Getting cut from formal then going COB

[kimmykimmy]

You ladies are WAY more secure and gutsy than me. I could NEVER have gone to a COB party to a house that cut me. Possibly I could to a house that I cut but I would have cut them for a good reason so I probably wouldn't have done that.

My ego would be way too hurt to go to a sorority whose members cut me. Even now knowing about the voting system and how hard it is to let someone go etc etc etc.

[Aphigal]

If someone is released after open house it is not like the sorority really "knew" that perspective member all that well. Maybe she was shy or didn't feel well or maybe the potential member reminded the sister rushing her of the girl who just slept with the sister's boyfriend. There is 1001 reasons why someone is released and many are not a clear indication that potential member will never be in XYZ.

During COB, potential members and the chapters get a different view of each other.

I would encourage everyone who is released or drops out of formal recruitment processes for whatever reasons to pursue COB. It is there to be an alternative form of recruitment because just like one chapter does not fit all, one form of recruitment does not suit every potential member!

[SATX*APhi]

Originally posted by Aphigal
I would encourage everyone who is released or drops out of formal recruitment processes for whatever reasons to pursue COB. It is there to be an alternative form of recruitment because just like one chapter does not fit all, one form of recruitment does not suit every potential member!

Well said APhigal!! I agree!

[Peaches-n-Cream]

I think that it is good to go to COB after formal rush even after being cut because it shows the sorority that you are interested. One of my friends went through formal rush and was rejected while all of the girls on her floor got bids. There was no COB so a year later she went through formal rush again and got a bid from the sorority that all of her friends had pledged a year earlier. It was definitely worth all the effort. Good luck!

[PhiMuNursie]

While I agree it takes guts to go back to a chapter that cut you, I also agree that there are reasons that you may have gotten cut that aren't very valid. While I wouldn't want a sister in my chapter that another sister had an intial problem with, i.e. just slept with sister's boyfriend, I know from experience that at larger schools it is easy for there to be a glitch and a regret happen that wasn't fully deserved.

So I say do COB and find out what happens. If you're truly not meant to be there and it was more than a glitch, you'll find out soon enough.

Panhellenically,
Tara

---to practice day by day
love, honor, truth---

[bruinaphi]

I feel very strongly that women who get cut in formal rush should go through COB if they are really interested in going greek. On large campuses the top and middle rushing chapters have to make HUGE cuts after the first round of rush. They often have to release women who they like to keep women who they like "more" in that first round. If both of the women came back to the second round, they may have reversed their decision. COB is a great forum to get to know people better and to fill the total spots that some chapters might have.

[BrownEyedGirl]

I agree that it may feel awkward to return to a sorority that had previously released you, but in larger rushes it's easy to 'slip through the cracks'. I know of several top quality girls who mismatched or were released, and actives are just as upset as the PNM's, I promise! Sometimes we don't really know who's coming or going, particularly early in rush when the cuts are biggest. It's hard not to take things personally, I know, but if you're set on going Greek COB is the way to go if you don't get a bid during formal rush!

[MoxieGrrl]

I'm a big believer in that if these girls wanted me as bad as I wanted them, they wouldn't have cut me during formal recruitment. I would simply give a group (that maybe I didn't want as much) a chance because they saw something in me that the others didn't.

I just have a bad attitude toward the whole "I didn't get to go where I wanted, so I just try, try again!" thing. There are sooo many girls on my campus that wait 2, even 3 years waiting to get into the group they want.

But a lot of girls DO end up happy this way! I was a transfer open bid, so I don't think there is anything wrong with getting a bid like that! It gave me the chance to slip in and know the ropes before formal recruitment began. Plus, it would have been uncomfortable for me to go through rush with all the freshman at that time. Being older does have its advantages!

[deltajas]

Hey there
I just wanted to say you should COB. Believe me there have been girls that I ABSOLUTELY love and want, who did not get voted back! And for the most part, sisters are like well if she rushes again, or if we got to know her better, etc. Especially in formal rush, we only get 20 min for each party on day one, so they are like split second decisions. I say you should go for it. And if a chapter invites you back for COB, you have a good chance of getting a bid(here anyway) good luck

[AchtungBaby80]

I'm a fan of COB, too. I joined during formal rush, but some of the best girls I know joined my chapter during COB last year. Just because a girl gets cut doesn't automatically put her on our "bad" list...this sounds really bad, but I know that I most likely wouldn't even remember someone who got cut in the first or second day. That can be to your advantage, though, if you're doing COB because you can sort of start with a clean slate. I like COB because it isn't as stressful and you have more time to get to know someone a little instead of limiting your conversation to "So, what is your major?"

[dzsaigirl]

I think the best case scenario for someone who got cut and is going through COB is that they got cut for grade reasons during formal rush and they have pulled up their GPA. That seems to be the least problematic. These people are more likely to be considered since they probably would have gotten a bid anyhow had their grades been good enough. I know that my sorority cuts all the bad grades on the first cut. Which makes me wonder if maybe roxy's grades weren't so good??? If that's the case, she should definitely try informal rush.

[shadokat]

If you go through formal rush and get cut from everyone, but you really want to go greek, try COB. As others have stated, formal rush has many glitches and cracks for women to fall though, and some people just don't come across well under that pressure. COB, being much more relaxed, is sometimes a better venue for people to put their best foot forward.

[mtu_ada]

GO LOCAL!!!!!!

[fire1977]

If you go to a large school I would say definitely do it. I know someone has said it already, but I can't count the number of times we cut someone because we just couldn't remember them. This happened frequently when people had the same name! I suggest this. Now don't go crazy, but the girls I remember most either a) had something in common with me b) had an unusual conversation, or c) were wearing something distinctive like their nail polish color.

I know the most frequent reason we cut someone is because they were looking around and not paying attention. The worst thing you can do is look at your watch both as a rushee and as a sister. If they are doing a skit or a song, or a pref ritual make eye contact and look interested. Would you want to hang out with someone who looked bored during your ritual? Just some thoughts...... Good luck to everyone during spring recruitment!

[dzsaigirl]

Speaking of checking the time, I know my sorority doesn't even let us wear watches during rush. I would actually recommend that rushees don't either since the temptation to look is strong!