a Southern Genteel Man, If I said I would call someone I would do it! Since one of my relatives is buried in TENN. I have a close affiliation there! Andrew Johnson!

God I would Love to meet You and say YO!

I know I dont spell it right, but I thought it was neat that you said what you said!!!!

Hang in there Kiddo and your dream will come True! I for one am rooting for you big time!!!!!

James · #15 01-14-2002, 01:57 AM

LOL, I have a shoe box full of scraps of paper with girls numbers on them . . . That I have never called.

I'll have to think of why I don't call them and get back to you.

But the worst thing, is when you find a number with no name attached and you cannot for the life of you place the number with a person.

I feel like ringing and saying: Hi! Oh good your a girl, did we have sex or did I order food from you or something . . . sometime . . . because I have this number on a crumpled up bar napkin in lipstick. Oh, you don't remember either? Well what do you look like, are you conventionally pretty . . .?

LOL, so girls really expect you to call when we get their digits? That nust be why they act strange when you see them out again.