Co-Workers!!!

[DGPhoney]

Co workers, my co workers are not only my friends, but they are co workers too. Since everyone who works with me is in college, graduate school or really what I am trying to say is near the same age. Natural being the work place people are bound to "talk" about everything and anything! My question that I posed to you all is. Would you date a co-worker? Or Does it not really matter?
What do you all think????
DGPhoney~
Oh duh, here 's my answer:
I think it really depends on the job and what the technicalities of the job are. Like in our handbook at my job it says nothing about dating other employee's. but etique I am sure says that its inappropriate. But then again people date people within the work place all the time(at least in the movies)

[justamom]

If the place is really big and no policy exists...why not?
If it's rather small and you literally see each other frequently, I'd say don't bother. It rarely turns out good. One of my roommates dated another employee in a bank. It became very uncomfortable
when they had to deal with each other on the business level AFTER the personal level went sour. The gossip would be another factor to consider because people will speculate.
AN EXCEPTION-If this is just a stepping stone job, you don't care if you are let go OR, it's a summer job at the local car wash GO FOR IT!

[aggieAXO]

I have been pondering this for a few weeks, as there is another Dr. hat works at my clinic who just started in August and is a cutty. We share some of the same ideals, though he is a vegan and I am not. I have dated 2 other people at my clinic and after one of the break-ups it was very uncomfortable (mainly b/c the guy I dated was very very immature even though he was 8 years old than me and he couldn't handle the fact that I broke up with him and would not take him back), the other break-up went well and to this day I am still good friends with this guy.

I know this new Dr. is interested in me as he has told a co-worker but is reluctant to ask me out b/c we work together. This is sad in my opinion as life is too short to worry about the little things plus we are two mature adults and if we broke up I think we both could handle it

[SilverTurtle]

Well, I met my boyfriend (of 4 years, now) at a job. Although, as justamom mentioned, it was just a summer job for me.

Now I work in a small place, less than 30 coworkers. We joke about how we are the "horny" store (out of the entire local chain), because people are always hooking up with and/or dating other coworkers. We have even had coworkers leave our store because they were dating managers.

I get to see all of them tonight at our XMas party, though.

I have to say, it totally depends on the people you work with. I adore all of my coworkers, and we all party together & stuff quite a bit. (Very unnatural, really ). Some people are more mature than others. The gossip is a factor, but not very much so. Most of our gossip is company-related, not person-related.

Back to the XMas party... our manager asked us all to write down 1 or 2 things about us that noone knows (like "I have a 3-legged dog"- just weird stuff) for this game we'll be playing. Someone mentioned something I didn't catch, and then she (the manager) said, "No, you can't put 'I slept with a coworker'. That would be everyone in the store!". So, as you can see, we're all pretty good natured about it

[valkyrie]

OMG!!! A cute, vegan veterinarian??? Girl, you better go out with him!! Heck, if I weren't married, I'd want to go out with him! He sounds awesome!

Originally posted by aggieAXO
I have been pondering this for a few weeks, as there is another Dr. hat works at my clinic who just started in August and is a cutty. We share some of the same ideals, though he is a vegan and I am not. I have dated 2 other people at my clinic and after one of the break-ups it was very uncomfortable (mainly b/c the guy I dated was very very immature even though he was 8 years old than me and he couldn't handle the fact that I broke up with him and would not take him back), the other break-up went well and to this day I am still good friends with this guy.

I know this new Dr. is interested in me as he has told a co-worker but is reluctant to ask me out b/c we work together. This is sad in my opinion as life is too short to worry about the little things plus we are two mature adults and if we broke up I think we both could handle it

[lionlove]

Well, I can see where there would be problems with interoffice dating but my parents met as co-workers and 30 years later are still working together and still married!

[Hootie]

My best friend and her man met through work and about to get engaged. Funny enough, they worked for about 3 years before they actually started talking. They hooked up, she went away to school, came back after a year, and they've been together now for 2 1/2 years. He still works there but she quit about a 1 1/2 ago!
So I suppose it could work...but you'd better be careful and maybe 1 of the 2 should get a new job!!!!

Hootie

[aggieAXO]

Originally posted by valkyrie
OMG!!! A cute, vegan veterinarian??? Girl, you better go out with him!! Heck, if I weren't married, I'd want to go out with him! He sounds awesome!

About 1/2 the staff is trying to set us up-we will see I wish I could be a vegan but I like milk, cheese and eggs (free range of course) too much. I felt bad onetime b/c I had made some gaucamole dip (I make awesome guac. dip) and he had some, but I forgot to tell him there was mayo in it-opps. Thank goodness he wasn't mad. He is a very laid back guy (BTW it is cutie not cutty-sometimes I wonder about myself at 3 AM, the things that I type make no sense at times.) We love to eat carrots together .

[valkyrie]

AggieAXO, we ARE twins. I also wish that I could be a vegan, but my main problem is cheese. Someday...until then, I am a humble lacto-ovo vegetarian.

I feel bad for being off topic, so here's a story. I just had a dream about a former co-worker, and in it he was about to get married, but we met for lunch and the bartender at the restaurant was telling me that he could tell that the former co-worker was in love with me. It was very strange.

[DGPhoney]

Ok, maybe I should tell you all the rest of the Co-worker story,lol. I work in this Kid Powered Museum, where the entire staff is all female with the exception of one Guy (or really one single guy and the other 3 are either married or other commitments). Being the only guy there, all the chicks sweat him very hard. Well, thats not my style. So anyway, all the other females at my job pretty much throw themselves on the poor boy(yes throw themselves).
So anyways, he likes me, and we hang out all the time. Although we work together it's not un comfortable because we are never scheduled in the same areas at the same time. So it's not like we are in each others faces all day kinda thing.
Over the weekend , he told me he liked me , and yada yada, so my thing is, as soon as people find out at work, they will be kinda mad, cause a lot of females we sweating him and really, I am not sure if I am up to dodging daggers ya know. Also by it not being in our employee handbook, I don't see a problem, but then again it could be although it's not stated.
So do you all see my dilema? Seems like I am always getting into trouble,lol
DGPhoney~

[aggieAXO]

DGPhoney-just keep it quiet if ya'll start dating. If I go out with this Dr. I am not telling anyone (except my best friend that works with me-she will not say anything). If my boss and the manager found out they would not be too thrilled-but who cares, like I said life is too short. If you like him GO FOR IT!!!!! Stop stressing over the what ifs and handle them as they come or if they come. Those ladies need to get over it b/c he likes you-end of story.

[Eirene_DGP]

Well soror, when my bf and I first started dating 18months ago, we both worked at the same place although I was in a different department. The only thing that made it kind of stressful was the fact that everyone was always in our business. Some of the jealous girls there would try and cause drama in our relationship. If I had it to do all over again, I would definately think twice about it.

My advice to you, if you guys are just casually dating, don't tell the people at work. Keep that on the DL. If it becomes something serious you both have to be on point when it comes to the relationship or you will ALWAYS have problems.

[dzrose93]

My boyfriend and I work together. We're in a medium-sized company - about 75 people in this office. However, we're in different departments and our offices are on the opposite sides of the building, so we rarely see each other at work. In fact, we started dating only after we both started playing on the same co-ed softball team. Until then, we'd only said "hi" to each other occasionally in the hallway!

When we first started seeing each other, we kept it quiet. I think about 2 1/2 months went by before word got out that we were an item. So far, the office gossip is not too bad. It seems that everyone thinks we're "cute" together and that our relationship is great.

However, there are a couple of women in the office that had a thing for my bf and made a few rather suggestive comments about him to me before anyone realized that we were dating. I think they were both pretty embarrassed when they found out that they'd been inadverently telling a guy's girlfriend how much they'd like to sleep with her man!

At any rate, we've been together almost 7 months and everything is working out so far. The fact that we work together isn't even an issue.

[amycat412]

I met my, er, I don't know what to call him==the XOs here know him as Mr. Big -- at work 7 years ago. He still works there, I don't. And who the h$*& knows what's going to happen there, its too complicated to go into. But there was no problem when we worked together, as we were both very junior level at the time and the company was big enough that we didn't have to run into one another all the time.