Spirit Week

[UKCATFAN]

Can the "girls in charge" actually tell a sister that she has to miss work at her real job to work/prepare for spirit week? I'm just talking 3 hours a day on weekdays, not totally missing spirit week. It's a choice of getting fired or getting fined more than she makes... is this "legal"?

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Yes, but you may have more luck speaking with an alumna adviser.

[Titchou]

Depends on what your rules say. Have you looked it up?

[33girl]

How long have you known about spirit week and had time to tell your workplace you wouldn't be available?

[littlesquirrel]

So many questions, but you need to--as previous GC ladies have said--check your bylaws and double check with your advisors. Furthermore, are you asking this young lady to miss days at a position that relates to her academics? Or a shift at a random summer job? Context is important here.

[UKCATFAN]

I'm actually asking for my daughter, not myself. She recently got the job, and, yes, it is a "foot in the door" position that will greatly benefit her after graduating. I wouldn't be worried about a random summer job. But, I'm sure there are girls who depend on the income from their jobs also. Thanks for the help.

[Titchou]

Then she knew when she got the job and should have explained the situation to the employer just as, I am sure, she explained her school/class schedule, etc. This should be considered the same as it's an obligation she already had.

[UKCATFAN]

Ok, thanks. I understand, but unfortunately most employers want you when they need you, not just when you can work. She has finally gotten it worked out. Thanks for all of the advice!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by UKCATFAN

unfortunately most employers want you when they need you, not just when you can work.

Um no. That's a really good way to ruin your physical mental and emotional health. You need to establish a work / life balance.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by UKCATFAN

Ok, thanks. I understand, but unfortunately most employers want you when they need you, not just when you can work. She has finally gotten it worked out. Thanks for all of the advice!

Typically, those interested in hiring college students understand these things. Being up front with the employer and trying to work out a mutually acceptable result in a mature manner will put her in good stead with the employer. This is a life skill she should be learning. Later on she may have to take care of her elderly mother and it would be good training for negotiating that with her then employer....just saying.

[LAblondeGPhi]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Um no. That's a really good way to ruin your physical mental and emotional health. You need to establish a work / life balance.

Originally Posted by Titchou

Typically, those interested in hiring college students understand these things. Being up front with the employer and trying to work out a mutually acceptable result in a mature manner will put her in good stead with the employer. This is a life skill she should be learning. Later on she may have to take care of her elderly mother and it would be good training for negotiating that with her then employer....just saying.

YES!

UKCATFAN - this is in no way meant to belabor what your daughter could have/should have done, but I do want to emphasize how important it is to learn how to appropriately, and in a timely fashion, provide boundaries for the various obligations in our lives. I think a lot of this comes with maturity and practice, though.