DHGirl,
I an alumni from a local sorority and we have a saying "Once a Kappa, Always a Kappa!" Just because you're an alumni doesn't mean that your experiences with your sorority have to end. I graduated in 2000 and still go to KRX's functions, smokers, the night the pledges, cross, etc, as do some of my fellow alumni.
But I do understand your concern about alumni being all over the country. Our sorority, Kappa Gamma Chi, is at Emerson College in Boston, MA. We have alumni (like myself) that are right in the city, but also have girls in NY, WA, CA, and lots of other places. The key is staying connected.
Is there an active in your sorority that is an "alumni chairman" If not, you might want to have a position like that created. Have them collect a database of the alumni and once or twice a semester, have a news letter sent out to the alumni to let them know what is going on with the sorority. Encourage them to write to the sorority, so they can put alumni updates in the news letter.
Also, for the girls that are close by, have an alumni lunch, or if you have a big anniversary coming up, try to plan an event... if your college hosts an "alumni weekend," see if you could have an event planned at the same time, so you can get alumni from your sorority to check out the school and your sorority! Kappa Gamma Chi turned 100 years-old in Janurary, and I know the actives are working with the alumni department to have a lunch party during alumni weekend for us. I am SO excited for it.
Anyway, I know I have rambled on! But I hope this helps. If you want to chat, feel free to email me at
Vixenradio@aol.com, or if you have AOL IM, IM me under the same screen name. GOOD LUCK