Recommendations...again

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I'm sure these questions have been asked a billion times but I can't seem to wrap my head around it!! Recommendations are still a little hazy to me so I was wondering if someone could clear it up for me.
I will be participating in formal rush in Spring 2011

1) I should aim for about 2 recs per Sorority or is one sufficient? I go to a small school were recs aren't necessary but are encouraged.

2)When should I contact these women to ask for a rec?

3) My initial contact will be by e-mail to ask them and then to set up a meeting. Can someone post a sample letter (I don't want to just say "hey, can you write me a rec" lol)

4) When i meet with these women i should bring with me my resume, a picture of myself to attach (should this be the same picture that I will attach to my registration form?), a stamped and addressed envelope to put the rec in, and a copy of the rec form printed from the National website of the sorority. Is that correct and am I missing anything?

5)Where will i find the address to send the recs to ?Will I find the address to put on the envelopes on the local website of the sorority?

6) I am also confused about this: when these women (hopefully) send the recs to the addresses I write on the envelope, who will get them and will they be read right away? I do not want my rec to be lonely (the first one there by a long time) but I of course do not want it to be the last one there!

Sorry about all the questions!!