What do Parents think of the New Boy?

James · #1 10-06-2002, 07:22 PM

I always wondered, what do parents think when a girl brings a boy friend home? Or I guess whena boy brings a girl home?

I mean are they thinking:

1. Damn, this is the guy boinking my little girl, going down on her, tossing her salad etc?

2. Is this new person the one he/she will marry?

3. Is there a difference between what the father thinks and the mother thinks?

4. Is there a difference between how they think about a daughter or a son?

Inquiring Minds want to know!

KillarneyRose · #2 10-06-2002, 10:28 PM

Funny you should mention that, James! This is from "8 Simple Rules for Dating my Teenage Daughter", by W. Bruce Cameron...

1. If you pull into my driveway and honk, you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure as heck not picking anything up.

2. Do not touch my daughter in front of me. You can look at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck.

3. You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to assure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric staple gun and fasten your trousers securely in place around your waist.

4. I'm sure you've been told that in today's world, sex without utilizing a "barrier method" of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate: when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.

5. You may feel that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is "early".

6. Once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.

7. As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, please do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movies, you should not be dating. Instead of just standing there, why don't you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?

8. The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool; places lacking parents, policemen, or nuns; places where there is darkness; places where there is dancing, holding hands or happiness; places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff t shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater and a down parka zipped up to her chin.

Haha, this guy sounds pretty liberal compared to MY dad!

DeltAlum · #3 10-06-2002, 10:42 PM

I think the author of the above is brilliant!

The real answer, though, depends on the two "kids."

Optimist Prime · #4 10-06-2002, 11:58 PM

Who are you going home with James?

aephi alum · #5 10-07-2002, 10:10 AM

lol KillarneyRose... that sounds exactly like my father, especially #4. I don't think he approved of anyone I brought home, including my husband. Too bad for him that I'm an adult and he doesn't get to run my life!

There is a definite difference for a son vs. a daughter bringing someone home. When my husband and I moved in together (we were engaged) his mother told him, straight out, in front of me, "If you were a girl moving in with your boyfriend, I would forbid you to do it, but since you're a man moving in with your girlfriend, it's fine by me."

James · #6 10-07-2002, 10:41 AM

Damn girl, what a subtle insult . . . its ok for him because he is a boy . . .

But that makes you a slut and worse a whore . . . because you are getting "compensated" through shared expenses.

I hope you asked her why and put her on the spot a bit?

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Originally posted by aephi alum
lol KillarneyRose... that sounds exactly like my father, especially #4. I don't think he approved of anyone I brought home, including my husband. Too bad for him that I'm an adult and he doesn't get to run my life!

There is a definite difference for a son vs. a daughter bringing someone home. When my husband and I moved in together (we were engaged) his mother told him, straight out, in front of me, "If you were a girl moving in with your boyfriend, I would forbid you to do it, but since you're a man moving in with your girlfriend, it's fine by me."

WannaBeGreek101 · #7 10-07-2002, 10:49 AM

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Originally posted by James

But that makes you a slut and worse a whore . . . because you are getting "compensated" through shared expenses.

Well, telling someone they are a slut and worse a whore means youre an a** in my book!

aephi alum · #8 10-07-2002, 11:14 AM

The first question out of my mouth was indeed "Why??" She said it was because she would feel more protective of a daughter and more inclined to try to keep her innocent.

She has a very Victorian outlook in some ways (I think that's the right time period) - men are supposed to be men of the world, experienced, etc, and women are supposed to be innocent and chaste.

For the record, we were engaged long before we moved in together. I'm no slut.

sororitygirl2 · #9 10-07-2002, 11:43 AM

This double standard totally applies for girls and boys! So many of my guy friends have girlfriends stay the night (even in high school, in their PARENTS' house!) and their parents don't bat eyelash at it. But for me, my sorority sisters and girl friends, our parents NEVER allow that. My boyfriends have always stayed in the guest room if they were at my parents' house...

I don't know what my parents think when new they meet a new boy of mine, but they are so conservative that I am sure they never even imagine that I would be doing anything naughty with him (maybe they know and are in denial). I think they do think more long-term, as in "maybe she will marry this one."

KillarneyRose · #10 10-07-2002, 02:34 PM

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Originally posted by sororitygirl2
This double standard totally applies for girls and boys! So many of my guy friends have girlfriends stay the night (even in high school, in their PARENTS' house!) and their parents don't bat eyelash at it.

The girls that spend the night at their boyfriends' house - do their parents know they're doing that or do they say they're spending the night with a girlfriend?

lifesaver · #11 10-07-2002, 03:19 PM

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Originally posted by sororitygirl2
This double standard totally applies for girls and boys! So many of my guy friends have girlfriends stay the night (even in high school, in their PARENTS' house!) and their parents don't bat eyelash at it. But for me, my sorority sisters and girl friends, our parents NEVER allow that. My boyfriends have always stayed in the guest room if they were at my parents' house...

I so got away with so much because I am a boy. My parents would always tell me too, "well youre a boy, so its ok." USED to piss my sisters off something terreble. So unfair to them. Oh well.

sororitygirl2 · #12 10-07-2002, 03:23 PM

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Originally posted by KillarneyRose:
The girls that spend the night at their boyfriends' house - do their parents know they're doing that or do they say they're spending the night with a girlfriend?

EXACTLY! They always said they were at my house... the little brats! Parents, never trust your sweet, "innocent" daughters!

Cluey · #13 10-07-2002, 04:21 PM

That was hilarious, KillarneyRose. That's totally my family.

Random dating nightmare...

My parents had to meet everyone before I could go anywhere with them. My date and I are sitting on the sofa, doing the uncomfortable "chit-chat" thing, talking about where we're going and all. The doorbell rings. It's my grandfather; he is the only man who was more protective of me than my own father.

Everything is going pretty well, but we're running a little late. I am trying to get out the door when my grandfather grabs his arm and says, "I have a pearl studded shotgun and a shovel. I doubt anyone would miss you." Um, yeah, that was difficult to explain once we got in the car.

RubberSoul · #14 10-07-2002, 10:37 PM

God help the first boy that every gets up the balls to ask my daughter out. Everyone tells us we're in trouble because she's so beautiful, but these boys will already know Daddy from school, and I just can't imagine any of them having the cojones to actually ask. Brent says that he will be cleaning his shotguns the first time one comes over.

I thought I had my dad really duped. I mean, I thought I had that virginity smokescreen just inpenetrably thick. Never mind that I had dated one particular guy for over 4 years (oh really dad, all we've done is kiss!!!!!!!!!!) I actually got engaged thinking that my dad thought I was still a virgin. Anyway, funny story....Brent and I had agreed not to live together before we got married because we didn't want to "spoil" the fun and novelty. So we were pretty careful not to spend the night together too often. But we had arranged to do so the nights of our bachelor and bachelorette parties, because he had already moved into our apartment and we both knew we'd feel better knowing where each other ended up those nights!!!!!!!! So anyway, my dad was at Brent's party and saw firsthand how destroyed he got. So he told Brent he was going to call him and wake him up in the morning. Well, sure enough, next morning the phone rings at like 6:45........Brent answers and it is my dad, all chipper. So they chat for a minute and then I see Brent's expression change and he hands the phone to me.......apparently Bob, not having just rolled off the boat yesterday, said to Brent "Hey, why don't you roll over and nudge my daughter awake, I want to talk to her." I wanted to die. Dad was cool about it, like it was perfectly normal for me to be there, he just wanted to rib me a little. I couldn't believe it. So much for my illusion!!!!!!!!!!

Optimist Prime · #15 10-07-2002, 11:02 PM

Hate to break any illusions but it will be a complete surprise. You will be home and it will be some kid on his bike riding it with your daughter. You will just sit there and cry. I want a Colt.45

But not will ever have guns if I have kids!!!!!!!!!