How do you ????????

shani · #1 02-20-2002, 01:37 AM

For the past couple of weeks I have been knee high in school work and I also have a job working at my school. I know that this may not seem like a lot for a person that has bills, kids, etc. I was just wondering how do you all stay so busy but remain level-headed???

strobelitehoney · #2 02-20-2002, 03:14 PM

I don't have Kid(zzzzzzzzzzzzzzza) but I do have a child. To be honest with you I HAVE TO TO HAVE ENERGY TO KEEP GOING. I work full-time and I attend school part-time( I used to go to work and school fulltime)

. My homework sessions take place after my daughter goes to bed which is at 8:30. I study till I get tired, or I feel like I understand the information enough. On the days that I have NO classes, I either catch up on my work, or do extra curricular things, with my daughter. At least two days a week I take time out for myself. (because you do need it) I tutor, twice a week and on the weekend. Time management, and sacrifice(whether it's friends, partying, spending money, stop watching t.v) are the main things that you should keep in mind, Because you will have to Use those tools to get you through. Prayer helps a whole lot. I am big on exercise (because it relieves stress) Somewhere you will need to find time to release your stressor(s), because relaxation doesn't always cut it. Knowing when to say enough is enough is a start. knowing when to say you DESERVE A BREAK IS EVEN BETTER. A good support group helps also. Keeping a level head, comes when you learn to endure your problems, and like I said before a good support group ALWAYS helps

zetafg · #3 02-20-2002, 03:36 PM

Well.....I really don't know how I do it!

I'm a full-time employee.....a full-time student taking 16 credits for the next six sessions.....the Vice President/Treasurer/Secretary of my chapter, older sister to my Brother (senior in HS) & Sisters (both are freshmen in college) full-time Woman to my Man.....and I have not seen "free" time in a minute!

It is difficult, but like stroblitehoney said Prayer helps too. To me there is NO time to loose my head, so I have to stay on top. I'm not perfect, because I do fall down at times.....but I get right back up and do it all over again.

I also have a VERY supportive Man at home who has my back and pushes me when I need to be pushed. I Love Him!

12dn94dst · #4 02-20-2002, 05:20 PM

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Originally posted by strobelitehoney
Time management...sacrifice...Prayer...

That about sums it up. If you can't master these skills in college, you'll have a hard time when the real world hits you in the face.

delph998 · #5 02-20-2002, 05:58 PM

I would have to agree. I think everyone's schedule gets really hectic these days, but TIME MANAGEMENT is very key.

PrettyPetite · #6 02-20-2002, 06:54 PM

Like, everyone says, I think it's just all about time management.

I am a full time teacher, I just moved, I'm taking courses, caring for my goddaughter (she's 2) while her mom is away, among other things.

It's just all about knowing what should take precedence and what shouldn't at the time. It's also about asking the Lord for guidance when you need it. Also important is taking proper care of yourself (sufficient rest, diet, exercise, etc) because if you aren't in physical shape, all this stress will kick your backside.

novella000 · #7 02-20-2002, 10:16 PM

i remember that i could be homeless or something worse... and enjoy the fact that i am SO BUSY...

taking time-outs...
cussing out loud in the baffroom...
being obnoxiously nice to people who don't deserve it...
coronas...limes... salt...
music videos...
taking my son to the barber shop (it's pretty fun up there)...
going to the half-price book store, or the fabric store...

RRMDQT · #8 02-21-2002, 12:12 AM

I'm currently taking 18 hours, working 20 plus hours a week at a department store, volunteering every Saturday and one other day a week with a Community Service program that I started and am the coordinator for, I'm VP of one of my honor societies, I'm in a modeling troupe that practices 3 days a week, and involved with other numerous activities, trust me I get so stressed sometimes. But two pieces of advice I have are to 1.) Take shorts naps during the day, that way you won't get sleepy early so you'll be able to stay up later to finish up school work and the second I got from one of my professors 2.) When you eat don't eat too much, because you know how we are, if we eat too much we get sleepy. I usually only eat one meal a day with snacks for lunch. I've done research and there's nothing wrong with skipping lunch, it's healthy, so just have a nice size dinner and get to work. I also take time out to read fashion magazines when I need a break from reality. I get motivated when I see something that I want and I know I'll have to work hard to get it.

mccoyred · #9 02-21-2002, 10:58 AM

Another key factor is SCHEDULING (really included in time managment). Get a planner or a PDA and schedule everything, meals, study time, housework, couple time, etc. This tool will not allow you to overschedule and free your mind from remembering details to concentrate on your tasks.

You must also PRIORITIZE. What is more important, cleaning the toilet every week or volunteering at a shelter once a week? running an errand for your cousin or taking a bubble bath for some down time? Those things that are important to you, make them a priority, those things that aren't, say NO or find an alternative (don't do it, find someone else to do it, modify the requirements, etc)

Unfortunately, these are learned behaviors so you must practice them so the behavior will flow unconciously. Hope this helps.