very pissed off right now

#1 09-23-2010, 06:27 PM

I am not sure how to deal with the situation that has come up. I went through fall rush knowing a lot of girls excited because I knew this semester would be it. I attended every event and was super excited. I had to miss a day of rush due to class but according to my school you only have to attend the two other days to be eligible for a bid or invite. I went to pick up my invite and was told I was not eligible of which I KNOW i am. I checked my gpa and attended all the events I was told to. This has happened to at least five other girls I know had the same exact thing happen to them . Sorority Sisters are complaining to the Greek Life Office that this is a mistake But she just won't budge and told me I will have to COB i don't know what to do seeing as this isn't my mistake

KSUViolet06 · #2 09-23-2010, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by mynamegoes

I am not sure how to deal with the situation that has come up. I went through fall rush knowing a lot of girls excited because I knew this semester would be it. I attended every event and was super excited. I had to miss a day of rush due to class but according to my school you only have to attend the two other days to be eligible for a bid or invite. I went to pick up my invite and was told I was not eligible of which I KNOW i am. I checked my gpa and attended all the events I was told to. This has happened to at least five other girls I know had the same exact thing happen to them . Sorority Sisters are complaining to the Greek Life Office that this is a mistake But she just won't budge and told me I will have to COB i don't know what to do seeing as this isn't my mistake

I'm really confused as to what you are asking here.

#3 09-23-2010, 06:34 PM

I was just wondering how a girl who follows every rule to the tee be considered ineligible with no reason Behind it.

FleurGirl · #4 09-23-2010, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by mynamegoes

I am not sure how to deal with the situation that has come up. I went through fall rush knowing a lot of girls excited because I knew this semester would be it. I attended every event and was super excited. I had to miss a day of rush due to class but according to my school you only have to attend the two other days to be eligible for a bid or invite. I went to pick up my invite and was told I was not eligible of which I KNOW i am. I checked my gpa and attended all the events I was told to. This has happened to at least five other girls I know had the same exact thing happen to them . Sorority Sisters are complaining to the Greek Life Office that this is a mistake But she just won't budge and told me I will have to COB i don't know what to do seeing as this isn't my mistake

QFP.
It don't know what happened, but I can tell you this -- unless someone on GC works in the greek life office of your school, they don't know either. I'm sorry things didn't work out.

If you would've gotten a bid if there were no mix-up, then COBing should be a piece of cake, right?

Titchou · #5 09-23-2010, 06:45 PM

How do you know that missing a day is OK? Is that in writing somewhere? And did you let them know you had class and would not be there?

#6 09-23-2010, 06:54 PM

our info sheet for pnm states that you have to attend 8 parties out of 12 and no offense My schoolwork came first I had a class that i could not cut. I always spoke with the director who said I would be fine. I find it ironic that a group such as sorority which promotes good grades, would be ok with me missing class to be at recruitment

Drolefille · #7 09-23-2010, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by mynamegoes

our info sheet for pnm states that you have to attend 8 parties out of 12 and no offense My schoolwork came first I had a class that i could not cut. I always spoke with the director who said I would be fine. I find it ironic that a group such as sorority which promotes good grades, would be ok with me missing class to be at recruitment

You do not know what the sororities thought. You only know that you were deemed "ineligible." The only people who can tell you why is your GREEK LIFE OFFICE.

We don't know, we're not psychics. And neither are you. There's no grand conspiracy theory here to lie to you and then drop you, then tell all the Greeks on the internet.

Or is there.

#8 09-23-2010, 07:09 PM

i dont mean to offend anyone I just am venting. I just felt that to randomly be dubbed ineligible out of no where with no explanation is strange.

AZTheta · #9 09-23-2010, 07:17 PM

OP - are you paying attention to what responses you are being given? We are not meanies and we are trying to provide you with some constructive directions.

Please go speak to the Office of Greek Life. Your explanation will come from there, specific to your situation and your school.

Without knowing your school and seeing all the paperwork that you're referring to, it is difficult (impossible) to be any more specific. And we are going on the limited information/explanation you've offered.

If you are at a school with NPC sororities, you weren't "randomly dubbed ineligible", I can assure you.

ellebud · #10 09-23-2010, 07:48 PM

Ladies:

With all due respect I must disagree. My oldest daughter went through recruitment and gave notice one month prior that she had to miss one night of recruitment due to a class. She confirm with a copy of her schedule (official, not handwritten). It was first round. Her rho chis tried to double book her to a few houses. Only one house agreed and they didn't greet her so she stood in the entry hall.

She was dropped from every house that she wasn't able to see. This was first round so it wasn't like she had a record of meeting several girls and they weren't impressed. Her grades were outstanding and her ecs were as well.

There are rules, written and unwritten. And, as all you know I am a real proponent of Greek life. Being dropped for going to class happens. And, if you go to a very competitive school there isn't the opportunity to COB.

Psi U MC Vito · #11 09-23-2010, 08:10 PM

Yes but what the OP is saying is not that she was released from every chapter, but that she was ineligible to pledge. There is a difference.

/back to lane

AGDee · #12 09-23-2010, 08:13 PM

ellebud, I agree that the scenario you paint is plausible and even likely, especially if a school uses RFM because if you have to cut someone and you have enough women that you DID meet to invite back. I can see collegians choosing not to take a risk and invite someone back who they didn't get to meet. That is different than what this poster seems to be saying.

It honestly sounds to me like the original poster may be confused about what she read because the "attending 8/12" sounds like a second round of parties in which the max number of chapters that could be attended would be 8. I can't imagine any campus saying that it's ok to only attend 8/12 first parties as a standard procedure. I can see them making exceptions due to class, but not actually putting a minimum number in writing. I've never seen a campus that said it was ok to NOT visit every chapter in the first round as a standard rule, even those with minimally structured recruitment.

As for these PNMs being told they are ineligible, I have to wonder if someone said that instead of saying "You were cut by all the chapters" because they just didn't know how to say that the women had no invitations.

All that said, I agree that the only way to clarify exactly what happened is for the original poster to talk to the Greek Life Office again.

ellebud · #13 09-23-2010, 08:22 PM

You could be correct. Heck we could all be right. There are several possible scenarios here: from being dropped by houses because she went to class, to the OP not properly informing Panhel that she was going to class (which could have been to lack of due diligence to ambiguous rules to a very lazy Panhellenic) to the OP not undstanding what was going on.

AZTheta · #14 09-23-2010, 08:27 PM

Yes, ellebud (nodding head in agreement) - as I said earlier, we're going on the limited information the OP provided. We can go crazy speculating when we don't have all the facts.

PeppyGPhiB · #15 09-23-2010, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by mynamegoes

our info sheet for pnm states that you have to attend 8 parties out of 12

I have the terrible feeling that you misunderstood your info sheet, and that your panhellenic did a bad job explaining the way recruitment works. What they probably meant was that you could attend up to 8 sororities out of 12 during that round of recruitment - you would attend all parties. It does not mean that it's optional for you to attend only some of the parties you are invited to, or that you can spread your party count across days - NPC policy is that you attend all parties you are invited to for each round. Some schools will drop you from recruitment if you skip parties, whereas at other schools those sororities whose parties you miss will usually just drop you because they didn't get to know you as well as the other PNMs.