Being Used

[RaHel]

Hey Ladies, I wanted the honest opinion of some older & younger, educated women on this issue. How do you know when a man is using you? I have a friend that thinks that she is in a healthy relationship, but sometimes has thoughts about being used by this man. I tend to think that he is sometimes also because of the things that happen in their relationship. Generalize your thoughts, as I wouldn't want to disclose the specific issues of the relationship.

[Special1920]

I'll say IF SHE FEELS LIKE SHE'S BEING USED, THEN SHE IS!

[lilZetagirl]

when their is an unhealthy emphasis on "material" things like "hey can i drive your car" (if they are going on a date or something requiring transportation and this is a CONSTANT request).

if his/her mate throws alot of subtle hints for "favors" either financial or in relation to material posession under the guise of "just joking" that may be taken as a hint.

if he/she gets the guilt trip when that material possession is not awarded, or is not awarded as often as the receiver would like.

things of that nature, i don't think it necessarily has to be a blatantly obvious request for money, clothes, gifts etc., but they could be building their way there...like soror said if it FEELS like it, in your gut, then you may be correct...

[Her Dopenezzz]

I agree with you Special1920. If you FEEL that you are being used...Does it really matter if you really aren't? It's all about how you feel that counts.

[littlegirlblue]

Special 1920 summed it up nicely.

But you know how love is blind and we always go against our gutt feeling.