When being over is a good thing.

justabeachbrat · #1 08-21-2007, 02:06 AM

Breakups -- mutual, one sided- can be nasty.
But when did it click--this girl/guy you've been dating for months was just wrong for you?

Hopefully, no one was badly burned in the process.

Flashback: I was at my then guy's company yearly dinner, good projects were recognized, long speeches. During a break in the official program, everyone was chattering away. I realized the conversation had stopped at our table. I guess my guy had asked me a question. I'd gone off to land of Oz and been non-responsive. The team leader of his project, sitting at our table, took it upon himself to repeat the question a few times, the last very loudly. That snapped me back to the table. There were about 5 couples and my date all looking at me, like Owls. It was like being caught daydreaming in class by a nasty professor. Other than my date, I didn't know one else there, so no one to rescue me. I just started laughing, got up and hauled to the ladies room.

When the event ended, so did our relationship. The guy asked what was wrong with me. Other than I woke up, I really didn't have would have been a satisfactory answer. I could have said that during all the chatter my mind took me back to Ensenada and I was dancing with one of the truly crazy fun guys in my life. Instead, the relationship ended with a stupid argument.

cheerfulgreek · #2 08-21-2007, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by justabeachbrat

Breakups -- mutual, one sided- can be nasty.
But when did it click--this girl/guy you've been dating for months was just wrong for you?

Hopefully, no one was badly burned in the process.

Flashback: I was at my then guy's company yearly dinner, good projects were recognized, long speeches. During a break in the official program, everyone was chattering away. I realized the conversation had stopped at our table. I guess my guy had asked me a question. I'd gone off to land of Oz and been non-responsive. The team leader of his project, sitting at our table, took it upon himself to repeat the question a few times, the last very loudly. That snapped me back to the table. There were about 5 couples and my date all looking at me, like Owls. It was like being caught daydreaming in class by a nasty professor. Other than my date, I didn't know one else there, so no one to rescue me. I just started laughing, got up and hauled to the ladies room.

When the event ended, so did our relationship. The guy asked what was wrong with me. Other than I woke up, I really didn't have would have been a satisfactory answer. I could have said that during all the chatter my mind took me back to Ensenada and I was dancing with one of the truly crazy fun guys in my life. Instead, the relationship ended with a stupid argument.

Wow, that must have been a personal question for it to end on that.

The last guy I was in a relationship with cheated once, and I did end up forgiving him, but it just kept eating away at me and I just could never trust him. I kept bringing it up in heated arguments, which was wrong to keep doing that. True enough I don't think he ever cheated on me again, but I was really insecure about the whole thing. I would constantly think he was cheating on me. He admitted he felt bad about it and that he would never do it again, but I told him that I just couldn't go on anymore, so I ended it. I mean, if I would have stayed with him, I doubt he would have cheated again, because he really was sincere about not doing it again, but I just couldn't do it anymore. He was hurt, but I felt breaking up with him was the best thing for the both of us.

AlwaysSAI · #3 08-21-2007, 07:25 PM

Ahh do I have the story for this thread!

but....I've got to run meet up with some SAIs to work on some stuff. Sorry! I'll try to post it tomorrow!

James · #4 08-21-2007, 08:00 PM

Tease

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Originally Posted by AlwaysSAI

Ahh do I have the story for this thread!

but....I've got to run meet up with some SAIs to work on some stuff. Sorry! I'll try to post it tomorrow!

OtterXO · #5 08-21-2007, 08:14 PM

I have a good story like this. I already knew that this guy had some anger issues (i.e. really extreme reactions to situations that most people would classify as mildly annoying but nothing huge) so this situation didn't really surprise me but it caused our relationship to end. We drove into an amusement park parking lot where there were many people whose job was to direct the parking situation. One woman in particular was stationed so that people didn't go into the 'bus lane'. Granted there was a sign saying 'bus lane' but people can be stupid sometimes so they had the woman standing there. Well we pulled up near 'bus lane' woman and she used her orange flags to direct us away from the bus lane and he freaked out. He launched into this tirade for (literally) 15 minutes about how she must have thought he was stupid to not see the sign and how could anyone assume he didn't see the sign and he would obviously not drive into the lane. Literally, this went on for 15 minutes. During that time I remember thinking "this is never going to work". So we went to the park, had a decent time and broke up when we got home.

PrettyBoy · #6 08-21-2007, 08:52 PM

During my Junior year in college I was in a relationship with this girl from Cincinnati, Oh. Well, when school ended and summer vacation started she headed back to Oh. and I headed back to my home town in Mn. I was leary about the whole long distance thing, but I decided to give it a try. Well to make a long story short, she didn't even call me during the summer. Not one time. When I called her, we only stayed on the phone for 10 minutes. She said she had to go because she was about to go roller skating with her friends. I thought that was jacked beyond belief. Here I was calling her long distance and she wanted to hang with her friends instead of talking to me. That was strike number 1. The 2nd strike came at the end of the summer when she called about a week before school started. My dad picked the phone up and he said "Hey, we haven't heard from you all summer." Her response to that was that she tried to call but our answering machine wasn't working. My dad told her it was working just fine. She was just calling because she knew school was getting ready to start. When I finally got back to school one of my fraternity brothers (Btw my whole fraternity hated her and wanted me to dump her, but like an idiot I didn't listen to them.) told me that he saw her with two different dudes at some theater in Cincinnati. That quarter she wasn't coming back to school. According to her it was money issues. I was ready to dump her right on her hoe @$$ but since she wasn't coming back to school, I couldn't. I tried to call her to do it, but I couldn't get in touch with her. I wanted out so bad, that I had to put it in a letter. I know that's cowardly but before I date other women I have to dump the other one 1st. That's just me. I'm a one woman man. Well anyway I wanted out and I wasn't waiting for her to come back to school. She got the letter and then all of a sudden she shows up to school with her mother. Her mom tried to get me to get back with her. I told her mom I would think about it just so she would take her behind back to Oh. When her mom left, my fraternity brother confronted her in front of me and asked her who was the guy he saw her with. She lied and said he was her uncle. Then he asked her who the other guy was. She couldn't answer. She was busted. She tried to get back with me that whole quarter, but I wasn't having it. That was it. I cut her back. She was a low down skeezer.

That's the good thing about being in a fraternity. We see you but you can't see us. She had no clue she was being watched.

Sorry so long.