Not Again!

[ZetaLuvBunny]

I must be the unluckiest person in the WORLD when it comes to ROOMMATES!!! I have been in 3 different dorm rooms since September, and I finally thought that my current roommate & I were going to be great friends. This week she has been a COMPLETE b*tch! She says it's PMS but I know it's more than that. A couple of times this week she has locked me out the room, leaving a message on the dry-erase board that said "LOCK THE DAMNED DOOR OR ELSE!" As if she thought I had gone to class without locking the door. One of those times I was in BATHROOM and had forgotten to erase my note that said I was in class, and another time I had gone downstairs to talk to someone briefly.

We got along really great at the beginning of this semester, but not so much anymore. It seems every time one of us is sleeping, the other is awake wanting to do something. She has all 8am classes, and then takes naps in the afternoon and early evening when I'm getting back from my classes. I have afternoon & night classes, so I sleep in later in the morning. I cannot sleep with the light on at ALL, or with any noise (probably b/c I'm an only child and used to having my own room). She seems to get PISSED if I ask to turn the light off when she's on her computer (there's a light on the computer---hello?!?!--I need my sleep!).

I think she got even more pissed because I was talking to and hanging out with some of her friends in the hallway outside the room. So WHAT?!? I went to high school with two of them---she's not entitled *exclusive* rights to hang out with them, or to exclude anyone else from hanging out with them. Besides, I don't really know many people on campus outside of GLOs, and it's nice to get to know other people too.

Then---I went to the bathroom, came back, and all the people were in our room (like 7 people). I didn't care at all, and I was just being funny when I said, "Wow, now there's a party in my room." And she snaps back with, "It's OUR room, not just YOUR room!!!" Where the heck did THAT come from? If I weren't such a kind person I would have SLAPPED her!!! It really upsets me when people are mad at me (especially for apparently no reason), and it takes a LOT to get me angry. Instead, I say, "Well I'm sorry for whatever I did to upset you." And she ROLLS HER EYES AT ME!!! Lastly--she asks one of "her" friends to go out into the hall so they can "talk" (probably about me--who knows?). Then she goes into the room next door (where she often spends the night), slams it shut, then opens it just a crack so some of the other people can "talk" to her. Get this---I overhear her saying, "yeah, maybe I could move in with you, or get an apartment." Whaat???

So that was the LAST STRAW!!! I went downstairs into the lobby and started BAWLING. My feelings are hurt VERY EASILY, especially if I don't understand WHY someone's mad. I really wish people would start teaching their kids better communication skills, honestly... :rollseyes: So I sat down there for an hour, thinking, why me? Why do I keep getting b*tchy or psycho roommates?!? I don't know what to do! I appologized to her not even know what I did wrong, and she totally blew me off!

[aggieAXO]

Trust me-we have all been there. I too had 2 roommates that I just didn't click with. We were just different people and had completely different schedules. I think it is hard to live with a complete stranger and expect everything to mesh-somtimes it does and sometimes it doesn't. Personally, I love living with guys-they are so straightforward and usually they have no bitchiness to them-much easier to get along with IMO.

[SparkliiQTMTSU]

AWWW sweetie! Im so sorry about how your roomate is being...if I were you I would try not to let it get to you. I know its hard though b/c Im a very sensitive person and I cry over people being mean too. Have you tried to talk to her and asked her if she has any kind of problem with you?? I know its really annoying to have someone act like that to you and you not even do anything to them...just try and talk to her and see what happens


Nichole

[juniorgrrl]

I have been to roomate hell and back - the drug manufacturer, the mama's baby (mommy, I have a hangnail! - she lived less than a mile from school in a semi-mansion, and was intent on having her own room), the nicaraguan princess (very rich, very spoiled, talked about me constantly en Espanol).

If she wants to move out - let her go. I know its a disturbing and upsetting situation. Every time I had to move out, I was very upset for awhile. But you could possibly end up with a private room, which would be a really good thing. I'm also an only child and have my "ways" and its just easier to have your own room.

Some people were meant to live in a 10X5 box with others and some weren't.

It can work out okay though, I found my current roomates (we share an apartment) kind of randomly - their RA told me they had empty rooms. And I've become great friends with 2 of them - I'm going to even be a bridesmaid in one of their weddings.

Just hang in there, sweetie, and remember that your sisters think you're cool, we think you're great, and many others do too.

[ZetaLuvBunny]

Thanks ladies, you made me feel better. I woke up this morning (well, this afternoon LOL), wondering if she would still be b*tchy, and honestly I can't tell for sure. My mom called me & she handed me the phone without looking mad, but then she left the room and hasn't come back since. I just don't understand it. It's funny though, because I had talked to one of my sisters about who my roommate was a couple weeks ago, and she was like, "Oh, that girl's kinda weird," but I stood up for my roomie saying "Actually she's really nice and we get along great." HA! If only I had known two weeks ago that she'd turn psycho on me.

Grrr! All I want is a roomie I can be best friends with! I'm seriously jealous of a lot of my sisters and other people who ended up being best friends with their roommates. I can't do anything about it this semester, because I'm tired of moving (it's such a hassle!). At least in the Fall I'll be in Scarlett Commons (dorm-style apartments) where I get my own bedroom and all I have to share is a bathroom (with one other person), and a kitchen & living room (with three other people). Most of my sisters either room with eachother (because they rushed together), or are in off-campus apartments. I wasn't so lucky, because in the dorm I started out in, only 7 or so girls were rushing, but my roomies weren't. I definitely can't get out of the housing contract at school this semester, unless I pay the board here AS WELL as rent wherever else.

One of my sisters said told me yesterday that she's been having roommate problems at the apartment she's in...tonight I'll be like, "Guess what? I'm having problems with my roommate now too!" LOL. Wish I could afford both campus housing & apartment fees so I could get out of my contract right now. Grrrrrr.

[Kevlar281]

This is why I limit my conversations with my roommate to five words or less per day.

[ZetaLuvBunny]

LOL@Kevlar! U crack me up!

[ZTAngel]

You are not the only who has bad luck when it comes to roommates. My freshman year, I lived with a girl who came from the back woods of North Florida. She was a complete psycho. Her boyfriend liked to walk around our campus dressed up as a gorilla asking people if they had any bananas for him. That was an interesting year. Luckily, my suitemates were sane.
Last year, I lived with two people who I was good friends with. I am still really good friends with them. But, the fourth one was a psycho-b*tch. Whenever she got mad, she'd start throwing stuff. I'd hide in my room so I wouldn't be in the line of fire.
This year, I moved in with two of my friends from back home. One of them I'm still good friends with and we get along great. The other went psycho after her boyfriend of two years broke up with her.
Sigh.
Honestly, the best thing to do is to pretend like they're not even there. I would always try to talk to my roommates and work out any issues. When they're normal, it works. But, when you have a weird roommate it sometimes doesn't work out well. So, I did what Kevlar does...I limit my conversations to 5 words or less per day. Just a "hello" and "goodbye" would suffice.

[XO_Princess]

Freshman year, I had 2 roomates-we were all crammed into a very tight space, which made things weird-3 strangers in tight confines?? Well, one girl and I bonded instantly-we got along great! But the other one....grrr....she was just out there. When she was unpacking her stuff, she called her dad to tell him that he was an idiot b/c he packed her towels wrong and now they were all wrinkled (god forbid -cuz you know, wen you use them, they won't wrinkle anyways...). She would call her parents and yell at them that they were stupid, idiots, etc...Then-she would start studying around midnight -when my other roomie and I were trying to sleep-and would get mad when we asked her to study in the lounge down the hall-and not in the room with the light on and her radio on. She just didn't get it. We wound up kicking her out.