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Originally Posted by Yenffag
Hey guys.
I really need some advice here. So basically I received a bid from my #1 sorority three weeks ago. I go to a school where Greek life isn't everything but it isn't unpopular either. I am a sophomore here and I decided to rush basically because my friends wanted me to. Anyway, now I am a new member and everyone has been super nice and fun and whatnot, but I have absolutely no time for anything. I commute to campus and work 35 hours a week. Attending meetings is extremely hard and my grades are slipping drastically. I wake up miserable on days where I have new member events simply because I know that I will barely have time for anything for the entire day. Everyone keeps trying to get me to stay but I am so stressed out and really struggling to keep my grades up. The rest of my pledge class gives their 100% to the chapter and I go to even less than the mandatory meetings. My pledge mom works with me to try and work around my work schedule but even still I miss almost everything. I know pledging is the busiest time but I'm starting to feel like if I stay i'm going to wind up resenting the sorority and disaffiliating. I can always defer my bid and just accept it with the fall pledge class if I am missing greek life that much next semester. I am so so miserable, please help.  |
You are miserable? That is not what being in a sorority is all about. I cannot imagine trying to work a nearly full time job & pledge as a first semester freshman.
Be really careful to get clear information on whether or not you can really defer & pledge next fall. And you need to be 100% sure that you CAN fufill those obligations, if they hold a spot for you. Don't jerk them around after waiting for you all year.
Your education is your primary job. If your grades are dropping, time to depledge now.
Considering deferring my bid!!! Help!
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