A Sad Alpha Gam

LeslieAGD · #1 04-07-2002, 10:37 PM

It was my last meeting as I was granted my alumnae status tonight. I haven't felt this empty since I lost Chris...I know I haven't lost my sisters and I look forward to being an active alum, but I'm just really sad right now. I was totally fine until I got up to give my last address to the chapter...I just lost it in the middle and started bawling.

Ironically, when I got in my car to drive home, the song that was on the radio was Mary J. Blige's "No More Drama." I kinda laughed at that...

So, any advice for a new alum?

#2 04-07-2002, 10:48 PM

Leslie, I've only been an alum since last December, and I admit, it is kinda hard at first.

The first few weeks of the new semester was especially difficult because I knew Tuesday nights were Chapter meetings. It was weird at 7:00, being at home and knowing that they're holding chapter!

So my suggestion is this--try and have lunch with the sisters whenever you can so you can kinda get an idea of what's going on. Email the sisters with what's going on with your life every so often just so they know you're okay and they know what you're up to. You're going to feel out of the loop for a while, but you'll eventually get used to it...especially when you do become an active alum!

When you start doing 'alum stuff'...you're going to have the time of your life. It's a new beginning and at first I was scared and intimidated, but your alums are there to welcome you with open arms. Hopefully you'll feel the way I do...and pledge to support the undergraduate chapter and your new alum chapter as much as you can.

Good luck to you Leslie, and if you ever need help, my door's always open!

LiEP,
Sandy

AlphaGam1019 · #3 04-07-2002, 11:07 PM

Nothing wrong with going alum!!

Besides the lovely notes I get for not updating the chapter webpage and at the same time getting no offers for updated info, it's been fun! lol

I love my chapter sisters.

I'm so glad to be alum.

lol.

#4 04-07-2002, 11:12 PM

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Originally posted by AlphaGam1019
Nothing wrong with going alum!!

Besides the lovely notes I get for not updating the chapter webpage and at the same time getting no offers for updated info, it's been fun! lol I love my chapter sisters.

I'm so glad to be alum.

lol.

Heeheeheeheeheehee.

squirrely girl · #5 04-08-2002, 12:07 AM

ehhhhh...for quite awhile and still a little bit now, it really bummed me out 'bout having to go alum after transfering. but, a couple of things that helped were visiting, still doing the webpage, and our chapter has a listproc which we use to e-mail the whole chapter. my e-mail is still on there so i know what's going on. our listproc is through the school. maybe you guys could do that.

marissa

canadajen · #6 04-08-2002, 12:10 AM

A door never closes without another one opening ...

Leslie, I am sorry that you are really sad

From my perspective, going alum is a period of re-adjustment & redefining your AGD experience. Please know that it really is true that that the circle of our sisterhood never ends, regardless of whether or not you are a collegian or an alumna. Active or not, you are still part of your chapter, it is just that your role is changing - once your sisters, always your sisters. I know that these are all cliches, but they really are true. To be honest, I still get to see my old friends, and now I don't have to sit through a meeting every week either !

As Sandy has said, the first few weeks of the new term will be different to say the least, knowing that they're holding chapter and you are not there. BUT, just wait until you become involved as an active alum! College is only for a few years, but alumna status lasts a lifetime, and the fun is only just starting - ya ain't seen nothing yet, just you wait! ...

I know how much AGD means to you and how much you have put into it ... now is the time to sit back and do all the fun stuff - just think, you can choose what you want to do & what you don't - best of all, no pressure & no fines!!

My advice? call up one (or more) of your sisters & go out & have fun ... as I've already said, once your sisters, always your sisters. Have a blast - you deserve it!!

Leslie - if I haven't already told you this, I am very proud to call you my sister and my friend

LiEP,
Jen

hawaiiagd · #7 04-08-2002, 05:24 AM

Please don't be sad Leslie.... It is great to be an alum!!!!!!

Trust us! You are going to love it

And we're here for you until you do...

LeslieAGD · #8 04-08-2002, 09:03 AM

Thanks ladies...all your amazing words and a little bit of sleep helped a lot. I'm still sad, but I'm not bummed like I was last night. When I was having issues with my chapter, I was sooo ready to go alum...but last night it just hit me like a ton of bricks!

If I haven't mentioned this, I'm living at Alpha Beta in the fall...so I will still be surrounded by collegians, which I think will help a lot. I'll also be managing our chapter's webpage (if we ever get it online).

JenAGD · #9 04-08-2002, 11:28 AM

Leslie,

I'm very sorry that you are sad about going alum. Do you still have close friends in the chapter? If so, just hold on to them very tight. It's really no different when you keep hold of your very close friendships. You still get all the gossip and goings-ons, without any of the responsibility and fines!

I personally cannot wait to go alum (in only 2 weeks now...woohoo!!). Most of my best friends went alum last year and left only 3 of us remaining. I have honestly never been so depressed in my life so trust me, I know how you feel. I think we were all on the verge of full fledged depression. After a while, though, we realized that nothing had really changed. My newly alum friends were so active, they came to everything with us and we hung out as much, if not more, than we ever did.

I know it sucks at first, but once you get over the initial shellshock of such a big change, it is so much better. If you ever need anything, you know I'm here for you.

Loyally,
Jen

AGDPrincess70 · #10 04-08-2002, 02:12 PM

Leslie,

You're turning me into Melissa Brown, I swear! lol You made me cry, dammit!

Well sweetie, it's been such an amazing year. I am so lucky to have you as my sister and my friend, and I am going to miss you so much next year, even though you'll be 15 minutes away and I'm in Ann Arbor all the damn time as it is.

Like you said, we need to have lots of movie nights with taco bell after we flirt with the not so cute guys to get free food! (wow that was not grammatically correct in the least) Maybe you can go on a screaming rant in the middle of Blockbuster again, too! LOL

But anyways, I love you soooooooo much!! And we WILL do lunch this week!

LIEP,
Holly

AGDLynn · #11 04-08-2002, 06:12 PM

Leslie, on the bright side, you don't get fined if you don't go to events!

I've enjoyed working with the collegiates and alums and I know you will too!

Bunches of roses to you!

LIEP,
Lynn

Lisa Fishman · #12 04-08-2002, 09:48 PM

Leslie, Best wishes on becoming an alum. While I had problems at my school and chapter, I missed being a part of my chapter. What I did and recomend is getting involved in an alumnae chapter/ club or Jr. Circle. It does help. I have also met many of the girls from the chapter where I live now (Univ. of Ala. at Birmingham, Jen's chapter). Though it may be difficult because you are in the working world, AGD can still be a part of your life. Keep in touch with a local chapter, go to their rush events, IRD etc...... You can still have a good time and enjoy more AGD times!!!! LiEP, Lisa

Katey Alpha Gam · #13 04-08-2002, 09:56 PM

I know you are sad sweetie and I am sad to see you go. I'm so sorry that I missed your alumnae letter. It's so weird that we are at the point when we can go alum now. I'll never forget the first day you and I hung out, the day after bid day, when we had lunch and found our original common bonds of being from Troy (THS will always be better!

) and our love of the movie Shag, to our even stronger bonds now of being sisters and friends and going through a lot of really hard stuff, esp in the last year and going through it together. As I have told you a thousand times, you amaze me and I am so proud to have you as a pledge class sister and as my partner in crime sitting next to me in meeting, letting me borrow your pens all the time!!! I am going to miss that more than you'll know!! But, as has been said before, this is just a different chapter in your AGD life, heck you are going to live with a new chapter, something that I am sure VERY few ppl have done. You love AGD so much, yesterday wasn't the end. AGD is the beginning that never ends ya know!! Hopefully I'll be an Alumnae with you by the end of the summer and we can laugh and cry together. Of course we won't be there at EVERY event to tell the younger girls the way it was "when we were new to the chapter", but I have a feeling they are about done hearing the old ppl talking about "good ol times" of their sophmore year!
Remember hun, just b/c you are an alumnae, doesnt mean you aren't my sister and one of my favorites at that! You will always be in my heart and remember that I will be there for you FOREVER!!
I love you to Pieces!!!
LIEP
-Katey

#14 04-08-2002, 11:51 PM

I think Katey's post sums up why I'm so happy to be an Alpha Gam.

Seriously Katey, that's was beautiful!!!